A father called the Hangzhou Daily from the funeral home: Can you write about our genius son?
From this, we know the story of the genius translator Jin Xiaoyu - he is a bipolar, 10 years to translate 22 books, these foreign language works cover English, Japanese, German, the most admirable thing is that he translated the book is beautiful, even more wonderful than the original, and the translation does not have any typos, as long as I hear that it is his translation of the book, everyone rushes to be his responsible editor.
When Jin Xiaoyu was 6 years old, he was stabbed in one eye by a needle fired by a toy gun, and he could only use one eye to see the world. He had always been the top student in the class, but when he was in high school, he suddenly got bored with school and didn't want to go to school.
It's unclear if his bipolar disorder was related to the needle when he was 6 years old, because having only one eye can make him feel inferior and may be ridiculed or bullied by other children at school. All of this cannot be torn down and started.
Born in 1972, Jin Dropped out of high school and was later diagnosed with manic depression, also known as bipolar disorder. Even so, he still received a self-examination diploma from the English Department of Zhejiang University. After he dropped out of school early, his life was particularly simple, and he went out to the library, so he had the opportunity to read almost all foreign language novels in Zhejiang Library.
He has no friends, his father is his friend, but also his assistant, to help him receive foreign samples, buy information books, contact the editorial publishing house. By his own admission, he was particularly dependent on his father. His mother also chose to accompany him at home, but later got Alzheimer's disease, life could not take care of himself, lying in bed for 3 years, Jin Xiaoyu and his father took care of their mother for three years.
After reading Jin Xiaoyu's father's self-statement, I was full of emotions, this is a genius raised by an intellectual family! But if Jin Xiaoyu had not been born into a good family whose parents were intellectuals, he would have suffered such a fate and could have become a miserable madman who achieved nothing, rather than a genius translator.
Dai Jianye, a professor at Central China Normal University, looks back at his own growth history, and he believes that the family that xiangzhicai was born into, many people think is genetic inheritance, but in fact, most of them are created by the family education environment. BGI CEO Yin Ye is a top figure in the field of genetic research in the mainland, and he also believes that genetic determinism is ridiculous, and the nurturing environment of the day after tomorrow is more important.
Misplaced geniuses can only be reduced to philistines or lunatics
Jin Xiaoyu had a seizure and had committed suicide twice, and his parents were particularly nervous. At the same time, he also understood that according to the law, after attempting to commit suicide with bipolar disorder, he would not commit suicide again, and Jin Xiaoyu's father had a sentence that was particularly touching, saying that his son "can accept that he will not study, work, and not become a family, as long as our son lives." ”
The rare thing about Jin Xiaoyu's parents is the peace and calmness of intellectuals: no accusation, no abandonment, always standing with their children, inclusive and accompanying their children, and actively finding a way for their children. Tracing their family and discovering successful educational experiences, sometimes only need to follow the family tradition, Jin Xiaoyu's grandfather is the principal of the primary school, his grandmother is a teacher, and his parents are young plum bamboo horses who grew up together. It can be seen that they have a consensus on educating children.
Jin Xiaoyu suddenly tired of high school, did not want to go to school, his parents did not force him, but helped him find a job, he did two jobs are not satisfied, said that he wants to go to school, his parents also support him.
Many intellectual families have an almost obsessive-compulsive concept of high education, and everything is inferior, only reading is high. In particular, parents are college students, and they cannot accept that their children do not go to college, and they feel that this is humiliating themselves.
Suffering from bipolar disorder is a weight that Jin Xiaoyu's life cannot bear, but it is his luck to meet his tolerant and powerful parents. He smashed a lot of things in the family during his illness, TV sets, washing machines, refrigerators, etc. are all expensive items, but his parents are still very tolerant of him, and in 93 years, he dared to risk being smashed to give Jin Xiaoyu 12,000 yuan to buy a computer, which shows that even during his son's illness, his parents still did not give up their investment and love for him.
There was once a depressed person who told his own recovery story, which touched many people. Her parents, both intellectuals, accompanied and encouraged her silently during their daughter's illness. Some intellectuals have commonalities, they encounter problems, do not shirk responsibility, do not vent their emotions, and like to find answers directly. Dad went to the book, found a lot of information about depression, understood the symptoms of the disease, and explored the recovery path until the child got rid of depression.
However, many children of ordinary families are not so lucky, their parents are either controlling, or indifferent, children suffer from depression, in their eyes is a lot of things, is deliberately against their parents, some children even if they are sent to a psychological hospital for treatment, the rehabilitation process may also be because of parents' non-cooperation, the disease is repeated or aggravated. A child's luck and misfortune all depend on what kind of parents he meets.
Jin Xiaoyu was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, his father went to the data, found that many celebrities with amazing creativity are also bipolar patients, so in the process of raising his son, he intentionally explored the child's talent, actively contacted resources for the child, let the child put his attention into the creation, Jin Xiaoyu's translation talent will not be buried.
A good family education is the cornerstone of a child's happiness throughout life
There is a consensus in the family education community that family education with good parent-child relationship will be more effective with half the effort. To be precise, love is the answer to everything, and only children in loving families can achieve something. Otherwise, family education is a castle in the air.
Peking University Wu Xie Yu's mother murder case shocked the society, the wrong way of cultivation, so that children feel suffocated and depressed parent-child relationship, even if it can cultivate elites, when the elite's inner world collapses, the after-effect is extremely lethal.
Zhu Yongxin said that happiness is more important than success, and adults are more important than talents. "In all problem children, the reasons for their families can be found." "Family education is the foundation and key to the foundation of our entire education chain."
What kind of person a child can become, what kind of person he will eventually become, especially in terms of character, morality, and behavior, to some extent, first of all, depends on the parents. Jin Xiaoyu's story brushed the screen, and many netizens began to look for his translated books on the whole network, wishing this talent in suffering to maintain a healthy state and also wishing his translation work steady progress.
Jin Xiaoyu's parents have taught all parents a lesson, the problems we encounter are far less complicated than Jin Xiaoyu, but our family education is busy, maybe not a method problem, but a problem of mentality, if we can calm down, be rational, love the child as it is, maybe the child is not so much uncooperative.
Zhu Yongxin has written 10 educational tips, hoping to give all parents some inspiration:
First, respect for children is the starting point of family education.
Second, parents helping their children build self-confidence is the key to family education.
Third, the best education is to help the child become himself.
Fourth, companionship is important for children, and being together is education in itself.
Fifth, a family that does not read will never have a true education.
Sixth, on the cornerstone of the excellent traditional tutoring concept, the building of modern tutoring is built.
Seventh, the mother is the most sacred vocation of women, and the father is the best job of men.
Eighth, homeschooling is irreversible, but it can be changed.
Ninth, the success of education lies in the existence of good habits.
Tenth, education doesn't just happen on campus, life itself is the best education.