February 4
Happy Spring
The fourth day of the first lunar month
New Year's Eve! New Year's Eve!
Rejoice and take the child to visit relatives!
We Chinese attach great importance to tradition and attach importance to human feelings, a family of old and young, together to talk and laugh, talk about a year's past experience, the picture is quite ... Warm
Wait, it seems that there are still a few embarrassing moments, uh, then let xiaobian take everyone to take stock together:
The stage is ready, and the child refuses in seconds
Let the child perform the program is almost the finale of the national New Year's day, the child learns guitar, learns piano, learns to act, learns to dance, learns to sing... It was just the New Year's Day, and I gave my relatives a performance to help me.
Not to mention the child, a netizen who has been 27 has not escaped the fate of performing talent in front of relatives and friends
Especially in kindergarten education now, some song and dance programs are basically rehearsed on some major festivals. Therefore, every child will have some basic skills, and when they hear "Little Apple", "Curry Curry", "Burn My Calories", they can feel the music calling themselves.
The strange thing is that once it comes to such an occasion as the New Year, the louder the applause of relatives and the more expectant the expressions of the elders, the more the children are afraid of the stage, the more they pull back, and they refuse to twist and turn to help everyone.
Dear parents and friends, can your child's reluctance to capitalize also evoke your childhood memories?
We didn't have any piano guitars at that time, and we didn't have any "you are my little apple", just standing there, either to recite a poem to the elders, or to speak a few words of English, or to say the words of the New Year back and forth to say flowers, in short, we had to stand there and make a face and open our eyes to the relatives.
Recalling our own mood at that time, in fact, we can also think of the child's embarrassment, when he is not ready, the smiling face of each elder does not look friendly at all.
The following xiaobian will give you a few tricks -
First, ask your child for advice in advance.
Whether it is going to a relative's house or coming to a relative's home, say hello to your child in advance: those people you are about to see are the relatives of your parents and mothers, who have watched you grow up since childhood, and they love you and care about you. You are still very young and have no other way to express your love, can you show you a show to express your love?
If the answer given by the child is willing, we will accompany the child to do some preparation.
If your child's answer is no, we have an alternative – play a video or a photo.
Talking about children is an essential topic for the Spring Festival, relatives and friends of course also care about children, especially the elderly do not see children many times a year, of course, I hope to know more about the situation of children.
Parents can show everyone photos or videos of their children's performances and competitions on other occasions after their children refuse to perform; at this time, they can ask their children to act as explainers and tell everyone the story behind each photo or video.
Finally, discuss the matter with your child later, but don't criticize and scold.
Don't feel lost because your child refuses to perform, or put a rude hat on your child, and don't count your children down.
Of course, if you have become the "performed" party, please be a cultivated "performed" party.
Don't ask people how many levels they have to take;
Don't order songs, people act what we listen to;
Boast, exaggerate! Spring Festival this kind of family celebration, people parents let their children come out to perform, not for your pertinent guidance.
Finally, it is important to do a good job of expression management!
(Please strictly follow the above recommendations)
Relatives' children like their own doll's toys, what to do?
This scene can be included in the top three of the Spring Festival embarrassment list. The New Year was originally a harmonious and beautiful scene, the adults chatted happily, the children had fun, and the group ate and drank very happily, but when it was time to say goodbye, the crying appeared.
Relatives' children like toys at home and must take them home when they leave; their own children resolutely disagree, desperately dragging toys and not willing to let go. The two children cried loudly together, their hearts pounding to see who cried wronged, who could finally leave the toy.
At this time, parents can be embarrassed, the child does not appear stingy, let him give, he is really unwilling, after the fact always have to give double compensation double snacks to make up for his injured little heart. Especially in this awkward moment, The day and The Beauty are drowned out by crying.
On this point, the editor has too much to say.
Although Xiaobian's childhood did not shed so many tears for toys, but for a little snack, there were no less tears of grievance.
Xiaobian's childhood material is still not abundant, only in the New Year will the family buy those sweets, biscuits, raisins and other delicious snacks, and the number is not much; if a certain taste of candy is particularly delicious, Xiaobian will also secretly pick it out, and then carefully hide it.
However, as soon as the New Year came, my mother's words made the editor break the work: the family came, go grab something for everyone to eat. The third drawer of candy in that cupboard in your room, grab a little more, everyone likes to eat.
Even if this is it, when the cousin and cousin leave, the mother will also grab two handfuls of candy and stuff them into their pockets.
Giving things to relatives' children is an expression of love, but if this love is based on hurting children, Xiaobian advises parents to think twice. Especially in order to avoid such an embarrassing moment as the New Year, Xiaobian also prepared a small trick for everyone - communication in advance.
It's simple, tell your child a day in advance: tomorrow someone in the family will come to visit the New Year, and he will bring a child who is about the same age as you and yours, and he likes toys as much as you. We hope you can be the little host to entertain him and accompany him to have fun. Because your toys are all carefully selected and fun, when he leaves, he may want to take one with him, would you like to give it to him? If you want, we will thank you very much for sharing; if you really don't want to be okay, you can say it out loud and we will support you.
Yes, it doesn't matter if the child is unwilling, because that's what they like, they are trying to defend their ownership of the goods, this is normal behavior, parents should allow it, not to grab, pretend to be generous to send, this sense of deprivation to the child caused a lot of harm, in the future he will only be more stubborn to guard what he wants, in the eyes of outsiders more "stingy".
If there are still parents who are worried that if they do not give the toys to others, the children will not be able to learn to share, then xiaobian will need to add meals to everyone - if you want the children to learn to share, it is not to force the children to share, let alone take away the things that belong to the children. Only by fully respecting the child's ownership of the item and respecting the child's mood of not sharing, he feels rich in his heart, rich to overflow, and will be willing to give the overflowing part and the more part to others.
Children are not used to taking the initiative to say hello
This problem did not exist in the editor's childhood, but it seems to be common now. During the New Year's Festival, a room of people greeted each other and was lively, but the children looked at the full house of relatives without opening their mouths, always asking their parents to guide them to take the initiative to greet their relatives, and some children also wanted their parents to promise to buy something before they were willing to say a few auspicious words.
Especially the uncles, aunts, aunts, aunts and grandmothers, which can only see relatives once a year, the child has no impression, and suddenly when they see it, the old man is enthusiastic, and he is kissing and hugging the child, which scares the child even more opens his mouth.
Compared with the embarrassment of parents, Xiaobian hopes that the elderly will not be lonely because their children have not greeted themselves. Therefore, in order to avoid this embarrassment, Xiaobian also gives everyone a trick - make up lessons in advance.
Although it is not common between relatives, communication is always maintained in various ways. Usually, if relatives buy something for the child, the parent can take it to the child while telling the child who bought it for him, and then look up the mobile phone or the photo in the other party's circle of friends, tell the child who this is, and how he should call the other party.
At the time of the New Year, parents can turn out the photos at home and take the children to recognize relatives, who is this, what is his relationship with his parents and mothers, and how do you call him.
On the day of the New Year's Greeting, parents can also play eye games with their children, telling their children: "Today we are going to visit the New Year, to see if you can recognize these relatives, call them out, and find out what is different from the photos, and test how good your eyesight is." ”
With the experience of making up lessons and games in advance, it is no longer a problem for children to call people. This New Year's gift, even if it is a Small Editor's New Year gift package for everyone.
What other warm or awkward moments do you want to share with us about the New Year? Welcome to actively discuss in the comment area, Xiaobian accompanies you to reminisce about the warmth of the year and experience the happiness of the year!
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