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"Brother I'm sorry, sister can't protect you anymore." Mom and Dad have handed it over to you! My sister wanted to leave the family, but she couldn't do without her children, so she chose this path. ”
Recently, Ms. Yang, a 29-year-old young mother in Hefei, Anhui Province, apologized to her brother through a suicide note, and jumped down from the 29th floor with her 4-year-old daughter and 2-year-old son.
The mother and daughter died on the spot, and the son died one after another after the rescue was ineffective.
The 29th floor, 87 meters, is equivalent to being pushed down twice from the national color Tianxiang bungee jump platform.
29 years old, 4 years old, 2 years old, a family of three does not add up to more than 35 years old.
On an ordinary staircase, once stood a desperate housewife and two ignorant children.
Ms. Yang's sister said that on March 8 this year, Ms. Yang had filed for divorce with her husband.
However, before the cooling-off period of divorce, Ms. Yang chose to end her life.
Since 2019, the year her youngest son was born, Ms. Yang has had many conflicts with her husband and her family.
As the hostess of a home, Ms. Yang has no financial freedom.
After getting married, Ms. Yang quit her job and has been at home with her children. Her husband deprived Ms. Yang of her economic rights on the grounds that she did not earn money. Ms. Yang can only maintain her daily expenses through huabei, and then her husband will pay back the flowers for Ms. Yang after checking the expenses one by one.
The in-laws have also always looked down on Ms. Yang, believing that she does not work and has spent all of her son's money.
The eldest daughter suffers from congenital ear diseases, and the younger son is also often ill. Ms. Yang has been silently suffering because she is worried about her children.
However, even if she struggles with the ridicule of her relatives and the torment of her heart, Ms. Yang still chooses to live an active life and use actions to fight for a better environment for herself.
Shortly before her death, she had already landed a job and was taking her driver's license.
However, before she could see the light in the abyss, she was swallowed up by the abyss and walked to the end of the road.
The comments said that it was because of being a full-time housewife that this young life was delayed.
I'm tweeting at today's headlines – if your daughter chooses to be a full-time wife in the future, will you be proud of her?
All the answers were unanimously directed – no.
One of the answers particularly caught my attention:
My family is a son, and if I had a daughter I would certainly not have made her a full-time housewife, and I would not be proud of her.
Because the divorce rate is too high now, it is necessary to let the child have his own financial resources and have the right to speak at home.
Unless the mother's family is very rich, or the daughter herself is very rich, she will be very passive. My family is a son, and if I had a daughter I would certainly not have made her a full-time housewife, and I would not be proud of her.
Because the divorce rate is too high now, it is necessary to let the child have his own financial resources and have the right to speak at home. Unless the mother's family is very rich, or the daughter herself is very rich, she will be very passive.
In a word, if you have economic power, you can grasp the right to speak, so that you can get the ideal marriage.
In 1947, the family comedy "Long Live the Wife", written by Zhang Ailing and directed by Sang Arc, starred the famous actor Shangguan Yunzhu.
The film received rave reviews upon its release and won the Hong Kong Film Awards for 100 Best Films in 2005.
The film tells the story of the marriage between Chen Sizhen and Tang Zhiyuan.
After Chen Sizhen married Tang Zhiyuan, she became a capable full-time wife, often handling family relationships with white lies and the most appropriate attitude.
The mother-in-law said that she was a good daughter-in-law, the sister-in-law praised her as a good sister-in-law, the husband praised her as a good wife, and the servants also called her a good boss.
Her mother's family is solid, and she is also extremely rich in the wisdom of running marriages, and she is in control of the family's right to speak and economic power. The big things and small things in the family are entirely up to her.
Help your husband start a company
Husband Tang Zhiyuan felt that the work of bank staff was too boring, and the future of development was not very bright, so he counted banknotes in the bank all day, and the bills of other people's families were clicked and clicked.
So she planned to start her own company and asked her father-in-law for funding.
His father-in-law felt that he had mediocre qualifications and mediocre family conditions, and felt that he was unable to repay, so he used a few high-sounding words to shirk it, and casually took the opportunity to lay out the spectrum of the elders and teach Tang Zhiyuan a lesson:
"Zhiyuan, I didn't say you. Young people don't do things well, they think wildly all day long, what a future.
