Netizen question: The son is going to kindergarten tomorrow, the feeling in his heart is difficult to express, before he felt that his heart was hard enough, this moment he felt a lot of worries, worried about whether he ate well, how to cry, how to fight with children, seeing that he was asleep next to him, he was very sleepy but could not sleep. Such a question may not be tall enough, but who can tell me how to be a good father?
If you want to be a good father, you first need your own ability to meet the requirements of the role of "father".
For example, can you be accompanied and teach your child how to deal with unfamiliar environments?
If you have a conflict with your friends, have you ever taught your children how to deal with them?
At the same time, this kind of teaching is more often not used to "preach", but to use "teaching by example". That is, can you show your child how you cope with the dilemma?
If the parents themselves are very weak, they will shrink back in the face of difficulties, then for the child, he does not have a good learning object, and it is difficult to feel that the parents have high-quality protection for themselves.
And the force of being a good father runs through a child's life.
Let's look at an example:
If the daughter's pregnancy is incompatible with her husband, the father can unconditionally support the daughter: live according to your ideas, and there is something for the father to carry.
The famous actor Du Xudong, due to his unique appearance, mostly played villain roles. Han Rongfa in "The Gate of the Big House", his acting skills are even more outstanding, so that the audience will be angry when they see this role.
Daughter Du Jinjing's marriage went wrong, and when the father's only words said: "It's okay, there is a father." Whatever decision you make, Dad supports."
This attitude of not hesitating and supporting the daughter can comfort the daughter very well.
When a father can do this, it depends on strength.
1. Du Xudong has good economic strength.
Du Xudong is a national first-class actor, and his acting skills are recognized by the audience. The material basis is a major element of support for children.
2. Du Xudong turned the crisis into a turning point and set a good example for his children.
Du Xudong's image of "crooked mouth" is not innate. It was an accident in the process of growing up.
He was born into an ordinary family and fell because of his naughtiness. As a result, he fell from the second floor and landed on his face, causing facial bone damage. Although it has undergone several repair surgeries, it still leaves the sequelae of the crooked mouth.
The family also spent all the money they had saved for this.
Later, Du Xudong found that he liked the zizi play very much. In order to support their children, parents have to save money and save up tuition to send their children to learn zizi plays.
Du Xudong's solid skills and talents have made the flowers and applause in the future.
From this case, we can get the following inspiration:
1. When you enter the workplace, you are not fighting for yourself. Before marriage, also include your parents. Because of your achievements in the workplace, you can become the embodiment of parental values and make them proud of you. Your income can not only reduce the financial pressure of your parents, but also improve the quality of life of your parents.
After marriage, your workplace strength is actually the survival strength of the whole family. It will be directly linked to the child's educational investment.
All of these can become the driving force for your career development.
2. Maybe you feel stressed because of this. But your tenacity will subtly become the object of children's learning and identification. In the process of children's growth, most of the cultivation of quality and character comes from the recognition of parents.
If you want your child to have good stress resistance. So if you are usually demonstrating to your child, your child can develop psychological resilience better than other children.
If you want to learn more about the role of psychological resilience, you can read the book Resilience. The book provides ways to face adversity and reap happiness, teaching the role of positive psychology combined with brain science and mindfulness meditation.
Resilience has also been unanimously endorsed by psychologists at Harvard, Stanford, and the University of California, and recommended by members of the National Database of Health Emergency Experts.
The book mentions that your life path depends on three elements: how you respond to your challenges, protect your weaknesses, and increase your resources.
To be a good father, you must first improve your mental capacity. Develop resilience so that you have the ability to cope with adversity, seize opportunities, and deal with challenges. Once you have such an ability, you will be able to get along with your child and let your child have a subtle learning.