As a 30-year-old professional woman, I have always presented myself as independent, confident and stylish. My name is Li Jin and I have a 10-year-old daughter named Xiaoqing. Xiaoqing is a lively and lovely child who attends a well-known elementary school. My husband and I are both office workers and are usually busy at work, but we both try our best to provide a warm and happy family environment for our daughter.
I have always paid attention to my appearance, believing that a person's dress can reflect her attitude and taste towards life. So, whether it's for work or leisure, I carefully choose clothes and accessories to make myself look both decent and stylish. However, this pursuit of fashion lifestyle has caused some misunderstandings and estrangements between me and Xiaoqing.
That day, I deliberately chose a stylish dress and a pair of high heels to pick up Xiaoqing from school. When I walked through the school gates, the parents around me cast envious glances. I smiled in response to their gazes, feeling smug in my heart. However, as I walked towards Xiaoqing's classroom, I unexpectedly saw her turn and run.
"Xiaoqing, what are you running?" I shouted confusedly.
Xiaoqing stopped and looked back at me with an embarrassed and unhappy expression on her face. She whispered, "Mom, can you not dress so fashionably to pick me up?" Don't be seen by my classmates. ”
I was stunned, unable to comprehend her thoughts for a moment. Didn't I work so hard to dress up just to set a good example for my daughter? Why did it make her feel ashamed?
"Xiaoqing, what's wrong with my mother dressed like this? Do you feel ashamed? I asked her as calmly as I could.
Xiaoqing lowered her head, was silent for a while, and then whispered, "Mom, you are dressed too fashionably, and your classmates will laugh at me." They'll think I'm a show-off person. ”
Listening to her words, I had mixed feelings in my heart. It turned out that the reason why my daughter disliked me for dressing up fashionably was because she was worried about being ridiculed and ostracized by her classmates. She would rather let me dress modestly than under this pressure.
I couldn't help but fall into deep thought. I always thought that my fashion taste could bring positive energy to my daughter and make her more confident and independent. However, I overlooked that the world of children is different from ours. In their world, overly conspicuous attire often attracts unwanted attention and discussion.
I began to reflect on my own approach to education. Am I not paying enough attention to my daughter? Am I not keeping abreast of her inner thoughts and needs? I decided to communicate with my daughter and get to know her true thoughts and feelings.
In the evening, I deliberately set aside time to chat with Xiaoqing. I told her that everyone's aesthetics and preferences are different, and we can't change ourselves because of other people's eyes. At the same time, I also told her that no matter what I wear, it will not affect my love and care for her. I want her to be confident in herself and not lose herself because of the eyes of others.
Xiaoqing listened to my words and seemed to be a little moved. She looked up, looked at me, and said seriously, "Mom, I see." I will try to be a confident, independent person who will not change myself because of the eyes of others. ”
Since then, I have started to pay more attention to communication and communication with my daughter. I try to understand her inner world and pay attention to her needs and feelings. At the same time, I also started to try to wear something more modest and decent to meet her expectations.
Over time, my relationship with my daughter has also become closer and more harmonious. Instead of being embarrassed or displeased by what I was wearing, she started asking me questions about fashion and styling. The topics between us have also become richer and more interesting.