Feelings outside of marriage make many people feel pained, especially after finding that some people have guilt but can't control themselves, can't help but miss each other, can't help but contact, you come and go, this feeling is impossible to give up, resulting in the last half of the family to reach the limit of patience, the marriage directly broke down.
In fact, they do not want to come back, but the emotional value, freshness, and satisfaction brought to them by extramarital feelings make them unable to give up for a while and a half.
Some people will say that since they are wrong, they must come back decisively, they have given the opportunity and do not cherish it, but the feeling is not a calculation problem, black and white, it has a process, like a pendulum, shaking, back and forth many times to the end may completely return to the original point.
It's just that this swinging process consumes everyone's patience and only a little feeling left, and by the time your feelings outside disappear, the feelings at home have also broken down.
In the end, only regret remains, then the feelings outside the marriage will no longer recur, and the first thing that is important after the return is to completely disconnect, including changing the mobile phone number and deleting the contact information of various social platforms.
Why do you say that you must break the connection? Because contact information is the most direct way for two people to contact, if the relationship has been broken, then it may not be natural to contact, but most of the return of extramarital feelings is forced.
For example, being discovered at home, I have to choose between two people, and although many people choose a family, their inner feelings are still difficult to suppress.
When you see the contact information, you can't help but want to ask the other party, how is it, and even want to tell the lovesickness, and even if you don't contact, the other party and your contact information will come to you.
This increases the chance of two people breaking the connection, and the two people who are interrupted at the hottest time can burn as long as there is a trace of fire.
If the other party is pretending to be a little aggrieved, some people may not be able to bear it, and the two people will immediately rekindle their love, which is even more difficult to separate.
It's like you have a beloved toy, parents don't let you play now, you endure for a few days, one day you see, then you are very reluctant, feel that there is no chance if you don't play.
And if this toy completely disappears in your life, you may be sad for a few days, but if you can't see it, you can only be sad, and the degree of sadness will be reduced in a few days.
When the feelings are reduced to a point, there is no such person in life, find that you can also live well, and then look at the happy family, children, and may regret their previous behavior.
Marriage has "three years of pain, five years of cold, seven years of itch, ten years of death", and the feelings outside marriage are the same, but because they can't get it, they will be more intense and inseparable.
But no matter how hot the love, no matter how much sea oath mountain alliance, it will eventually be flat.
At the same time, when the other party calls your phone and finds that you have changed your number and there is no other contact information for you, she naturally knows what you think, because you are so determined to prove your determination.
Originally, she and you often suffered from extramarital feelings, hoping that you would leave the family with her as soon as possible, but the result was not only that she did not wait for your cash, but what you got was your disappearance.
Even if she loves you again, she has self-awareness, and may even resent you, thinking that your feelings for her are just a play, and when she resents you, even if you go to her again, there is a big rift between you.
At this time, it is difficult to reunite.
Therefore, I don't want the feelings outside of marriage to break off, so the first thing after the return is to break the connection, even if it hurts again, you have to make up your mind, because if you don't end the feelings outside the marriage, you are consuming the residual temperature of the marriage.
Maybe when you naturally tangle with each other for a few months, everyone is not interested in breaking, but the lover at home may also be cold.
The result is either that she is leaving you or that she no longer trusts you and does not love you.
In the future, you may continue this marriage, but it is difficult to return to the past love, and you need to pay a lot at this time to exchange for a little trust from her.
Unconditionally inclusive, unconditionally giving love and money, how long can you hold out?
Marriage is not easy, if you make mistakes, give you a chance, remember to cherish.
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Love will see, interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way