What should I do if my husband has a little three outside?
What should I do if Little Three is pregnant?
Don't worry, the more this time, the more calm you have to be.
你得有点定力，有点大将风度，泰山崩于前而色不变，麇鹿兴于左而目不瞬。 In case of trouble, we must be calm and calm, so as not to change and respond to changes. Only by calmly responding to unexpected situations can we solve problems rationally.
"Long Live the Wife" Lan Shan encountered such a situation, how did she deal with it?
Lan Shan's husband, Chu Jie, is an entrepreneur who has been divorced for many years before and took his daughter Chu Shengnan to start a business. Chu Jie met Lan Shan because of his business dealings, was deeply attracted by her unique charm, and launched a strong pursuit of her.
Although she saw that There was a huge age gap between Chu Jie and her, she also refused, but she could not stand Chu Jie's fierce pursuit of love, and Lan Shan was moved. And in the process of getting along, he agreed to propose marriage and married Chu Jie.
One is a successful person with financial freedom, and the other is a small woman who is eager to marry and teach her son to yearn for a stable family life, although this combination has its own needs, but they are also Lang's concubine intentions and have a certain emotional basis.
It's just a pity that they don't have children in common.
Lan Shan has always wanted a child, and because of the delay in getting pregnant, she is a bit crazy on the way to having a child. The medicine is even stronger. Fill your husband with tonics, boil Chinese medicine, all day long, the family is full of medicine.
Chu Jie's pressure is great, Lan Shan has restricted the life of husband and wife in order to have eugenics and good breeding, and his normal needs cannot be discharged and satisfied. At this moment, a younger and prettier girl broke into Chu Jie's life. Chu Jie, because his wife only wanted to have children all day long, and did not care about his psychological feelings, so he went to the bar to relax, met Dong Wanting, and poured a bunch of bitter water.
It was a prepared woman, giving him comfort tenderly while inducing him to have pleasure in time, plus he drank two cups and made mistakes in temptation, somewhere between active and passive. But whether it is active derailment or passive derailment, doing it wrong is doing it wrong.
It was Chu Jie's daughter Chu Shengnan who first discovered this, and she specifically reminded Lan Shan: "There is a woman who is younger than you, looks bad, and has to take care of her husband." ”
Lan Shan also felt an emotional crisis, after all, Chu Jie had money, and long before he knew her, he was a gentleman, and a large group of Yan Yanyan.
Lan Shan had defeated them before, and whether she would be so lucky in the future was unknown. But her first marriage chose a divorced man, the first time to experience such a complicated married life, but also with the daughter of her husband's ex-wife, the rebellious girl who ruined her wedding, she is not a simple-minded person.
So when Miss Dong appeared in front of her, she smiled and said, "Hello Mrs. Chu." ”
Lan Shan immediately raised her vigilance.
Or not, the woman's intuition, the innate Sherlock Holmes. When a woman is wary of another woman, she must be aware of the red flags brought by the other party.
When the other party looked up, Lan Shan found the green jade pendant hanging on her neck at a glance, exactly the same as the one she wore on her neck, and then looked at Chu Jie's look, and her heart understood three points.
Miss Dong said in a showy tone: "We really have a fate." You see our jade pendants are like ah. ”
She pretended to be benevolent and falsely righteous, and climbed up the friendship: "You don't mind me calling you a sister." ”
Lan Shan didn't show her face, and looked at the clouds and said lightly, "No, just call me Mrs. Chu." ”
Deliberately glanced at the husband next to him, and read the information he wanted from the smiling and squinting look.
At this time, Lan Shan's heart was not not chaotic, but did not allow herself to be chaotic. Even if there was an ambiguous or improper relationship between them, she could do nothing now, she couldn't say anything. The so-called catching of adulterers must have evidence, and when she has not yet caught their handle, she cannot do anything she wants to do, and she must not mess with herself.
As long as it has been done, there are traces, and one day things will be revealed. And for now, let's live the life in front of us first. Later, take your time.
There was something in her words, and she said pointedly: "It's a coincidence." But this piece of mine was sent by my husband. Miss Dong, this piece, will not also be your husband to send you, right? ”
Miss Dong looked at Chu Jie, who was present without saying a word, and said shamelessly, "It's my husband..."
Chu Jie hid his inner panic with a smile on his face, if it were not for Miss Dong who had been pestering him, he also gave him a guarantee: "I know that you have a wife, rest assured that it will not cause you trouble." He was not so relieved to take his wife to a cocktail party and allow her to come in close to his wife.
But he watched the two women meet, get along quite harmoniously, and his heart is very cool.
A man's heart is never satisfied.
