It takes people over fifty to understand that it is a blessing in a lifetime to meet the following neighbors

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In the Three Character Sutra, it is said: "Xi Mengmu, choose your neighbor." ”

Choosing a good neighbor will make you feel "happy and harmonious" and the whole family will be full of positive energy.

The reason is simple, but no one tells you how to choose your neighbors. If you find that your neighbor's character is too bad and you have hurt your family, it is obviously unrealistic to move or argue with your neighbor.

There is a way that fifty know the destiny.

At the age of fifty, I am a senior at home, and I have a lot of social experience. For the interaction of neighbors, we should also understand two or three, and we need to tell our children such an "understanding".

We often say, "I am not blessed in the midst of the blessed." Whether it is a person or a family, if you want to be blessed, you must first live in the "blessed land". Choosing a neighbor is a key step in "living in a blessed land."

Therefore, it is said that after fifty years of age, people understand that it is a blessing in a lifetime to meet the following neighbors.

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First, "readers" with ideals have gained something from their studies.

During the Western Han Dynasty, Kuang Heng's family was very poor, and he wanted to read at night, but there was no lamp. So he chiseled a hole in the wall so that the light of the neighbor's house could shine and reflect on the books.

The neighbor, Mr. Wen, not only did not punish Kuang Heng, but also let Kuang Heng and his son Wen Dalang share a reading lamp.

When he grew up, Kuang Heng became a scholar and became a minister. Neighbors owe a lot of credit.

Now, many people put their homes near the school, not only so that their children can enjoy good educational resources, but also can hear the sound of reading and inspire the courage to read. Adults on the side of the school, there will also be a kind of "wind, rain, reading, sound into the ear" joy.

If everyone around you picks up a book, you're embarrassed to be noisy. Over time, you have achieved "living to be old and learning to be old".

At the age of fifty, when I recalled my parenting bible, books occupied "half of the country". In the future, being a neighbor with a reader, you will also be smarter and ignite the light of ideals.

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Second, "honest people" who are willing to give in and get along happily.

The "Yuan Family Training" records that the grandfather of the Ming Dynasty thinker Yuan Yifan bought an old mansion, but no one lived in it for a long time.

Later, Yuan Yifan's younger brother was given this old mansion. At the time of check-in, the mother Li Shi said: "The west side of the house is the house of the Wang family. When the Wang family built a house, according to the regulations, it was necessary to establish a fire alley. The Wang family had little land, so your father took the initiative to demolish part of his house. In the future, we must respect the practices of our ancestors and not compete with our neighbors. ”

As the old saying goes, "A gentleman is a man, not a man." ”

To be human is to tolerate others, not to wait for others to accommodate themselves. Such moral sentiments are admirable. If the neighbor can do it, then you won't hear the quarrel all the time.

Neighbors get along, and harmony is precious. What is the square inch of land? If you make a lot of trouble because of a bag of garbage, a vegetable field, or a tree, then you will have a million family wealth and will also be "grumpy". Money doesn't buy blessings.

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Third, the "high-ranking officials and nobles" who sympathize with others can be relied upon.

When you are fifty years old, you will think back to the path you have traveled, and you will find that many times, you have received help from your nobles. But why did you help you? It is not because in the hearts of nobles, we expect the society to continue to improve and have been positive.

When everyone wants to go to the high place, they have to contact the people in the high place. Therefore, if you find a noble neighbor, you will be blessed with connections, and future generations will also be blessed.

In the Spring and Autumn Period, Zihan, a minister of the Song Dynasty, lived in the city well, and there was water flowing from the west of his house, because the neighbors in the west were on a higher ground; the houses of the neighbors in the south just blocked the gate of Zihan's house.

For a while, the emissary of the Chu State, Shi Yinchi, visited Zihan and asked, "Why don't you let your neighbors move?" ”

As a minister above ten thousand people under one person, it is easy to drive away the neighbors. But Zihan did not do this, because the height of the terrain is a natural phenomenon; the neighbors at the gate, who sell shoes for a living, if they move, the business will not be done.

Shi Yinchi told the King of Chu of Zihan's actions. From then on, the king of Chu admired the Song kingdom and expressed friendship.

Confucius commented on this incident, saying: "Fu Xiu is above the temple, and the folding is thousands of miles away, and his Sicheng Zi is rarely said." ”

In society, if your neighbor is an official or a rich man, but has a high moral quality, you can also understand everyone. When you encounter difficulties, the neighbor will reach out and have a lot of strength. With the cover of your people, your family is much easier. This is the longest emotional card.

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Fourth, "well-meaning people" who know how to divide and measure up, accumulate goodness and become virtuous.

In the fifteenth volume of "The Surprise of the Second Moment Shooting", there is such a story: there is a couple in Diputan, Anji Prefecture, because the family is very poor, they cannot pay two or two official silver on time, and the man is locked up.

The woman tried her best, but she couldn't get two or two pieces of silver, very ashamed, and wanted to throw herself into the river. A Huizhou businessman who lived on the same street grabbed the woman and said, "Two or two pieces of silver, I will come out, don't harm your life." ”

Later, one night, the woman took her husband and went to thank the merchant. The woman knocked on the door and said, "Benefactor, I have come to thank you." ”

The merchant crossed the door and replied, "I am at home alone, and it is not suitable to meet women, so please go back." ”

Neighbors often help each other, and if you have to thank them, you can't tell. If the method of thanksgiving is not right, there will be a lot of contradictions.

When chatting, we often joke that someone is "next door Wang", that is, two families, because of emotional things, can't be clear, make jokes.

Therefore, well-meaning people, instead of helping you all the time, help you in the most appropriate way and keep an appropriate distance from you.

Everyone regards doing good deeds as a very ordinary thing, and over time, people in a place can accumulate goodness and virtue, and their blessings are as strong as fire.

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In the second half of life, if you want to live well, on the one hand, you live comfortably; on the other hand, your children go out with confidence.

The formation of a "neighbor interaction" situation, children do not worry about the elderly parents being bullied, no one to take care of; young people, not afraid of no good connections, life will not be lonely.

The older generation of people, choosing neighbors, is actually to seek the blessing of themselves and future generations, and can not be cautious and valued.

In the Zhou Yi, it is said: "Zhuo Qiqun, Yuan Ji; Zhuo Youqiu, unbelievable." ”

In a beautiful group, we have an auspicious life; in a place where positive energy gathers, we have a majestic power. Neighbors who seem to be not related by blood are closer than relatives at critical times.

In addition to the above neighbors, there are also "neighbors with smiles on their faces, neighbors who like to criticize you, neighbors with fetishes, neighbors who take the initiative to communicate", etc., which are worth our interaction.

May you and I, after half a life, choose a blessed place, gather blessings, be a blessed person, and live the rest of your life in peace.

Author: Cloth coarse food.

Follow my words and go into your heart.

The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.