Some time ago, I was at a party with a friend, and the friend told me about an incident that happened when she took her daughter back to her hometown to celebrate her grandmother's birthday.
On this day, the adults and children in the family basically came back, the family was lively, and then someone jokingly asked the 3-year-old daughter, "Do you like Grandma or Grandma?" ”
The friend originally wanted to lead the topic over, who knew that the daughter did not think about it, blurted out and replied: "I like grandma", which is really cute and cute.
The yard was suddenly quiet, Grandma was embarrassed, her expression was very unnatural, and the scene was extremely embarrassing for a while. Some people around the circle said: "Most girls like grandma, and my daughter also kisses her." ”
Then the relatives quickly echoed the topic and covered up. When I came back, my friend also had a sigh when he talked about this matter:
"I don't blame my daughter for saying this, her grandmother is a bit patriarchal, although she usually doesn't behave very obviously, but the children are sensitive, and she certainly knows who is good to her." And my mom raised her granddaughter from childhood to adulthood, and my daughter definitely liked her more. ”
Children are in a moment of innocence, and they feel the likes and dislikes of adults very clearly.
Usually, children prefer these 3 kinds of people
1. Accompany them to grow
Children are very dependent when they are young, which is the best time to cultivate a sense of intimacy, so who takes care of children and accompanies them for a long time, children also prefer.
We often advocate that parents should spend more time with their children, which is also the truth. The company of relatives can make children feel more secure, so children will naturally prefer to accompany their own people.
2. Give them gifts
Kids love to receive gifts. Parents can test whether babies remember the people who give them gifts every holiday. If you can give gifts that you like, your child will prefer it.
Therefore, if you want to get together quickly with the children, you may wish to send them more delicious and fun, which can quickly capture the hearts of the children.
3. Be patient with them
Children's minds are simple, but they are also sensitive, so parents need to be more patient in guiding. They are in a state of great curiosity, with infinite questions about the mysterious outside world, often asking a wide variety of questions.
If parents are impatient to answer, but also more reprimands, not only will affect the child's mood, but also affect the child's personality development.
On the contrary, if you answer the child's questions patiently, or use some interesting way to make the children understand the problems, it will make the children happier.
Children's liking is simple, so if you want to have a good time with children, the most important thing is to be attentive.
Asking children dilemmas like this is very undesirable, not only will leave a knot in the hearts of the elderly, but also may affect the relationship between adults and is not conducive to family harmony.
Therefore, when encountering such problems, parents should actively guide and encourage children to express their true thoughts, rather than dare to tell the truth in order to please the elders, but to let children follow their hearts, which can also help them develop the quality of honesty and trustworthiness.