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In life, what affects our personal strength is often our internal prejudices and consciousnesses, and the more thinking disorders you have in your heart, the more you will make yourself weak and inferior.
The fewer obstacles in your heart, the stronger your mind will become, so we need to be carefully aware that our consciousness has these three kinds of thinking disorders.
The sooner you discover that it will be beneficial to your personal growth, the more naturally your life will gradually open up.
The first obstacle is the habit of partial generalization
On the road to growth in life, what we need to remind ourselves most is not to be partial to the whole. Partial generalization is all the habit of negating the bad habit of the whole life with one small thing.
For example, some women are accustomed to thinking that they are miserable, and whenever something small happens, they will repeatedly think that their fate is not good.
Once they think that their fate is not good, they will use this wrong way of attribution to plunge themselves into long-term negative emotions, and let their fate become worse and worse.
If we do not generalize, but learn to deal with things as they are, and when something happens, and we never deny the whole life or label ourselves, then our lives will not be inhibited.
From a certain point of view, the habit of partial generalization is all the worst thinking habits that we need to guard against, and once you get used to treating yourself in this way, you will repeatedly immerse yourself in anxiety and fear, and even can't extricate yourself.
We must learn to treat ourselves positively, we will not be limited by this negative consciousness, learn from everything to grow the experience, we can get rid of those negative consciousness on our shaping and influence, naturally we can get out of this obstacle, so that our lives have a broader world and vision.
One of my colleagues used to complain that her life was not good, and once I kindly reminded her not to treat herself with this kind of consciousness, but to believe that she was a person worthy of blessing, under the hint of this consciousness, she no longer complained about herself, even if something bad happened, she would calm down and look at it again, so that she could come out of her overly depressed state and gradually embrace her good self.
The second kind of thinking disorder, victim thinking
If a person has a victim mindset, it is often said that this kind of thinking can lead us into depression. The victim's thinking habit is to think that all the fault is someone else's fault, that he is not wrong, and that he is trapped in a sad situation.
Once a person has a victim mentality, he will think that others are sorry for himself, and then use this thinking to blame others for no reason, so that others feel indebted to themselves.
For example, many people are accustomed to thinking that the original family harmed themselves. Once we think that the original family has harmed us, we treat ourselves with this sense of autonomy when we do not mix good emotions.
When you fall into the victim's thinking, you will not grow for yourself, unwilling to face all kinds of excuses, but in fact, the victim thinking not only can not help us grow, but even for our non-growth to find a reasonable coat, paralyzing ourselves, so that we can not really decide.
A person's strength comes from the awareness of continuous face, and when you see the harm done to you by your original family, you are actually half healed.
We see that those hurts are not essentially helping us to immerse ourselves in them, but to help us face them, and even to help us escape from those hurts, so that we can bravely live in the moment and face life again.
In the process of growing up, when we know how to find our own initiative, rather than immersing ourselves in the thinking of the victim for a long time, we can truly become strong.
The third kind of thinking disorder is indiscriminate labeling thinking
Influencing an individual's strength has a lot to do with our unlabeled thinking. Harvard psychologists have found that indiscriminate labeling often comes from the habit of the vast majority of people to choose their own position first, and then look for evidence to support their position, as a way to justify their position.
Random label thinking is also a standard that helps us to quickly judge under a large amount of information, but if a person is accustomed to labeling, it will also form a certain mindset.
With this mindset, it's easy to make excuses for ourselves, thereby reducing our stress and frustration. For example, when we are accustomed to pushing the blame on others, we don't have much responsibility in some aspects.
My children are stupid, which is why they develop into this, we use labeling general categorization to make us quick judgments, but this judgment sometimes presents errors and does not allow us to see the facts.
When we get rid of label thinking and look at ourselves and others with a developmental vision, we will not be limited by labels, and even deliberately reduce our own labeling behavior, but think about the motivation and reasons behind each other's behavior, which is our enhanced understanding of the facts, and will also help us to get out of the negative effects of labels, so as to better respect the facts.
The real strength comes from letting go of our inner judgment, but learning to discuss things, but also let us know how to get rid of the victim's thinking, know how to love ourselves, and grasp the initiative of ourselves. Learn to let go of labeled thinking, let ourselves treat ourselves and others with a developmental eye, and our lives will get better and better.
Today's topic: Do you think that influencing a person's strength is related to thinking disorders, welcome to discuss and communicate.