"Long Live the Wife" Perception (2)

【The Importance of Communication】

Men generally have good looks. Zhao Tan in the play is too good and strong, and the beautiful name is that he does not want to talk to his family about a bunch of people and things in society and work, and he does not want them to be affected by negative emotions. But in essence, it may be more for your own face. China's traditional culture for thousands of years has taught men to be strong, to stand tall in the sky, to knock down teeth and swallow blood, to bear everything... Actually, it doesn't have to be.

Regardless of men and women, everyone's ability to bear is limited, and it needs to be properly poured out and released. From love to marriage, it means stepping into a chicken feathered life, need to support each other, understand each other, take care of each other, and give each other emotional value in order to go long.

If Zhao Tan had told Shu Xin about his troubles of being ostracized and unfair at work, I believe that there would be a lot less estrangement and misunderstanding behind him, and he would not let a man or woman with ulterior motives take advantage of the void.

The phrase "flies don't sting seamless eggs" may not be so appropriate here. But I would like to say that the "egg with a gap" here is not to say that Shu Xin and Zhao Tan are not good "eggs" themselves (Oh my God, I am saying something [covering my face]), they are all very good in themselves, but the problem between them is that gap. And the reason for this gap is...

The "perverted Lu" in the play has a saying that makes sense: "After two people form a family, it is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 0.5 + 0.5 = 1, each of them must be for each other, and give up half of their own things for the family, in order to make the family harmonious and happy"

【The appearance will change due to the change of human design】

Lao Chu's daughter Sheng Nan, from the time of returning to China to kill Matt style + maverick, obedient and rebellious words and deeds successfully detonated the whole network spit, scolded her ugly, but also scolded her what came (I also forgot [cover my face]) even, because this role is too successful, the anger of netizens once moved to the actor, saying that she is so ugly, it must be unspoken rules, it must be to bring funds into the group and so on.

Later, Katsuo changed every step of her love, and then later she wisely confronted the potential little three in order to defend the family harmony between the little mother and the father... Netizens' views on her are also quietly changing. In the end, her killer Matt hairstyle is no longer criticized (of course, this is also related to the change in her makeup and dress), and she is more and more accepted and affirmed by everyone.

Therefore, the appearance is secondary, and the quality of the first impression can be changed. Even the most beautiful people may gradually become unpopular because of their bad character, too low emotional intelligence, etc.; and people with bad looks will also become beautiful because of their inner goodness, double quotient online, great wisdom, etc.

There are no immutable people and things.

Does the Blue Face Confidant really exist? 】

Some netizens said that it is really good that "perverted Lu" really likes comfortable and is rational like. So far, the play has not clearly stated that his liking for comfort is only a simple appreciation, pity for each other, or a mixture of male and female components. But in any case, when there was a marital crisis in Shuxin, his persuasion of Shuxin made people feel that he really hoped that as long as Shuxin was happy. He let Shu Xin marry his ridicule, a little true and a few false, unknowable. The move is, though, smart. Attack and retreat. If Shuxin responds positively, then he may take comfort with the trend; if Shuxin refuses, he can also say", "I am joking, you are really serious", which will not hurt his face at all; if he is purely joking, there is no such meaning at all, it is better to do, everyone laughs and ignores it, do not pay attention to it. Compared with Tang Zong's direct and eager "selling" himself when he first encountered an emotional crisis in Shuxin, "Perverted Lu" seemed more gentlemanly, rational, and more appropriate.

Well, here's the problem. Is there really a relationship between a man and a woman in this world that goes beyond the three emotions (family, friendship, and love)? I think there may be, but there should be very few. After all, this scale and measure are difficult to grasp and grasp. Even if both sides are gentlemen and frank, they can't stand the gossip and shadows of others. As time goes on, it may really change. Especially if you have a family with each other, it is almost impossible to maintain a simple confidant, because you think you are very open, but most people in the world will not think so. Under the provocation of tongue and the addition of oil and vinegar, the fake will be "matched" by these nonsense of "catching wind and catching shadows". If they are both single, they may be able to stay single for a few years. It is really the kind of confidant who can communicate and appreciate each other, but lacks the ignition of hormones, and it is impossible to rub out the spark of lust.

【Supplement】

The definition of blue face confidant on the Internet is as follows: blue face confidant refers to male friends, due to the particularity of men and women, blue face confidant is known as a kind of "fourth type of feeling" that is free from family affection, love and friendship, which is a useful supplement to love and friendship, and is a new way of expression of interpersonal emotions. The blue confidant is the opposite of the boy's red confidant, this kind of boy is a boyfriend who is willing to share the pain for you, but has no gender consciousness, and is a boy who appreciates and respects your ideas. The relationship between the girl and the blue face confidant is that two people are spiritually independent, soul equal, and can reach a deep resonance, this emotion is based on mutual cognition, based on the premise of mutual respect, understanding and identification between the subjects, and has more rational elements than love.

[Can you accept the spiritual derailment of affection and etiquette?] 】

Human society is rife with too many temptations. If a person likes another person who has a family, but does not overstep their bounds, can you accept it?

I don't know why, seeing this subtitle, I suddenly thought of female fans and male fans who like male stars and female stars. If the spirit is derailed, I am afraid that no one in the whole country dares to say that their spiritual world is clean.

How many married men and women are in the mobile phone, the walls of the home are drooling at the photos of married male and female stars [laughing] [sneaking laugh]; and how many people secretly admire the talents of so-and-so married men and women or others, but can only bury this admiration deeply in the heart, can not spit out a word and a half?

For in their hearts there is a moral ruler that is always restraining their behavior. Some people, some things, some things, even if they like it, as long as they already have a "master" and a proper match, they should no longer worry about it, they can like it silently, but they must be affectionate, stop being polite, and cannot be willfully grabbed for themselves.

So, can you accept this kind of emotional, polite spiritual derailment?