I advise you, in the future, you will still keep to yourself, and don't make any new tricks. ”
"Man, how much power do you have to do so much.
You want to run a business company!
Wow!
But first you have to ask yourself, do you have gold bars? Do you have US dollars?
yes? yes? ”
Tang Zhiyuan touched a nose of ash and returned home to complain to his wife Chen Sizhen.
Si Zhen was dexterous and lied to her father that her mother-in-law was critically ill, and asked her that there was a safe with gold bars and US dollars.
When his stingy and greedy father heard this, he believed it to be true and funded Tang Zhiyuan to set up a company.
2. Catch the third child for her husband
The company's business is booming, Tang Zhiyuan made a fortune, and he emulated others.
Restless lover Shi Mimi secretly stuffed a handkerchief with lip prints into Tang Zhiyuan's suit pocket, deliberately provoking his wife Chen Sizhen.
Si Zhen endured for the sake of family harmony and her husband's face.
Gradually, the news of Tang Zhiyuan's adoption of his aunt and wife spread wildly. In order to maintain the dignity of his mother's family, Si Zhen's father ran to the small mansion to find Tang Zhiyuan theory.
Who thought that this ridiculous father met his son-in-law's aunt's friend Lingling, it was like a dead wood in spring. The old man, who was more than half a hundred years old, put on his dress again, covered with his son-in-law, and fooled around outside together.
Later, the deputy manager ran away with the money, and Tang Zhiyuan Company went bankrupt.
ShiMimi went to the door to make trouble due to financial shortages.
Tang Zhiyuan was timid and afraid of things, and asked his wife to find a way to solve the trouble for him, promising to keep to himself from now on.
Si Zhen came to her lover Shi Mimi's house, helped her pack her bags, and took her home to raise a baby, saying: "Although the Tang family is in the middle of the road, but the family cuts back on expenses, it will definitely ensure that their mother and son have a bite to eat." ”
Si Zhen opened her lover's wardrobe, was overjoyed, and said: "Your dress is really beautiful, when I go to my relatives in the future, I don't have to buy a new one. ”
Shi Mimi saw that she could not catch the money, and she had to be taken back to the Tang family to live a hard life, snatched the clothes in Si Zhen's hands, and scolded Si Zhen with her husband.
After helping Tang Zhiyuan solve the trouble, Sizhen felt that it was difficult to reunite with the broken mirror and chose to divorce her husband Tang Zhiyuan.
Quitting her job to take her children at home, Ms. Yang, who has no financial rights, chose to commit suicide by jumping off a building.
Chen Sizhen, the wife who has a solid family and dominates the family inside and out, also chose to end the marriage.
In this way, the dead knot of marriage is not completely untied by letting the wife grasp the economic power.
The core problem is not being seen.
Whether it is physical or intellectual labor by the full-time wife, the family turns a blind eye, feels that it is deserved, and even nitpicks and tramples on the dignity of the wife.
You are a wife, and they think that you should be sensible and sensible to solve your problems, family problems, and children's problems.
Like Si Zhen, the husband Tang Zhiyuan let go of himself in front, opened a company, raised a small third, and the wife not only had to deal with the trivial affairs of the family, but also endured the beatings and sneers of the mother-in-law, and followed behind to clean up the mess left by her husband.
Like Ms. Yang, she was trampled on by her in-laws, abused by her husband, and fought alone in a difficult situation, and finally broke out in silence.
Neither is a good relationship, and in both relationships, the burden on the shoulders of the wives is too heavy, and the effort is erased.
A good relationship between husband and wife is that both parties are considerate of each other.
Husbands also devote energy to the family, and wives are also active in going out to work. In the experience, the husband understands his wife's hardships in the family, and the wife understands the husband's fatigue at work.
Both parties can embrace each other on the basis of understanding, saying:
I see your pain, although I am very ordinary, there is no heavenly ability to help you overcome the danger, but please rest assured, I know your pain, so I will not take your efforts for granted.
And I will always be by your side, going through pain with you and struggling with you.
If the effort can be seen, the value can be recognized, perhaps the full-time wife will also become a proud identity.
After all, children want to have a childhood that is accompanied by their mother. Husbands also want to have a home with their wives and children when they come home from work.
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