Intensive Reading Mom: Every child needs roots and wings. Roots are solid love given by parents, and wings are hope and courage for the future.
Author:Lan Ting (Parents Intensive Reading)
Disney's "Full House" that was just released successfully shaped an extraordinary family, the Maliga family.
They live in a vibrant town, Miracle Valley.
The house they live in is called the Magic House, a small bungalow that can magically move from the floor tiles to the roof.
The Maliga family, starting from their grandmother, possessed magical powers, some could lift weights, some could make flowers bloom, some could heal wounds with food, some had tailwind ears, and some could understand the language of animals.
Except for Mirabe, she was a very ordinary girl, without any magic, but she loved the family deeply.
Although her mother had the magic to heal wounds with food, she always admired Mirabe, believing that she could not do magic, which was her greatest talent.
However, the Magic House was predicted to collapse and the Maliga family would lose their magic. This prophecy made the family members uneasy.
Mirabe learned of this prophecy by chance, and out of deep love for her family, she took on the task of saving the Magic House.
The Magic House is the root of Mirabe. She loves every brick and tile of the Magic House, loves everyone in the Magic House, and loves the Valley of Miracles where the Magic House is located. Without the Magic House, it would be like losing your own life.
The magic that the whole family possesses can make the people of miracle valley happier, and she hopes that this happiness can be continued indefinitely. She hoped that magic would forever protect her family and the Valley of Miracles, and that was her wing.
With her deep love for the Magic House, she embarks on a difficult road to save the Magic House.
In the end, the story ends happily, the magic house is rebuilt, and the family members regain their magic.
American psychologist David Elkett said: "No matter what the circumstances of a person's life, parents need to give their children two things: roots and wings. ”
Mirabe can't do magic, but her roots and wings are stronger than magic, allowing her to miraculously rebuild her family.
A child, only with roots and wings, can soar bravely and not lose his way.
My son is a genius
A while ago, the article "Our Son is a Genius" brushed the screen.
Jin Xiaoyu is a manic-depressive patient.
During his childhood, a friend put a needle in a children's pistol and shot it into his eye, causing him to lose sight in his left eye.
But he did not give up on himself, but comforted his sad parents.
When he was in high school, he suffered from manic depression. He would often be violent, hitting people, smashing things, and suicidal tendencies.
Although he was admitted to college, he was also withdrawn from school because his behavior was not normal.
His parents gave him meticulous companionship, and later Jin Xiaoyu taught himself and got a self-examination diploma from the English Department of Zhejiang University.
In order to support Jin Xiaoyu's study, parents can not take care of the family's economic difficulties, buy books for their children, to meet the psychology of children to learn, although the family is surrounded by disciples, but there are more than 200 books.
At that time, when the family conditions were tight, Jin Xiaoyu's father also risked the computer being smashed and bought him a computer of more than 12,000 yuan to let him learn to translate.
Although he was often ill and could drop things, he never smashed a computer.
His mother also helped him contact a professor at Nanjing University and asked him to start translating, and he began the road of translation.
During his translation, his father bought scanners and printers, was not afraid of hardships, helped him proofread manuscripts, sent manuscripts, etc., and became his assistant.
In ten years, Jin Xiaoyu has translated a total of 22 books, spanning novels, films, music, and philosophy.
Later, his mother suffered from Alzheimer's disease, and Jin Xiaoyu carefully cared for her mother for three years until her mother died.
Jin Xiaoyu has become a translator genius, inseparable from his parents' deep love and cultivation of him. Deep love for the family is the root of Xiaoyu.
His translation skills are his wings.
Tagore said, "The world kisses me with pain, and I will repay it with a song." ”
Jin Xiaoyu is a manic and depressed patient, and the love of his parents gave him roots and wings, making him a genius translator and out of a wonderful life.
Give your child roots and wings
Children have roots and wings, which can make children full of confidence in their own lives, bravely pursue their own lives, and realize the value of life.
Raising children is a lifelong career for parents. As a parent, how do you give your child roots and wings?
First of all, give the child unconditional love, so that the child has enough security.
In that year, the famous scholar Qian Wenzhong took the college entrance examination and the result was the second place in Shanghai. With his excellent results, he can apply for popular majors such as the Department of Economics and the Department of Foreign Languages of Peking University.
But he insisted on applying for the Sanskrit Department, a very niche profession.
In one show, he said that choosing this major at that time was actually very willful.
But he was very grateful to his parents, because they were very supportive of him at that time and gave him the opportunity to be wayward, so that he would have today's results.
The well-known American psychological counselor John A. Schindler said: "A person's education includes many aspects that go far beyond what he learned when he was in school. But the most important education comes from the families we grew up with. ”
The family is to give the child enough love, so that the child has the courage and confidence to set sail.
Second, cultivate a child's sense of value, so that he constantly pursues self-worth.
Boji in "Ranking of Kings", although born short, deaf and dumb, his parents never gave up on him, but always encouraged him to become a king.
Every time Borgie was bullied, her mother would gently comfort him and reinforce his belief that he would become king.
His father, who would pay attention to the various situations in his growth, equipped him with the best teachers, and waited for him to gradually become full of wings.
On his difficult journey to becoming king, he had to constantly fight against the contempt of those around him and the covetousness of his competitors for the throne.
He was framed, abandoned by his master, and although he had lost faith, he was always able to stand up. Because in his heart, he always has a deep sense of self-worth in being a king.
If a child has no sense of value, it is like a ship without a rudder and compass, without a course, and it is not conducive to the cultivation of principles and willpower.
Third, respect the uniqueness of each child and appreciate the difference between the child.
In the documentary "Zero Zero", there is a girl named Yiyi. When she was in kindergarten, she often played alone, did not like to take care of the children around her, and said that she had no friends.
Her parents were very worried, afraid that she would not interact with people in the future, or that she would have a withdrawn personality.
But her parents didn't intervene, respecting her personality very much, allowing her to enjoy her time alone and arranging her own time.
After she grew into a teenager, she became a girl who could be both alone and very friendly with the people around her.
Many people said that it was very pleasant to spend time with her. I also enjoy this mode of getting along and feel naturally comfortable.
As the picture book "The Unique You" says: "You have to learn to find your own way, there is no need to follow others." You are unique in this world, make the world a better place! ”
Parents respect the uniqueness of their children, which will inject a steady stream of motivation into their children and live their own style.
Children who are nourished by love are not afraid to travel far
The picture book "The Problem of the Little Rabbit" depicts a pair of rabbit mother and daughter in the style of Chinese ink painting.
The bunny always has a lot of questions, such as why the mother's eyes are so big, the ears are so long, the mouth is so big, the nose is whirring, and the legs are so powerful.
Mother Rabbit replied, "Only in this way can your mother still see you, hear you, shout at you, smell your body, and run to see you after you grow up and leave your mother." ”
This is a wise and loving bunny mother.
Her answer expressed her love for the bunny. No matter how far the bunny goes, the mother rabbit can contact her and feel her. No matter where the rabbit goes, it has the love of its mother, and this is the root of the rabbit.
At the same time, in her answer, she also hoped that the rabbit could have her own life, be able to go further, and insert the wings of the rabbit to fly far.
Every child needs roots and wings. Roots are solid love given by parents, and wings are hope and courage for the future.
May we all be parents who give our children roots and wings.
May our children all thrive and fly bravely with love and encouragement.
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