As the saying goes: "Men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." ”
Real life is indeed like this, men are most afraid of entering the wrong line, because this determines your future development. Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, because this determines your future happiness.
Although, contemporary women are becoming more and more independent and autonomous. Especially in the current situation of young men and women, it seems that women have more choices.
But this is not to say that you can choose more, you will be able to get a happy marriage, first of all, what kind of person you choose, sometimes it is really important, which is the same for men and women. It's just that women need to know what kind of person they should choose to spend this life.
After all, everyone wants their marriage to be happy, and no one wants an unhappy marriage. Marriage is a very important thing for each of us. What kind of person to find into marriage is really different, so what kind of man is worth choosing?
01, loyalty to character is a foundation
As someone once said: "Good love begins with the appearance of the face, in line with the three views, loyal to the character." This shows the importance of a person's character in feelings.
Imagine a person who is not good in character, no matter how handsome he looks, but is not sincere with you, what is the use, can you really tolerate all the things that the other party does because he is handsome? For example, the betrayal of you.
Do you want someone who is unfaithful to your feelings to be able to spend a lot of time with you? Do you really believe that "the prodigal son does not change his gold"? You have to know that there is also an idiom called "nature is difficult to move".
Therefore, the character inside the relationship is really important, just like watching the news some time ago, there was a sudden earthquake somewhere, when the man's wife was still inside the house, the man who was originally outside, instead of thinking of running to a safe place to avoid disaster, chose to run back. Pulling his wife outside.
In the same case of an earthquake, another person made the opposite move, leaving his wife and daughter alone and running away, and this is still a real event. You can imagine how chilling this is.
It is true that one instinctively protects oneself, but there is also a kind of responsibility. And people who have responsibility and character will stand up in the face of difficulties, let alone the people they love.
Therefore, character is very important, and a person's character is also hidden in the usual details, such as broken glass slag, he will wrap and write words, will be willing to help others and so on.
Such a person is worth marrying, rather than choosing to marry him because the other party will be sweet and handsome. To know that the most attractive thing about a person is not his appearance, but his inner character. As we often say, "There are thousands of good-looking skin bags, and interesting souls are one out of ten thousand". This "interesting soul" I think should include character.
02, men who can say and do, deserve to believe
Marrying the right person, a person called marrying someone who loves you, the most obvious manifestation is that this person can be consistent with you, and he can do everything he says.
Can't do things, he never says, such a person promises, can also give you happiness. What you need to know is that sweet words can be said by anyone. But why don't some people say it?
Because in his heart, he believes that what is said must be done, and if he can't do it, it is better not to say it.
Indeed, women in feelings like to listen to sweet words, but feelings are not only sweet words, only rely on sweet words to live a bad life.
Especially those men who say that they will not do it, it is even less worthy of trust, because he himself is a man with different appearances, and this kind of man is actually the most terrible.
Because he is always hidden, knowing what you like to hear, he will do what he likes to do to you, and when he achieves his goal, he will immediately tear off his disguise. It seems that you are very concerned about you, and what you do that makes him unhappy, he is not angry, as if he has no bottom line for you. In fact, his heart has already memorized everything you have done, just waiting for the purpose to be achieved, and returning it to you.
Therefore, choosing a person to marry must see if he can do what he says, not just say nice things.
03, get along very tired, do not respect your people do not marry
If a person, always by belittling you, to prove that he loves you, then you have to be careful, maybe he is "PUA" on you. Such a man must get rid of it early.
It's like there is such a story in the TV series "Sleeping Garden" that I watched some time ago, and your male protagonist Huo Lang is such a person, who on the surface looks very much in love with his girlfriend Chai Qian. In fact, he has been "PUA" to Chai Qian.
In life, he always establishes his sense of superiority by constantly suppressing and belittling Chai Qian. It's like when Chai Qian, who had been at home for a day, went out to get a courier, and Huo Lang said, "Can I be more tired than I am at work?" ”
Later, chai qian planned a dinner party at Xiao Xiao's request, and Huo Lang said again, "Can you handle it now?" But the original Chai Qian was the manager of a big public relations company.
If you meet not Huo Lang, this opponent is not respectful, always use the "PUA" way to control her, but meet a man who truly understands and respects and truly loves her, I think Chai Qian's future must be better.
So it's really different for a woman to choose to be married and live alone. Marry the right person, the other party can give you the ability to continuously output. Marry the wrong person, the other party can only continue to drag you back.
As the saying goes: "The crucial decision of a lifetime is not where to settle down or what line of work to make a living, but what kind of person to choose as one's lifelong partner." Because this person wants to spend the rest of your life hand in hand with you, and walk the long road of the future together. ”
Hopefully, everyone in the world will be able to meet the right person.
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