Recently received a private message from netizens, Ms. Yang's daughter is 13 years old this year, has been in the sixth grade of primary school, the results have been very good, in order to let the child enrich the skills development of specialties, Yang girl also specially signed up for a piano class for her daughter, piano lessons are also full of harvest. But these days of the Spring Festival, Ms. Yang broke her heart for her daughter. The final exam daughter played a little abnormal, mathematics only scored more than 70 points, the originally very well-behaved child, suddenly became grumpy and angry and slammed the door, did not talk to parents, holiday homework did not write, the piano did not practice. Ms. Yang was very uncomfortable, thinking that there was a problem with the child's personality, but she did not know how to deal with it.
Personality is a personality trait, people are shy, or cheerful, or fickle, but when yelling, whether adults or children, in fact, have nothing to do with personality. Yelling is just a tool to vent emotions.
In general, children over the age of 6 already have basic cognition of behavior, and still cry for a long time, hoarsely, and the parents' education methods must be deficient in these points:
First, understand the child's emotions
Parents need to be aware of their children's mood changes at all ages. When they first go to school, children will be more curious, ask questions, and parents will not be satisfied, and there will be greater emotional fluctuations. In adolescence, because of physical changes, children will think that they have grown up, establish some blind self-awareness, constantly challenge and even rebel against their parents, and be emotionally restless. As a parent, you must prepare in advance, and educate and guide your child well in these special periods of your child.
Second, accept the child's emotions
Parents should allow their children to vent their emotions, but they should not let their children be in bad emotions for a long time. You can use hugs and other ways to calm their emotions and then solve the problem.
Third, teach children to guide emotions
Both adults and children will produce some negative emotions in their daily lives. For adults, things that cannot be asked for, loved, and things that are born, old, sick and dead will have an impact on our emotions. However, adults often take the form of desperate work, housework, and talking, and rarely choose to deal with it in a yelling manner. Children can't be like adults for children also need guidance, can't get things to find a way to get, ask parents what other ways can get, rather than by crying; want parents to have more love to say directly, rather than rely on deliberate rebellion to get parents' attention.
Fourth, control your emotions
Parents only have to control their emotions first, do not argue too much with their children, and find the real reasons behind the children's yelling. While guiding yourself, guide your children to vent their emotions reasonably and grow up with your children!
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