Some people say that the so-called love is the lighthouse in the sea in the oasis of the desert, and those who appear in our lives will always invisibly heal each other and affect each other for "a good kiss."

Some people say

The so-called love is

An oasis in the desert

A lighthouse in the sea

Those appeared

The ta in our lives

It's always invisible

Healing each other affects each other

Everyone has their own unique understanding of what a good intimacy looks like. While it has no fixed standards, any healthy relationship has some basic commonalities.

A good intimate relationship mainly has these three characteristics:

equal

Mutual

respect

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Science has found good intimacy that has a positive effect on people

1) It will make people healthier.

Maintaining a satisfactory relationship not only reduces the risk of diseases such as cancer and myocardial infarction, but also reduces risk factors such as obesity and smoking addiction.

2) Improve self-awareness, improve self-esteem, and make others like themselves more.

In high-quality intimate relationships, people can feel their own integrity and sense of worth and prefer themselves.

3) The ability to help restore trust to people.

A good intimate relationship will not only reshape our belief in love, but also change our view of the world and human nature, making us change from negative to positive.

Fear comes from ignorance. The more we learn about the hidden pitfalls, the less we will be controlled by ignorance. Look at the various stages of intimacy, and maybe we can find a guide to getting through the customs.

The book "Intimate Relationships" summarizes the four stages of intimate relationships: the period of lunar halo, the period of disillusionment, the period of introspection, and the period of revelation.

The lunar halo period – well understood, is the period of love, the stage when you feel that you have found the perfect lover.

Disillusionment - it is to find that he or she is not perfect, just like discovering that Sun Wukong and Santa Claus do not exist. At this stage you will:

1. Work hard to grab the other person's attention and confirm your importance. After unsuccessful efforts, we enter the next stage;

2. Power struggles, striving to change each other;

3. Retaliation stage: You make me feel bad, and you don't want to live well. Because we would rather quarrel than face the wounds of childhood;

4. Self-exile: With a deep sense of frustration, the jar is broken.

Introspection – the ugliest phase of an emotional relationship in which the other person is disillusioned in each other's minds, and two people are spinning around in a fixed pattern of behavior. They are trapped in the cages of the victims and the persecuted and face the "temptation to die."

The period of revelation – is to understand and believe in the power of love. It is often very short, but its biggest feature is that it can pass through the wall by turning its thoughts, so that the sunshine of love can penetrate the cages of the victims and persecutors.

Man's thoughts are the beginning of all destiny: when you plant ideas, you get action; when you plant actions, you get habits; when you plant habits, you get personality; if you plant personality, you get destiny.