"Long Live the Wife" after viewing

When I first started watching this drama, I opened the bullet screen, and I got a lot of thinking from the comments of netizens; when I saw more than twenty episodes, some of them could not stand some of the comments, and they were afraid of missing some valuable information, so they turned on and off; after that, the bullet screen was basically not opened, because the attack of the comments was found to become stronger, and the personal emotional color was aggravated.

Suddenly feel the importance of watching the drama with your brain to watch the bullet screen, otherwise it is easy to be assimilated by some incorrect ideas.

In the play, Lao Chu's ex-wife was sprayed by a large number of netizens as old, ugly, regardless of children, etc., and only occasionally one or two voices floated over to indicate that this ex-wife was actually very large. It is undeniable that the ex-wife's personality and pursuit are not suitable for us to have children, and it is not right that she chose to marry and have children and did not fulfill her due obligations and responsibilities. But after remarrying, she adopted eight children with her current husband, and said that although these children are not biological and orphans, it is a good thing that she has the ability to give these orphans a complete home and a good education. At the same time, the ex-wife pays attention to global environmental protection, engages in related work, and is committed to contributing her own strength to global ecological health. But many people do not understand, and are always entangled in her failure to fulfill her obligations and responsibilities to her own daughter.

Shu Xin and Zhao Tan are both people who take care of their families, but also have a sense of professionalism and responsibility. They have a good relationship, but they may not go white. In real life, a man like Zhao Tan is already quite good. But his family education, growth environment, etc. have created machismo in his bones, thinking that women should sacrifice more for the family, when the career and family can not be balanced, women should decisively return to the family, give up the career, even if that opportunity for the heroine Comfort is a hundred years of rare encounters, is the opportunity that Comfort dreams of, missed, this life is gone. The contradiction between them is that they cannot balance family and career. None of them were wrong, it was just that they chose each other wrong. Zhao Tan is suitable for finding a traditional type, no sense of enterprise, wholeheartedly take care of the family of women as wives, and comfortable and capable of insight, not willing to stay at home to rely on men to support, she likes to work, work brings her a sense of achievement, a sense of existence, brings her happiness, makes her vision broader. She is suitable for finding a husband who truly understands her, understands and supports her, and will not blindly ask her to make sacrifices for the family for a lifetime.

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In the process of watching the play, I slowly found that different people will have different views on the same problem. We can't influence other people's opinions, we can only respect different voices, for those malicious, aggressive troll language, the left ear in and out of the right ear, the geese are silent, and the water is traceless.

Recently, I had the privilege of communicating with a Qin businessman and benefited a lot. One of the passages he said stuck with me. It is impossible for a company to completely change a person, and even if it were, the cost would be too high to be necessary. Therefore, for employees who do not match the company, in the communication is fruitless, giving them the opportunity to adjust and change, still can not change, can only be dissuaded, and then look for employees who match the company.

After I listened to it, I thought it made a lot of sense. Because the essence of business is profit. Businesses are not schools, not parents, and have no obligation to reinvent employees. If employees lack internal drive, do not want to change, are lazy to change, and cannot change, then they can only ask for out.

In the same way, people in different circles are actually very uncomfortable to get along with. The circle here does not refer only to economic status, but also to the pattern of ideas and so on.

Because it is not in one dimension, different frequencies, no one can convince anyone, no one can change anyone. Then, the inconsistency of ideology and concept will bring about escalating contradictions and frictions and hurt each other. And there is no fundamental solution to this contradiction and friction, because thought is not at one level.