Netizens share: The night is dark, the floor-to-ceiling window, the crowds coming and going home. The food on the table had already cooled down, Zhang Hao sat alone on the sofa smoking a cigarette fiercely, in the smoke, he confusedly recalled the warmth of the past at home, but unfortunately those warmths have gone forever.
It took two hours of hard work to make the sweet and sour ribs that his wife loved and the braised pork that his son liked, and when he came home, he only looked at him and said to him: "Daddy, you give me money, I'm going to eat McDonald's." And the wife who had promised to go home early did not know when to wait.
I don't know when, home is more like a hotel for his wife Chen Hong, coming and going freely, just a place to sleep. When did these changes begin? I can't remember, after Chen Hong became a business lawyer and won several big cases?
Things are unpredictable. At the beginning, the vice president of a company, I encouraged my wife to take the lawyer's license, just hoping that she would be trained and improved. But I didn't expect that time had changed, and now I was ostracized, from vice president to a branch manager; and my wife's career was like a spinning wheel, speeding forward.
My psychological gap was like a roller coaster, sliding from the highest point to the lowest point. I can't talk to people, and others will only envy me after hearing it: "You are really blessed to have such a capable wife, this one makes you feel more at ease!" "Outsiders will only find it inconceivable that he will suffer from this. Yes, I was not in my own environment, and I could not deeply appreciate my heart and the emotions that turned the river upside down.
As a wife, Chen Hong was too busy to squeeze in time to listen to his complaints. As soon as she got home, she would only ask about her son's recent studies, tell her about the recent cases she had encountered, and in her gushing professional analysis, my mouth that had been slightly open slowly closed. Yeah, she doesn't need anyone to teach her how to do it now, just to tell you how well she's doing now.
She became very busy, and would no longer pour tea and water for him as thoughtfully as before, massage and rub his back, nor would she use gentle whispers to relieve his worries when he was not going well. She became fond of people, and as her social status increased, her temper grew.
I once said to Chen Hong solemnly: "I am a man, I can do anything at home, but I hope you can understand me, please stop accusing me." But when she heard it, she sneered: "I know you are a man, and now I earn money for my family every day, and I try to deal with everything in the family." Shouldn't you help me when I don't have time to do it? Isn't it all right now that you're idle and doing some housework? ”
I was dumbfounded. In the past, when I was a leader, housework was never touched. Now I understand her and want to do more, but I am reprimanded by her for not doing it, and she is not satisfied when she is done. I wanted to hire an hourly worker and a nanny, but she didn't agree with it, worried that other people's hands and feet were not clean, and she had to do everything herself.
As a result, I dragged the ground twice, and as soon as she came back and opened her mouth, she accused: "You see you, since you have to do it perfectly, if you don't do it well, I still have to help you clean up the mess, what does it mean?" Then I used her meticulous thinking as a lawyer to analyze one, two or three for me. Every moment, my heart was like falling into an ice cellar, and he looked coldly at the woman who was talking to himself, which was the wife, and it was clear that it was a discipline, no longer like a woman, no tenderness, not even expression, just a cold symbol.
I became more and more silent, and for a long time he didn't know how to laugh. At work, his status plummeted; in family life, he also changed from a protagonist to a supporting role. The son also called his mother directly as soon as there was a problem and never looked for him. I didn't have to do anything before, but I could feel the majesty and status of myself at home. Now in this home, in my wife's words, "He only deserves to cook for me at home." ”
Quarrels became a common occurrence for two people. As long as we meet, we will always argue about a small matter. One accuses the husband of not being like a man, and the other accusing the wife of not being like a woman. In the end, two gentle people who seemed to outsiders actually fought.
Such a day is also a kind of torture for Chen Hong, and she becomes less and less fond of going home. She is already a gold medal business lawyer in the industry, and because of her seriousness and efficiency, she is as busy as a gyroscope every day, but who cares about her suffering and tiredness? When she returned home, a lot of things had to wait for her to deal with, and her husband could not let her worry at all, but always used words to stimulate her and add to her blockage. "I don't know what kind of role I play in the family, I have to do everything."
My son was influenced by them and his academic performance kept declining. One day, when they were arguing the hardest, my son slammed the door and left. I inadvertently opened my son's writings, and there was a passage that shocked him: "Mom, if only you could go home and see it often; Dad, you just need to be able to smile." That's what I'm asking of all of you. ”
Such a simple request is not too much for any child. The two populations claimed that they were busy and making money for the sake of the family, but in the end, the distance between the two people was getting farther and farther, and even the son became an innocent victim.
The night was getting darker, my brow was getting tighter and tighter, and he didn't know how to change that? The balance in the family has been upset, but it is impossible to get the wife to resign. He had regretted countless times, perhaps from the beginning, he should not have asked his wife to work hard, and now although he earned a lot of money, he lost the love of his family.
Whose fault is this?
Conclusion: This should have been an enviable marriage: both husband and wife had successful careers, and they had a lovely son. But in fact, what we see is a helpless and dull marriage, the relationship between the wife and the husband is tense, the husband is dissatisfied with the wife's disregard for the family, only busy with the cause; the wife is angry at the husband's inconsiderateness. When the quarrel no longer helps the two sides communicate and becomes a weapon to hurt each other, the two people will only go farther and farther away from each other.