In most parts of the world, marriage is sacred and deliberate, and couples who are not married must be well thought out, in China, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, so it is very cautious, but in some places, marriage customs seem to be very arbitrary, and even in our opinion, they violate the law, such as the marriage robbery custom in Kyrgyzstan.
As the name suggests, marriage snatching is directly snatching the bride home, a bit like our ancient bandits' oppressive wives, in the rural areas of Kyrgyzstan, it is still very popular, it is said that the custom can be traced back to Roman times, in parts of the country, a man wants to marry a girl, he will gather a few of his partners, directly from the street to catch the girl home.
After the man's family, the opportunity to try to persuade her and her parents, to marry the girl to a man, and this kind of marriage robbery not only occurs between couples, two completely different people, can also be married in this way, the girl's will does not seem to be very important, the person in front of him is called Kubandi, he has reached the age of marriage, he is currently looking for a bride on the street, the family has prepared everything for this wedding, and the family members are all gathered together, just for this marriage.
Everything is ready, then waiting for the bride to grab the door, the groom who finds the target is also very fast, with the help of several people, the letter bride is tied to the home, the bride continues to struggle and shout for help, but no one pays attention at all, the in-laws who have been prepared for a long time, began to dress the bride, it can be seen that the bride is very resistant, but still forced to change clothes.
In Kyrgyzstan, kidnapping is also illegal, but even the police do not care about this kind of thing, the local rural areas, nearly half of the people get married through this way of robbing relatives, and finally the girl compromised, the bride can not resist, for the bride, this is the fate they have to accept, the groom's brother and sister-in-law are also married by robbing relatives, in fact, they have only met twice, the brother fell in love with the sister-in-law at first sight, at the first sight of her, he told her that he wanted to marry her, which is the classic beginning of an idol drama, Unfortunately, the next is not so beautiful as the idol drama, the brother directly gave the sister-in-law two choices, either wait for her to go to her house to propose, or wait for him to snatch home, but the girl refused, she told him that she already had a boyfriend, hearing this, the groom went back, the bride thought he had given up, did not expect that the second time they met, that is, when he kidnapped her, the girl finally chose to compromise, in her cognition, she is always going to marry, since she has been robbed home by others, Boyfriends will no longer be good with themselves, and it is good to choose a person who loves themselves, which is the fate they have accepted for generations.
The process of robbing relatives is actually not so simple, the groom and his friends, a total of a month of planning, the couple has actually known each other for a long time, the two are actually two lovers, much better than the groom's brother and sister-in-law, but still use the way of robbing relatives, the two discussed to get married, the groom began to plan to rob relatives, although the bride is willing, but do not know when the robbery will be carried out, the prepared boys, receiving the blessings of the family, and then sitting together in a van, Get ready to start your own business of grabbing relatives.
The groom is also doing this kind of thing for the first time, so he is also a little nervous, has been in the car to cheer themselves up, they have known in advance the location of the bride, the bride's girlfriend betrayed her, drove directly to the destination, along the way, the car is shrouded in a tense atmosphere, thinking about whether there is an oversight in the plan, arriving at the destination of the plan, the groom directly calls the bride's friend, the car is parked in the shade, the bride's girlfriend will trick the bride into coming here, several people get together to discuss how to implement the plan, After the discussion, the operation officially began, the groom returned to the car to wait, the friends ambushed aside, and the bride's girlfriend left alone.
Anxious waiting, several people finally saw the bride's voice, began to slowly approach the bride, the car followed closely behind several people, the bride at this time did not know anything, washing clothes by the well water, 3 big men approached from behind, suddenly lifted the bride up, the bride struggled in a panic, the car opened in time, the car door opened, facing this group of unknown people, the bride seemed very flustered, twisting and struggling continuously, several men are also doing this kind of thing for the first time, it seems very nervous, Almost let the bride run, fortunately, in the end there was no danger, the bride was still stuffed into the car, the bride in the car shouted at the mother, but unfortunately it had no effect at all.
At this time, many people next to them also saw this scene, but did not feel strange, everyone knows what this is doing, but everyone has a happy smile on their faces, has been on the car, the bride is still struggling non-stop, and the groom hugs the bride tightly and does not let her leave, the groom at this time constantly comforts her, hoping that she can calm down, but in this situation, no matter who can not be calm, even if this person is his boyfriend, in the face of the bride's cries, the groom is also a little unbearable, But for the sake of his own happiness, he did not let go of the bride, the bride's struggle did not help, the car drove smoothly to the home, the man's relatives saw the car come in, knew that they had successfully caught the bride, came to the front of the car door and pulled the bride off the car.
No matter how she cried no one cared, they just continued the wedding process, the man's work was over, the rest was for the elders to dress her, at this time her struggle was already small, as long as she wore a headscarf, it meant that she would change from a girl to a woman, from the girl being robbed to finally agreeing to marry, this process may last for hours to a few days, in the end, the bride gave up the struggle, the elders knew that she agreed, began to bless her, everyone was happy, only the bride was still sobbing, but, When the elders gave her candy, she no longer refused, and gradually began to take the initiative to accept the arrangement, such a change made people unexpected, it was really difficult to guess whether the struggle just now was to do the show, is the girl to accept part of the wedding, or really struggling, finally, the girl sitting on the table is very happy to laugh, have to make people wonder that just now is indeed acting, the rest of the wedding ceremony is spent in laughter, the groom is out to greet guests, accept the blessings of the family, the family is preparing the ingredients for the wedding, And the bride waited patiently in the room.
In fact, the modern bride-snatching ceremony, in most cases, is to get the consent of both sides, will go smoothly, no longer like before, casually grab a woman on the street to go home and get married, however, there are still a small number of people, doing such illegal things, many women can only compromise in the end, so now many people are trying to put an end to this tradition, which will indeed cause a lot of crime, such a custom should indeed be eliminated, very unfair to women.