I don't know if you have a feeling that tutoring your child with the simplest math problems, you think your child will. But the result..., at that time, you feel the blood rushing to the top of your head, and there is an urge to return to the west!
My child is 7 years old, and this feeling of collapse has always been with me at the beginning. But then I found some ways to do it much better. Today I would like to share with you some of my humble and immature methods of parenting! Represents only personal opinions! Don't raise it!
When the child was four years old, I went home to test her kindergarten teacher to leave a few math problems, such as how much 12 + 13 equals? She snapped her fingers and counted for a while and said: Dad, equal to 15, how do you feel to hear this answer? In fact, we don't have to get angry, so the child will be afraid, and it will also affect the future parent-child relationship! Parents should establish rules for their children, establish a reward and punishment system, rather than venting their emotions, try not to bring external emotions to their children, at least they should often reflect on their own staged practices.
Back to the above question, basic mathematics for children under the age of five is from the figurative stage to the abstract stage, they are now breaking their fingers to miscalculate is normal, because the number above 5 is beyond their cognition (prodigy exception), the first grade children and the third grade children's cognitive level is also very different! As you get older, you need to change the way you guide your child.
When children grow up, they are faced with all kinds of homework that we need to help complete, in fact, from another point of view, children are quite pitiful, they don't even know what homework is for? What is the purpose of learning piano? When we were young, did your parents explain to us the meaning of learning? Homework is a child's natural enemy, without exception.
When she is writing her homework, I will sit a little farther away from her and tell her that her father is also writing homework, and her father's homework is work, from a supervisor to a comrade-in-arms, and the child will return to the restart state, she will come to ask you when she encounters something that will not be, and you can deeply understand the child's feelings of not being able to do the problem! You can't think anxiously of the disastrous consequences because she did the wrong question, such as: what can you do in the future on this academic performance? Can't learn badly? You don't have to be that way, because your anxiety isn't really worth it.
Don't think that we are a bully when we are young, we naturally think that our children should also be a bully, this is a typical "return" psychology, we must put an end to it! You think I've been a school bully, which is already good. That way you'll be a little more balanced.
Sometimes I will print some review questions for the child, let her have no worries about doing it first, then check, and draw out the right questions to praise and encourage her, so that you and the child will have some sense of accomplishment, and then cycle until all the questions are correct, and the child's self-confidence is naturally strong!
I have a high school classmate, in the remaining months of high school, he still has time to play games, and his mother still accompanies him to play, I am very skeptical about how his study time is allocated, and then he said to me: I am researching to do problems, not brushing questions, the teacher assigned the type of questions may require us to do 30 of the same type of questions, but he will do 3, and then use the formula of this question type to solve problems for other students, do wrong and explain to them, which consolidates his thorough understanding of this problem! It's the Feynman method of learning. This is useful.
Of course, there are also ways for scum to learn, they can choose the division of labor, choose the problems they will do, and then share the method with other cooperative students, and cycle each other! This is also a kind of survival law of future society!
Let's share it here today! to be continued! Parents are welcome to interact!