Cheng Dongwu said in "Junsheng I Was Not Born": "Junsheng I was not born, I was born Jun is old, Jun hates me for being born late, I hate Junsheng early." ”
The regrets of the two lovers because of the age difference are vividly expressed.
With the development of the times, people's attachment to feelings is no longer obscure, but to pursue generously, fall in love with a person, and the mountains and seas can be leveled.
As for what others think, what does it have to do with me?
Huang Jiaqun, a 38-year-old female teacher, is such a straight woman, she fell in love with a 65-year-old sanitation worker, without the slightest fear of worldly vision, and decisively confessed: true love, no need to hide.
01. A journey, a relationship
Huang Jiaqun is an elementary school English teacher who had a failed marriage.
She has high requirements for feelings and hopes to find like-minded people, although many people around her pursue, but she is not moved.
Once on the train, she put her luggage on the bottom bunk, and went to the top bunk to pack her things first, and heard someone below ask, "Which one is it?" ”
She quickly responded, and also intersected with Mr. Chen, learned that the other party was a fellow countryman, the two talked a lot along the way, and Huang Jiaqun learned that Mr. Chen went to Beijing for a business matter.
He originally had his own factory, the business was doing very well, once ordered a batch of coal, and at the specified time, the goods were not sent, and the money was not returned, resulting in his own turnover, the factory went out of business, and he also owed a bunch of foreign debts.
After the setback of the business, Mr. Chen lost his family, the living conditions of the twin sons also plummeted, in order to give the child a shelter, he put down his face to become a sanitation worker, but the loss of the business did not want to give up easily, as long as there was time, he ran to the other party to ask for justice.
The two talked a lot, Huang Xiuqun was touched by the other's persistent spirit, left contact information for each other, she told Mr. Chen, things have a result, be sure to tell her.
Mr. Chen is a person who talks about credit, and after he returned, he really wrote a letter to Huang Xiuqun, telling her what happened, and originally thought that the matter would end here, as a result, Huang Xiuqun wrote back to him.
The two talked about life from business, and from life to the attitude of being a person, the more they talked, the more speculative, there was a lot of intention of seeing each other and hating the night, Huang Xiuqun realized that the other party was the person she was looking for, and she took the initiative to express her admiration.
Mr. Chen, who received the letter, was silent, he was 65 years old, to the age of retirement, and Huang Xiuqun was in a beautiful stage of life, he also felt that the other party was very gentle in his heart, but he never thought of it differently, and only regarded Huang Xiuqun as a sister.
Huang Xiuqun refused to give up, and she sent a series of love letters, and said that she was not on a whim, but a prudent decision made by fully considering the situation of the two.
02. There is a gap in age, and there is no spacing between feelings
Mr. Chen couldn't make up his mind and specifically asked about the twin sons' thoughts.
The son told him: "Dad, no matter what decision you make, we support it, and if you remarry, we will give her a pension in the future." ”
The two sons were highly educated and open-minded, and also gave Mr. Chen courage, he promised to contact for a period of time to try, Huang Xiuqun happily bought a ticket to see him.
Mr. Chen went to work, wearing the clothes of a sanitation worker, and Huang Xiuqun did not mind at all, so he took his hand and accompanied him to work.
When Mr. Chen was finished, the two went to buy vegetables to cook, and when they met someone pointing and pointing, Huang Xiuqun would not be embarrassed, but would be generous to meet the eyes of everyone.
Her frankness also touched Mr. Chen, who accepted the other party from the bottom of his heart.
According to the conditions, Huang Xiuqun can actually have a better choice, she looks good, she also has academic qualifications, but her requirements for feelings are that the two have a common language.
Such a person is not easy to find in life, she has also been close, but every time the other party pays attention to her salary and housing, and whether she can have another child, she feels tired and feels that the rest of her life should not be just like this, but also should have a better pursuit.
With Mr. Chen, the two will not think about materials, Mr. Chen has a retirement salary, the income is not much, but enough to have a stable life, they talk more about literature, in Mr. Chen, Huang Xiuqun saw open-mindedness and optimism.
In psychology, some people think that love consists of three elements, passion, intimacy, and commitment.
Passion, is two people together, will produce dopamine secretion, each other have a heartbeat feeling.
Intimacy is the feeling of giving trust and dependence to the other party during contact.
Commitment is a responsibility, and you can get a sense of security in the other person.
These three elements are indispensable, if you have them at the same time, even if there is a difference in age, both parties will not mind and are willing to cross the age gap together.
03. Love has nothing to do with age, only the king
Remember Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan?
The age difference between the two is 54 years, and when they first got together, many people were not optimistic, thinking that their feelings would be short-lived.
But 15 years later, the two appeared in front of everyone again, still have a good relationship, walking are holding hands, for some people questioned Weng Fan for money, Yang Zhenning's will, did not give her property, she did not mind.
Weng Fan once said in an interview that the two have a common language, when they are in love, they can talk for 2 hours on the phone, go to travel, Yang Zhenning will also guard her safety, she sees a sense of security in each other.
Everyone has their own pursuit of things, and in the eyes of many people, feelings are evenly matched, such as age and identity to match.
But sometimes, the feelings that match the appearance may not be able to stay together for a lifetime, and the feelings that we are not optimistic about can sometimes bring surprises to everyone.
See more husband and wife contradictions, because of emotional betrayal and sad cases, and then look at the choice of Huang Xiuqun and Weng Fan, they have a quiet life, do not argue, and can talk about life with the people they like every day.
Someone said: "Love can transcend age, the world is more beautiful, only the king is the same." ”
Huang Xiuqun said: "Except for you, everyone else is a general." ”
She chose a different path in life, which we may not understand, but can be respected.
Putting aside the worldly vision, the two can be honest with each other, and for the love in their hearts, they can form a family, but they also lose courage.
Give it a thumbs up and go! Do you think there is love in the age gap conference?