You have to look at her preferences, look at her traits, and use it. Each person has his own characteristics, and it is good to cultivate her characteristics.
What she likes is what matters
Excerpts from the Beijing Symposium No. 30
June 10, 2018
Sister Jin:
I ask you sir, just said in the morning from the relative world into the absolute world, I feel that the afternoon has stepped into the absolute world, then is there anything else that can be regarded as the absolute world?
Mr:
Yes, the symphony is.
I don't understand.
You appreciate it well, you understand it well, the greatest feature of the symphony, the world it creates, the world it creates, that world is absolute. We don't really understand it yet, and I can only give you a hint to study, the world of sound is very interesting.
Sister Zhang:
Take, for example, Mozart's music.
Mozart is remarkable. Music expert here, you can ask ah, she (Teacher Zhang's daughter) can understand Mozart's world, you don't underestimate oh.
Is it that the younger you are, the more you understand?
Yes, the world it shows requires you to have peace of mind first, and then you can listen, which is completely different. The younger the child, the more he understands Mozart's music, which is interesting.
Teacher Zhang:
Classical prenatal music, basically all classical piano music, mozart's music is quite a lot.
I once spent half a month teaching my child the Vest Sutra, carrying her back will not carry, should I force her to carry?
Why?
Good for kids.
If the child does not like it, do not carry it, the child is a child.
Then don't teach?
Of course, this is called superstition. She doesn't know what the Heart Sutra means, and if you want her to carry her back, then why? What's the use? Let her add a lot of trouble, as if a child has no self-esteem, and even ask her to memorize Tang poems.
Is it bad to memorize Tang poems?
Of course not. She doesn't understand, and neither does. You don't understand it yourself, and you have to teach her to memorize what you don't understand.
But I think it will always be useful when she grows up, and the book will be less hated when it is used.
Is it useful? It can only be said that Tang Poetry is very good, but it depicts a society that children do not know, how to accept? What "sunset is infinitely good", the child obviously sees a large piece of gray haze, how is it infinitely good? Don't let her add a lot of burdens, it is better to let her sing a few songs happily. I ask you, can she be humanely good after reciting the Heart Sutra?
not necessarily.
Yeah, not necessarily. Ask you again, have you become a person with positive emotions after reciting the Heart Sutra? It's not related. You have to recognize that positive emotions are a question of your determination, whether you want to install new programs to show your life in new ways, and what does it have to do with anything else?
Then she will also have a lot of things she doesn't like to do when she grows up, she doesn't like to go to school, she doesn't like to learn musical instruments.
Yes, a lot of problems will bother you, you can slowly guide her to the positive, you use good methods to educate her, to promote her, to encourage her. Is it okay to have a vest sutra? This is not related at all, so this is superstition.
So what is a good approach?
Let her sing, let her learn to wash dishes, sweep the floor, use chopsticks, know how to be polite, why not do this? From the daily life Chinese polite attitude practice is good, why add a lot of strange things? I tell you, what do children need to learn? There is a teacher who is particularly good, you can ask her to know, it is her (pointing to Teacher Zhang's child).
she? child?
What she likes is important, not what you like, make no mistake. It is only right for you to ask her, and it is useless for you to ask adults. Why learn so much? For example, if you ask her to do something, she feels very annoying, and always hates and hates in her heart, so what to do? She is also studying, she does not dare to say hate on the surface, but in her heart she still feels hate and hate, and when she grows up, she really hates you, you know, don't make a mistake.
So I don't know what to do? Is it to force her to learn or to leave it to her to choose?
Then you have to ask her if she agrees, for example, his daughter (Teacher Zhang's child), her lips can play the flute, before learning, it is useful. If you don't know, it is useless to say that you want to learn the flute, the mouth shape is not good, and it is useless. You have to look at her preferences, look at her traits, and use it. You don't understand, what physique is suitable for what instrument, don't be confused, don't learn everything, don't use, each person has his own characteristics, it's good to cultivate her traits, just balance it a little. Children, sometimes he will also pursue popularity, you have to tolerate him, let him try it, don't say that you must learn, you have to learn, it is not good to spend a lot of time and spend a lot of money, your child has not learned, tolerate him, he does not want to learn.
In fact, the core of the educational concept is to take children as the main body of education.
Yes, the subject of it is not you.
Our philosophy is to treat children as objects of education, which is wrong. In other words, everything listens to her.
Brother Xie:
I recognize this very much, she can learn whatever she wants.
Don't take the child as an object of indoctrination, as subjectivity, you can inspire her what she needs, you can inspire and induce, don't instill her, look at her interests, you go to discover, discover her interests and hobbies.
But if you look at human society for more than two thousand years, it must be a classic that has been handed down.
The current education system is to shape your model, and then you copy it to your children, I see it is very unbearable, I did not do it, it is true.