When the incident happened outside, he also hoped that the family and the outside of the house would shake hands and make peace, and the two women could coexist peacefully and not affect his life. The red flag at home does not fall, and the bunting flag flutters outside.
Some little three, with a plan, grasped this point, saying that it is eating this bowl of rice, professional attack is not excessive, if you get on her set, she will eat to death.
Such a small three, often clearly planned, the goal is established, and there is no shame. They would take the initiative to ask the man's wife out to negotiate.
When Miss Dong told Lan Shan about something and called Lan Shan her sister with a knife in her smile, Lan Shan already felt ominous, her face was tense, and she did not smile: "Miss Dong, call me Mrs. Chu." ”
Miss Dong opened the door to the point, indicating the purpose of this appointment with Lan Shan, and said murderously: "In fact, what is it called, it is just a title, and it has no practical significance." I'm looking for you today with something to show you. This is the medical report I just got from the hospital. I'm pregnant. Who the father of the child is, I think, I don't need to say it. My child has to be born, to have a father, to have an identity. ”
Xiao San's words are heartfelt.
In particular: "I'm pregnant. ”
In order to have children here, Lan Shan spent countless efforts to give Chu Jie those medicines, but she did not expect to make up her husband to the bed of other women.
In order to achieve a certain goal, a person is despicable and shameless, and he will not hesitate to use any means, regardless of the harm to others, there is no conscience to speak of.
When such a person bullies himself, he cannot be weak when he should defend himself, and he should fight back. Lan Shan is not a vegetarian, she can marry Chu Jie in a short period of time, she has taken down his daughter, and she is like a mother and daughter, how to do without two brushes.
Since the women outside dared to ride on her head and spread wilderness, she had nothing to be polite about. And her style, always calm posture, told her that no matter how angry she hated, she should also calm down.
Lan Shan's short sentence was extremely powerful: "Then why do you have to do it?" You have no name, no points. It is also a wild species that is born. ”
Miss Dong was already impatient: "This is Chu Jie's species, it doesn't matter if you don't recognize it, someone will recognize it, but you have to give up Mrs. Chu's position." Let go to those who need it most. ”
Lan Shan sneered, "You think this is a bus giving way." You don't have to think about The position of Mrs. Chu, it's impossible. ”
Hearing this, Miss Dong still had no intention of flinching, and was even more rampant: "Who do you think you are?" If you are the original match, I can still be jealous of your three points, but unfortunately you are not. You just got into position by virtue of how many postures and means you have, otherwise how can you have children every day in a hurry to consolidate your position. ”
Approaching her step by step, Lan Shan's face did not change color, and every sentence she said and every punctuation mark was permeated with a powerful response: "At least, I am married to a single man." Unlike you, it's someone else's husband who sleeps. ”
Miss Dong was stunned, after the inevitable embarrassment, she did not know how to quickly evacuate the scene, and there was still no shout of self-knowledge: "People must have self-knowledge, since you can't catch a man's heart, it is better to quit yourself." Don't wait for Chu Jie to sweep you out of the house. Then there will be no face. ”
It's really cheeky, putting the tangible dilemma in the invisible. Xiao San, who was anxious to ascend to the throne, was eager to move into the Chu family now and replace his wife.
In the face of the other party's dog jumping off the wall, Lan Shan was still unaffected, and told her with full aura: "Have the ability, let Lao Chu talk to me about divorce, you are not qualified to talk to me." ”
Nonsense less talk, domineering side leak a sentence.
Directly let the other party turn off the fire.
Wife and Xiao San in the end who is strong and who is weak, may not be good for others to judge, in Lan Shan's here, since she was forced to come to the door, as long as she shot, some are tricks, let the other party out of the ugly. There is no need to even move, just she comes forward, stabilizes her mentality and stands in front of her, and the wife is in a position to compete with it and make a judgment.
There is no bit of confidence and strength, otherwise it is half a day, it is also a waste of tongue, what is the meaning?
The confidence she has is what the marriage certificate gave her, which is the difference between a license and an undocumented.
The strength she has is that Chu Jie gave her daughter her share of the property, and everything else was given to her.
When you meet your husband cheating, it is nothing more than two choices.
Either divorce or will be done.
No one would be so generous as to share her husband with other women, but Lan Shan made such a decision and brought Miss Dong home.
Lan Shan was not without considering divorce, she had left a paper agreement to carry things out of the door, no children, the two broke up easily. She has never been a woman who only depends on men to live, and she can live a more elegant life by her own ability.
