My wife has been sick for several years, and my husband and nanny have also developed a relationship...

My wife has been ill for several years, and my husband and nanny have developed a relationship. The daughter advised her mother: What do you want from my father?

There are two things in life: busy and sober; idle, confused life. The two basic points of life: confusion and intelligence.

Confusion is a state of mind, but also a kind of cultivation. Confused people who don't care, find the big taste of life.

My wife has been diabetic for several years, and my husband and nanny have also developed feelings.

Feng Hui, 50, and her husband, Xiao Wu, have been married for 31 years. They have a daughter. Xiao Wu was born in the countryside. In the 1970s and 1980s, he went to college in order to get out of the countryside. Later, he met Feng Hui in the city. At this time, Feng Hui was an iron rice bowl state-owned enterprise employee that everyone envied.

Because of the huge differences in family background and knowledge level, the relationship between husband and wife after marriage is not very good. His wife, Feng Hui, always looked down on rural people and showed all kinds of disgust for Xiao Wu and her in-laws, so that almost everyone would not come to their home.

Xiao Wu is a smart man. Thanks to his efforts for so many years, he also has his own place. He not only had a house, a car, but also his own factory. In the eyes of his neighbors, he was also a successful person.

A few years ago, my wife Feng Hui was diagnosed with diabetes, so she stayed home. Xiao Wu took on family responsibilities, treating his wife and helping his daughter get married, but Feng Hui's condition did not improve. A few years ago, complications from diabetes made her leg pain so unbearable that she couldn't walk. In recent years, Feng Hui has hardly gone downstairs.

Xiao Wu earns money to support his family while taking care of his wife. Really a little busy, had to ask the nanny to cook, just to make Feng Hui can't figure it out. Although she had a nanny to cook in the past few years, she had never seen who the nanny really was. Not only that, since her husband hired a nanny, she rarely came home at night, even after 1 o'clock, completely like a hotel, there was nothing between the husband and wife.

After a long time, Feng Hui also heard from relatives and friends that her husband lived with others outside, but she was not in good health and could not walk, so she did not have to take too much care of her husband's affairs. Until last year, Feng Hui's leg disease worsened, the pain was unbearable, and she had no choice but to amputate her leg.

After Feng Hui amputated, Xiao Wu, as a husband, installed a prosthesis for his wife. After nearly a year of recovery and training, Feng Hui was able to walk on crutches. At this time, she learned from multiple inquiries that her husband had lived with the nanny for so many years.

In fact, Xiao Wu was not bad for Feng Hui. Every day, she would buy some dishes that Feng Hui liked to eat and put them in the refrigerator. Three meals a day will be prepared and brought to Feng Hui. Feng Hui once told Xiao Wu about this. She said I couldn't move before, you and the babysitter should be together. Now I can cook my own meals and fry the babysitter. Just come back early every day.

Xiao Wu did not pay attention to Feng Hui's words, or went her own way, which made Feng Hui very angry, so she wanted to make a statement for herself and wanted Xiao Wu to make a decision. Then, after learning from her daughter about the neighborhood where the nanny lived, Feng Hui walked to the door.

The nanny is a divorced woman named Wen Yao. The place where she lived was only ten minutes away from Feng Hui. This is a house rented by Xiao Wu. When Wen Yao saw Feng Hui coming towards you, she was a little confused.

Feng Hui asked Wen Yao why women should embarrass women and why should they take advantage of the danger of others to destroy other people's families? When Wen Yao heard it, he was also a little angry. She said, I didn't embarrass you. For so many years, I made your meals. After that, I didn't want to say anything more, and then I hid at home.

What Feng Hui did not expect was that Xiao Wu also came out of this room just after saying a few words. When Xiao Wu saw the arrival of his wife Feng Hui, he was in a trance for a while. Hearing Feng Hui's request, he said bluntly, I am now packing my clothes and preparing to go home.

Seeing more and more people watching and seeing Feng Hui's aggressive inquiry, Xiao Wu felt that his face was a little too small, so he drove away. After Xiao Wu left, Feng Hui continued to question Wen Yao, but Wen Yao did not want to respond positively to her relationship with Xiao Wu no matter how she asked.

Maybe Wen Yao knew that he was wrong, and when he walked out the door, he called Xiao Wu and said that he would not come again in the future. I lived my life, which should have been peaceful. Now the chickens fly and the dogs jump, and you can find a new nanny. Wen Yao also agreed to keep his distance from Xiao Wu.

