Today, I saw a parent in the group asking for help: the child's senior year of high school, the grades went up and down, the final exam was hit hard, coupled with the cold, he had not gone to school for four days. The mother said that her son was very stressed, his energy could not be concentrated, and he was irritable when he got the paper.
The child said that he either did not want to learn or could not learn. This has been going on for about two months. Mothers come to the group for help: I don't know how to give my child some advice, I don't know how to reduce the pressure on my child.
Mothers are anxious for their children to learn, which is something that almost every mother is difficult to face, and such things are not a minority. Now the pressure on children is very high, and sometimes parents are really in a hurry, but they don't know how to help.
At the same time, I also saw the mother's expectations for the child, although the child is now physically and mentally exhausted and cannot devote himself well to learning, but the mother's expectations for the child are still very high.
At this moment, the mother sees that the child cannot learn, in fact, the mother is more anxious in her heart is that the child has not gone to school for four days, and will leave a lot of homework. Looking at the child's mental state is not suitable for learning, and do not want to force the child, the mother is indeed a little helpless.
In fact, in this matter, the mother sees the child's current bad situation, because this is not good, the mother is anxious and anxious, so the mother wants to solve this is not good.
Our convention is to see what is happening, to always see its shortcomings at the first sight and to think about solving it. In fact, we can also look at it in a different way.
The reason why our children have such problems is that they do not come out at once, but also accumulate over time. Now we see that he is not good, so has he done a good job before, can we go to see the child's progress and give the child a little affirmation?
In fact, even if the child is in such a state now, we can still find his advantages. The child said that he didn't want to do this himself, but he couldn't learn it. So we have to believe that every child wants to be better and wants to be responsible for their future, but the current self cannot achieve physical and mental unity.
The only thing a parent can do is to encourage him on what he has already done, to constantly encourage him, to let him see his worth, so that he will come out of this state little by little.
And if you want to affirm your child, parents must accept the child's state. That is, to accept and allow the child to be in such a state now, and at the same time we must guide it with a positive and optimistic attitude.
There is still a period of time before the college entrance examination, and we can still adjust it. Now that this problem arises, it can be used as a drill before the college entrance examination and avoid the pit for the college entrance examination, which is a good thing.
At the same time, in the hearts of parents, we must deeply believe in our children, believe that he has his own strength, and believe that he will adjust his state to the best in the college entrance examination. Only when parents accept their children with faith and see that his strengths are in line with what he has done, will the children be lifted up little by little.
When his mother accepted him, he wouldn't have as many worries. When the mother accepts that he is in such a bad state at the moment, the child will be very relaxed. His emotions will be released, and he will calm down and do things.
Therefore, we must first stand firmly in the role of mother, adjust ourselves well, and accompany our children emotionally stable. We are the parents of the child, that is, to give love, love is enough, the child's natural motivation is sufficient, life energy is full!
There will be no lush greenery on barren land, only lush vegetation on fertile land!
I am Tu Tu, a tutor for the development of learning potential, engaged in the education industry for many years, with one hand to improve grades, the other hand to family education, to help children tap their potential, to help families solve educational problems.
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