But Chu Jie was resolute not to leave, Lan Shan did not go home, he had to ask his daughter to persuade Lan Shan, and the moment he saw Lan Shan enter the door, he was finally relieved: "Thank God, you finally came back." ”
Lan Shan's eyes scrutinized, making him feel weak. She said calmly, "I am back, and I have brought your Miss Dong back." ”
When Chu Jie heard this, his head exploded: "What did you get her to do in your house?" ”
Lan Shan said generously, "He is pregnant with your flesh and bones, so you can't let him drift away." ”
Lan Shan's purpose in bringing Miss Dong home was to have children, not adults, she had not yet given birth to her own children, and some of them had time to raise children, and their family did not lack money to raise children. Even if you have your own children in the future, this is just the companion of your own children.
She even said to Chu Jie, "It doesn't matter, you can make a few more children, and I am welcome to take them home." ”
Her psychology was incomprehensible to others, but had to say that it worked very well for her. She's just going to beat her, watch her, or them, have children right under her nose, have one, raise one, have a bunch, raise a bunch. Anyway, the husband has money, and the woman outside can give birth to her husband, but the child is born to his husband, and she comes to raise it. 想进楚家的门，想分楚家的钱，只要她仍然坐镇，岿然不动，其她女人就没门。
Miss Dong thought that if she moved into the Chu family, she would be able to get what she wanted.
But even Chu Jie's face could not be seen, some of them were panicked, they did not know what kind of medicine was sold in the other party's gourd, and even the delicious and delicious meal in front of them did not dare to use chopsticks to eat.
Lan Shan sneered and said, "I don't know you well, I don't know what you like to eat, so I let my aunt do a few things at random, you can eat it with confidence, I didn't poison you." ”
Miss Dong may have foreseen something bad and was not good for herself, and she offered to see Chu Jie.
Lan Shan said coldly, "When you finish giving birth to your child, you love where to go, and you love to meet who to meet, but now you can't go there, you can only raise a baby with peace of mind." Don't think about anything else. ”
Rich people live in the villa compound, there is a security guard at the door, there is a nanny in the house, the house covers a wide area, closes the door, isolated from the outside world, is another world. Live in, do not let you play with the mobile phone, do not give you access to electronic products, every move is monitored, everywhere there are people following, and even for the safety of Miss Dong, a pregnant woman, even the toilet is guarded outside the door.
You can't go out shopping, you can't go out to meet friends, you can't move freely, but this is all your willingness to live in, and no one forces it. And the Chu family, the way to protect pregnant women, is so rigorous and meticulous, you are not used to it, you have to suffer. After giving birth to a child, leave the child in the Chu family, where do you love to go.
In the end, Miss Dong could not stay any longer, and had to recruit from the truth: "I am not pregnant." "Instead, it is to achieve the purpose of ascending to the throne." She thought that the other party would automatically quit and give way to her, who knew that she had met such a cruel character.
Inviting the pregnant little three home is a trick. But Lan Shan's practice is based on the advantage that her husband still loves her very much, changing a man who does not love you, he has changed his heart, there is no you in his eyes, this trick may not work.
Indeed, this is Lan Shan's advantage.
But it is undeniable that Lan Shan's biggest advantage is mainly calm, rational, and unchanged to cope with changes.
We learned from Lan Shan this calm way of doing things. In the face of men cheating, Xiao San forced the palace. The first time to calm down, if what others do can easily affect your emotions, so that you become uncool, impulsive, you will lose your mind.
Some women "cried twice and hanged themselves three times." In fact, such a drama is really useless, and it is even more annoying.
When you calm down and think: You cry, will he care about you? You make a fuss, will he value you? If you hang yourself, will he hurt you?
Calm down and think: Do you still want to live with him? Can you still accept his return? If you don't want to live with him, how do you gather evidence? How can I get my due benefits? 或者利益最大化？
Only by thinking of a problem and then thinking about how to solve a problem can we do things better.
Of course, to overcome all this. The premise is that you must have an economic foundation, and you must love yourself and improve yourself. You can not divorce, but you must have the ability and confidence to leave at any time.
Infidelity is said to mean that both men and women are at fault, a slap does not make a sound, and perhaps the most important thing is the man's fault, the so-called flies do not bite seamless eggs. He doesn't provoke the other party, doesn't give the other party a chance, and the other party can't pounce.
But in fact, for a wife, what she wants to protect is first of all her own interests, so no matter what the man cheats on, as long as the man does not divorce, the wife wants to maintain the family, it must first stand in the same trench as the husband. Once the wife confronts Xiao San, it is a war between women and women.
Smart women must use wisdom and strength to defeat each other. Wisdom is a kind of insight and judgment, as well as the power of action, but also a kind of ability to choose, but also a constant way of thinking.