On the other hand, the neighbors over there were a bit rude, and they had already convinced Feng Hui. After so many years, everyone takes good care of you. You live upstairs and eat every day what other people make. Not only that, but your daughter and son-in-law will also come here to live, and your family has acquiesced to Wen Yao's existence. Why make things bigger and deal with them calmly?

In the face of people's persuasion, Feng Hui did not want to care too much, only said that I did not ask her to cook for me, and then left Wen Yao's house.

Feng Hui went directly to Xiao Wu's bedroom after returning home. She misses the past. Feng Hui said that Xiao Wu used to be very good to me and would take me out to play and eat together. He was honest, but not stupid and clever. Since I was sick and useless, I changed my mind. People always change.

When she opened Xiao Wu's closet, there were only a few pieces of clothing that she was not wearing. After so many years of neglect, it went bad. When she recalled Xiao Wu's rental house in Wenyao, she put so many clothes, as well as new clothes. Only then did she realize that Xiao Wu had arrived home.

Just thinking about it, Xiao Wu suddenly returned. He asked Feng Hui if he had any food he wanted to buy. But for Xiao Wu's kindness, Feng Hui did not pay attention. She questioned Xiao Wu again. Why don't you admit that you lived outside with the au pair for four or five years? You don't dare to see me every night when you come back so late, just because you are afraid that I will say you, why should you take care of me and live with others at the same time? If you're well-said, I'm not unreasonable.

In the face of Feng Hui's question, Xiao Wu gladly admitted that for so many years, the meals made by the nanny, I send you every day. People spend a long time together, they become sentimental for a long time. My nephew is the president of the hospital. He said your illness won't last long. Let me take good care of you every day and eat well. Haven't I taken good care of you in all these years? I eat imported medicines, and three meals a day are delivered to me. I don't want your pension. I do all the treatments and prosthetics. As a man, I deserve society and you.

Xiao Wu thought that he had taken good care of his wife Feng Hui for so many years. He couldn't walk at first, but now he does. He had fulfilled his responsibilities and obligations to Feng Hui and had not abandoned his wife and children, so what he did was worthy of his conscience and Feng Hui.

But in Feng's eyes, she recognized Xiao Wu's care for herself, but this was not the reason why Xiao Wu had deviated. Feng Hui said that you lived with the nanny outside and deceived me for so many years, but you were weak to me. You have to give me an explanation today, stay with me well, why did you choose Feng Hui, she smokes, drinks, eats betel nuts... It's all poison.

Hearing this, Xiao Wu was a little helpless. He said bluntly, what is your use value? I've been taking care of you for over a year, and you've been sick for years. In this case, I have fulfilled a man's obligation. If I hadn't wanted to take care of you, I would have divorced you a long time ago. I took good care of you. You nagged in my ear every day, and even my daughter said you were making unreasonable trouble. As long as you are alive, I will always be responsible for you. Don't tell me anything else, okay? I can't possibly be 100 percent.

If you want to live well, I'll arrange your life, so you don't need to do these things, no matter how much I do. Since you want to do so many things, get a divorce. I don't want anything, give it to you.

Hearing Xiao Wu's request for divorce again, Feng Hui, who was sitting next to him, could not sit still. She strongly expressed her attitude and said she would not divorce.

Xiao Wu said you don't divorce, that's it now. If you can accept it, you can accept it. If it is not acceptable, a divorce can be granted. Your salary is your own. I will immediately transfer 60,000 to you, and the interest will be given to you. I don't want anything else. You tell me yours, I tell you mine.

However, Feng Hui said such words infuriated Xiao Wu, she said, I just don't divorce, dragging you, you are sorry for me.

Xiao Wu roared angrily. I took care of you for 18 years. As a wife, you didn't take care of me for a day. What is your contribution to this family? I take care of you. You should be grateful. Why are you creating trouble here? After the fifth lesson, I stopped paying attention to my wife, and there was no point in communicating with you bluntly.

Daughter's bitter water, you only care about your own happiness and never think about it for us.

