Introduction to this article: Children participate in the college entrance examination, especially in the sprint stage of revision and preparation, the psychological pressure of parents will not be much easier than the child's mood. The first is the child's food, clothing, shelter and transportation, parents are more worried than usual, afraid that the child will not sleep well, eat well, and more afraid that the child has a cold and flu and other physical discomfort at this critical moment. Secondly, worry that the child will be crushed by the heavy learning pressure at this critical moment of "one foot in the door", otherwise, the child's "ten years and one sword" will be destroyed. In short, the parents who accompany the examination are afraid, trembling, afraid of a little disclosure, delaying the child's "great future", parents and comrades, do you feel the same?
As a person who has come over, I would like to share some of my thoughts and practices with the parents of the high school students who are working hard to accompany the exam, after all, there is a famous saying "poor parents in the world", which parent is not a child who loves his own children with a heart and a liver?
However, when the child is faced with a major choice in life, "the parents of the world share this heart", they are eager to take all the pressure of the child to carry it themselves, and all the troubles and unhappiness of the child are taken to their own bodies. Therefore, I would like to advise parents who are worried and worried, our worries and anxieties are not necessary, after all, the children are not our own, the children have their own children's plans and arrangements, they have their own ideals and responsibilities, sometimes our worries are not more worried? The answer is yes.
So, as a parent, how should you live in harmony with your child at this critical moment? The following suggestions may be helpful to you!
1. What should parents who accompany the exam do at this moment?
Accompanying the exam, competent parents will choose to accompany quietly, silently help, and quietly encourage. In fact, we feel many times that children generally do not want parents to accompany the exam, especially the exam, in the final stage of the revision preparation, the father or mother suddenly appears in the child's life, more or less will disrupt the rhythm of the child's life, even if not, in life also need a certain run-in period, which brings a certain slight fluctuation to the child's life and learning, after all, the child needs to adjust, in order to adapt.
Since the exam has been completed, parents must do what they should do under the premise of benefiting their children, what should parents do? What shouldn't be done? These are some of the comments you might consider:
First of all, under the premise of soliciting children's opinions, be responsible for children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, do not pursue the high-end luxury of life, and only ensure that children nervously review the comfort of life for exam preparation, and meet the needs of children's learning and sports physical fitness;
Secondly, the child returns home, the parents do a good job of companionship, when the child feels that the pressure of learning is too great, parents can help the child relieve the psychological depression, alleviate the psychological pressure, you can chat with the child about interesting things in life, or you can give the child some suggestions.
Moreover, parents need to actively understand the policies and relevant information of the college entrance examination, do a good job as an informant for the children's college entrance examination, and provide some countermeasures for the college entrance examination for their children. 2. Parents have a positive attitude and encourage their children.
Parents accompany the exam, with the child day and night, need to get along harmoniously, if the parents can not do this, the parents' accompaniment to accompany the exam can only be counterproductive. Can't get along with the child, and even friction is continuous, although there are not many such situations, but the impact on the child cannot be ignored. For example, some parents, who hope that jackie chan is eager, often nagging in front of their children, or they are unconsciously attacking their children: "You look at others" "Why don't you study well?" Wait, parents such words can only dampen the child's self-esteem and self-confidence. In this case, it is recommended that parents carefully accompany the examination.
Therefore, the parents' reading and examination must have a positive impact on the child, so as to achieve the "win-win" of the parents' peace of mind and the progress and development of the child.
Facts have proved that parents who are cheerful and optimistic about life must have a positive impact on their children. Pessimistic and negative parents can only make their children feel decadent emotions, and they can only bring depressed psychological feelings to their children's review and preparation.
When children encounter failures or setbacks, as parents, they should help their children analyze the causes, find solutions, build confidence, and determine the direction of the new Feidu's struggle; when children feel the pressure of college entrance examination revision and preparation, the responsibility of parents is to take the initiative to communicate with their children, encourage children not to be discouraged, not to speak of failure, and believe that children will survive this difficulty through hard work, and give children confidence and strength.
College entrance examination sprint stage, time is tight, the task is heavy, the child may have psychological problems, parents should grasp the child's psychological dynamics in time, through the child's surface emotional response, understand the child's inner changes, timely resolve the child's psychological anxiety, self-abandonment and other negative emotions, to ensure that the child with a confident attitude into the review preparation, and with a positive and healthy attitude into the college entrance examination.
3. Parents should set an example for their children and infect their children with words and deeds. Parents who accompany the examination can not only be satisfied with their children's food, clothing, shelter and transportation, but also infect their children's thoughts and emotions through their own words and deeds. Especially at the critical moment of the college entrance examination, many parents consider the importance of their children during this time, preferring to give up the important work in their hands to help their children make the final sprint, which would have been a reasonable thing, but as parents, they could not bring this final sprint nervousness to their children, so that the children were infected, so that the original emotionally stable children became busy after the arrival of their parents.
In the stage of the college entrance examination sprint, the child's time is tight, the task is heavy, the pressure is high, the child will have symptoms such as low mood, poor eating, and sleep, how should parents face it? Smart parents will definitely infect their children through their own words and deeds: return home to actively communicate and communicate with their children, accompany their children to dinner, tell their children about anecdotes...
A warm and harmonious family environment can dissolve the pressure in the child's heart, glow the child's new strength of struggle, and make the child easy to fight.
4. When children vent their emotions, how should parents deal with it?
In the sprint stage of the high school revision preparation, the child's learning is tight, the pressure is high, and the psychological anxiety is accompanied by the child's learning process, sometimes inexplicably irritable emotions, and vent in front of the parents, what should be done?
In fact, in this case, parents do not have to worry too much, let alone ask the reasons for the root, or even speculate, appropriate comfort, calm treatment of children's emotions is the best.
The child shows abnormal emotions in front of the parents, indicating that the child has encountered difficulties that cannot be bypassed. Because it is a sudden outbreak, perhaps the child has not controlled his emotions, and he can communicate after the child's emotions have calmed down. When the child's mind turns, he will explain the reason to the parents.
If the child's emotional anxiety lasts longer, parents should seek the support of the homeroom teacher. You can first learn about the child's situation from the homeroom teacher, if it is a more serious psychological problem, you need to seek help from the homeroom teacher.
In short, quickly resolving your child's difficulties is the ultimate goal. Parental accompaniment to the exam is a popular way to support children to sprint for the college entrance examination. Whether it is a big or small help for the child's college entrance examination, he is indeed the best comfort for the parents' hearts.
May the world's parents do what they want! I wish the children of the 2022 college entrance examination success, Jinbang High School!