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I saw a question like this on the Internet: "Why is it that the older you get, the harder it is to have happiness from the heart?" ”
Someone replied, "You took a bath, ate a meal, and felt very happy, not because the bath was comfortable, but the meal was full, mainly because you had no worries." ”
Indeed, there is no obstacle in the heart, and happiness can be more.
Churchill said: "There are too many troubles in life, but most of the worries have never happened." ”
In life, the reason why we are unhappy is that many times we want too much, think too much, and worry too much.
One person, the more alive the happier the 3 keys, don't lose it.
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First: If you don't want more, you will have less suffering
Huang Zongxi said: "Less desire to feel light. ”
Desire is less, nature is relaxed, no burden. Conversely, the more desires there are, the easier it is to get lost.
In the hit drama "The Journey of No Confusion", Feng Chunsheng is a very motivated person, who studied diligently from a young age, was admitted to the provincial city university, and worked for a construction company after graduating from graduate school, starting from an intern.
During the period, she had contact with the boss's daughter at work, and the boss's daughter took a fancy to this down-to-earth boy, so she took the initiative to pursue.
Feng Chunsheng himself has a girlfriend, but he wants to use the boss's daughter to promote to the top level, prove his ability is strong, and satisfy his vanity, so he ruthlessly abandons his girlfriend who has been in love for 8 years and turns into the arms of others.
After getting married, he wanted to enter the decision-making level of the company, so everything came out. His father-in-law felt that he was too ambitious and worried that he would lose control, so he suppressed him everywhere, which made him and his wife feel suspicious.
Until his father-in-law was terminally ill and took care of his father-in-law, Feng Chunsheng realized that in addition to life and death, all fame and profit could not be taken away. So he took the initiative to communicate with his father-in-law and untied his long-term heart knot.
In the end, he chose to leave the company and return to his family.
There is a saying: "If a person can control his selfish desires, he will grasp his own life." ”
It is common for a person to have desires, but when desires are infinitely magnified and cannot be controlled, they are easily swallowed up, and even let themselves fall into a place of doom.
We are not ascetics who practice every day, and we cannot have no desires and no needs. What we can do is less selfishness and less trouble.
Learn to delay gratification, be humble, do things steadily, speak carefully, and gain promotion in growth.
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Second: If you are not anxious, your heart will be at peace
There's a saying that goes, "Anxiety won't make tomorrow's sadness away, but it will drain its energy today." ”
In the adult world, taking the road of the present is the best future.
Actor Zhou Xun entered the screen from the age of 17, and the image of the girl in the film and television drama has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people and is deeply loved by the audience.
But with the aging of his face, Zhou Xun also felt anxious.
At first, she found that her face was wrinkled, her skin was sagging, her face was sad every day, she couldn't face aging, and she was afraid that the audience would not like her.
But this anxiety did not last long, and Zhou Xun accepted everything calmly. If the young role can't be played, then play the role of a middle-aged person. The eccentric appearance cannot be played, so it is played with a sense of age.
From Du Xinyu in "Like Fog Like Rain and Like Wind" to Tu Youyou in "Meritorious Service", a little girl who is not familiar with the world, and a scientific researcher who is focused and selfless, he is impressed by her acting skills again and again.
In the face of the passage of time, she has calmed down and found a sense of belonging in acting.
"Even if time passes, the roles played don't disappear, and every role lasts a long time, and that's enough," she says. ”
Many times, we are not anxious because of the passage of time, but because we are anxious because we cannot control our lives.
All people's anxiety comes from not being responsible for themselves, how you cope with life, life is how perfunctory you are. To learn to be responsible for yourself is to be responsible for life.
Tagore said, "If we are always depressed by missing the sun, then we will eventually miss the stars." ”
Don't worry too far away from tomorrow, because it will make you miss the good today.
Change what you can change, accept what you can't change, less anxiety, and peace of mind.
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Third: Without thinking more, there will be more happiness
In the "Essential Collection of Health Care", it is said: "If you think more, you will be sluggish, and if you think more, you will scatter." ”
A person, thinking too much, is depressed in his heart, and if he is not sick, he will be scared out of the disease.
I have a friend who doesn't want to eat for a few days and feels nauseous and has pain near his liver. At this time, he thought of his relatives, which was also the case, and by the time he went to the hospital for examination, he had already returned to the sky and lacked surgery.
He quickly checked the relevant information on the Internet, and the more he checked, the more he looked like a serious illness, which frightened his legs and made him weak.
He began to eat badly, did not sleep well, and came home looking at his sleeping wife and children, thinking that he would soon die, lying in bed all night.
After two days, his wife sensed his strange appearance and asked to take him to the hospital. While waiting in the hospital for an examination, he actually fainted.
When he woke up, the doctor and his wife looked at him and said, "You have nothing to do, it is caused by the recent stress and mental tension, go back and pay attention to rest." ”
After repeatedly confirming that he was okay, he didn't know where the strength came from, jumped up from the bed, rushed downstairs to buy a small steamed bun, and when he came to the hospital, he still felt sick, but now he was eating very deliciously.
Unnecessary worry, it is easy to let their fears continue to amplify, and even sleep and eat, the real solution is to stop internal friction.
All unhappiness is the result of many negative emotions. When things don't think more, there will be less worry and more happiness.
There is a saying that goes, "Happiness lies in ourselves, not in things." ”
Some people encounter unhappy problems, always think too much, and end up worrying all the time.
Some people have the courage to quickly cut through the mess, stop worrying themselves, and instead live a vibrant life.
There's a saying that goes like this: "It's hard to be confused." ”
In life, smart people understand that small things should be confused when they are confused, and big things should not be confused when they are understood.
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Life is short, keep 3 things, the second half of life can live comfortably, you must learn not to want more, not to worry, not to think more.
There is a saying: "The happiest seems to be those who are happy for no particular reason, they are happy only because they are happy." ”
Life is not simple, try to live as simple as possible. The simpler you are, the happier you are.
Many times, our unhappiness stems from too much lust, excessive anxiety and thinking too much.
In this troubled world, we can enjoy the tranquility of sitting and watching the clouds and clouds, and we can also enjoy the ups and downs of life.
May you be a happy person, not much desire, no anxiety, no thought, and keep the best side to yourself.
Author: Snowfall Dustless, Writer, Emotional Counselor. If you encounter any emotional distress, you can point my avatar in the upper left corner to send me a private message, and I will help you analyze and help you solve it.