I believe that parents must be very curious why, my child and other people's children sit in a classroom, the same teacher teaching, why is the gap so large, some high grades and some poor grades?
In fact, a child with excellent character and learning is inseparable from the influence of parents on the cultivation of children's habits and behaviors, which is the so-called subtle influence, which is very familiar to children, creating high grades and noble moral character.
First, teach by example, do what you say, and help children develop good habits of learning
It is very important for children to have good living habits to develop, and home is the main place of activity for children, so the first thing we need to educate children is to create a good living atmosphere, and at the same time, teach by example, let children develop better living habits and learning habits, once we see that children have made efforts, we must fully affirm.
A college English teacher, the child entered the Department of Chinese Language and Literature of Fudan University through unremitting efforts to enter the Department of Chinese Language and Literature. When the mother and son went to buy fruit, the aunt who was sold the fruit asked how to raise such an excellent child, and the child asked first, are you watching TV and playing mobile phones at home? The aunt was dumbfounded.
In the child's heart, this mother, as a college teacher, never watches TV, unlike other middle-aged ladies, her mother always reads at home and teaches by example.
When children are asked to study well, they themselves are also studying on the side. This is the power of words and deeds, children are convinced of their parents' requirements and are willing to work hard. This can also strengthen the child's executive ability, which is very useful for the child to have no procrastination in the future.
Everyone should have heard the story of the chiseled wall stealing light:
Kuang Heng could only study at night, his family was poor, and he could not buy the oil for the starting lamp. That night, Kuang Heng lay in bed reciting the books he had read during the day. Suddenly I saw a bright light on the wall.
He got up to check that it turned out that the wall was cracked, and the light of the neighbor's house was coming through the crack. Kuang Heng thought about it, summoned a small knife, and dug the crack a little bigger, so that the light that came through was also larger. He read a book in the light that came through him.
That's how Kuang Heng studied hard. Later, he became the chancellor of the Han Yuan Emperor and became a famous scholar in the Western Han Dynasty. His diligence determines his height, "karma is good at diligence and absurdity" Although his family is poor, he still allows himself to strive to be exalted.
From this, we can see that as long as you help your child develop good learning habits, just like you take your child to learn to walk, although he will wrestle on the road in the future, he will definitely move forward faster than before. A journey of a thousand miles begins with unremitting efforts with a single step, and it is certain that you can strive for a satisfactory result.
Second, be good at correcting mistakes Accumulate experience, find out the reasons, and learn to correct mistakes correctly
Another big reason is that the bully can accumulate mistakes to avoid making the same mistakes the next time. Like most of our parents, when their children make mistakes, they take violent punishment and beat their children, which not only does not play an educational role, but also backfires.
On the contrary, the children of parents who ask the reasons after the child makes a mistake and rationally analyze and explain the reason will become very different and become more able to correct the mistake, and will avoid making the same mistake, so that the child will accumulate wrong experience in the future learning and constantly make new breakthroughs.
People who are not sages can be blameless, and the mistakes they make are big and small, but they must all be for some reason.
Some parents may feel that they beat their children up, and next time he will not dare, but it is easier to make the child's rebellious psychology more and more serious, and eventually not only cause the parent-child relationship to be disharmonious.
The child will also feel that he is not respected, and I am not like this if you want me to do this. Over time, children develop this mentality of having to come against you.
There was a boy around him who was discussing the game, he felt that he could not fit in, so he stole his mother's ID card and money to buy himself a mobile phone to play the game, but the child's mother found out and rushed to the school as soon as possible to slap him in front of all the boys' classmates.
Although stealing is shameful, but if you hit him, will he not steal next time? How long can the pain in the body last?
To say such a thing is not to cover up the child's mistakes, but when the child makes mistakes, we should stand on an equal footing and think about why he is like this. In this way, children can find their own mistakes and apply them to learning and life.
In general, the child's performance does not depend on certain behaviors of the parent, but the parents' behavior habits and the way they treat the child are closely related to the child's performance.