At present, he could not continue to communicate with Xiao Wu, so he had to find Wen Yao again. Feng Hui thought that as long as Wen Yao stopped reasoning with Xiao Wu, Xiao Wu might change his mind, but Wen Yao said that I never wanted to destroy their family. Instead, he often advised Xiao Wu to be nice to his wife and let him go home. I also watched Xiao Wu take good care of his wife, so I had a good impression of him. I used to live far away to take care of my wife for convenience.

It's just that Xiao Wu likes to play cards. He didn't want to come home every time he stayed here late because his wife scolded him every time. As a woman, don't scold your husband easily. If you want to scold him, who wants to go home?

The fifth daughter, Zhang Li, also came. She said that Aunt Wen Yao was not bad for my mother. After I told my dad now, he has come home more often now, that is, emotionally, my dad's heart is no longer on my mom, but there is no ambiguity in taking care of her. She took her meal, took the feces, washed her face, washed her feet, and bathed. She never complained.

In addition to that, my dad would pay all my mom's medications, my grandparents' alimony, and my mom's pension. My dad said let my mom take it herself and didn't want her a penny. If a man does this, what else does he want from my dad other than not giving for his feelings?

Relatives and neighbors at home more or less knew that my father would live with Aunt Wen Yao again, but my mother had been ill for so many years and had lost her help. All the difficulties in the family are a burden on the father. I also understood my father and accepted her being with Aunt Wen Yao. While he had moral issues, every family had tough experiences. From our perspective, what can I do?

But then again, Aunt Wen Yao is a very good person. When I was sick, she took care of me. It can be said that she is also a member of our family.

Zhang Li's sudden appearance became a lobbyist. She also felt aggrieved for Wen Yao and her father. She then went home to persuade her mother to open her heart, but when Feng Hui saw her daughter come to the door as a lobbyist, she became even more angry. She longs for her daughter to find Wen Yao and keep her away from our house. Don't associate with Xiao Wu and destroy other people's families.

For her mother's appeal, Zhang Li was once in trouble. She said what attitude I had to talk to people about it. They were very nice to us. My child was brought up by Aunt Wen Yao. What qualifications do I have to talk to someone? You were too selfish when you were sick, never considered our feelings, couldn't help your family, and at first told me not to have children.

Before she could finish speaking, Feng Hui interrupted her daughter's words, she said, yes, people help you take care of the child, yes, your child should not be born, but also let the family help you take care of the child, that is not more Zong Wenyao ruined our family?

After listening to her mother's words, Zhang Li snorted. She said to her mother, "You'll never think of me. I understand my father's difficulties and your pain, but I also hope you understand our feelings. You just want to be happy alone. You think only of yourself the whole time and never think about others. ”

When the mother and daughter quarreled, Zhang Li said, as if she was venting, I can think for you, you should also think about us. If I didn't think about you, just for myself, I wouldn't convince my dad. Does my dad come back often now? His heart is not on you. It's nice to come back. What do you want from him? I had to go see Aunt Wen Yao. I am not related to her by blood. Children are brought up by others. What qualifications do I have to trouble her? Can you not hold on to this matter?

In the end, Feng Hui also made concessions, saying that she would not nag her husband in the future. At the same time, he also said that as long as the husband can come back early in the evening, other things should not interfere too much. Xiao Wu also agreed and cleaned up his clothes from Wen Yao's rental house. He said he would be responsible for his wife to the end, but he sincerely hoped that her wife would let go of her temper and pay attention to the way she spoke.

Zhang Li said that every family has a difficult experience, and it is true. For Xiao Wu, it is also worth affirming that he can take care of his wife who has been seriously ill for so many years without complaint. When he flies, he can go back to his wife and do his duty without abandoning his wife and children, which is more worthy of recognition.

But then again, there are some problems with his morality, but he is right or wrong, we cannot judge from the moral high ground, and it is also a matter of benevolence having different opinions. After all, we don't persuade others to be kind and not to suffer from others.

For my wife Feng Hui, the physical condition is already like this, so we should relax every day, live well, and not be trapped by love, because health is more important than anything.

Life is like a grain of dust. On the surface, it is their own master, but in fact, they are dominated by the people of heaven and earth. Many people change, we can't control it, we can only follow the fate. If you want to live happily, you should learn to do things soberly and act foolishly. Nothing was perfect, everything was clear and the stains were obvious. I lived too seriously, so it was painful.

If people look down on it, they'll get hurt less, and if people get confused, they'll be happier.

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