In 2008, a photo published in britain's Daily Mail saw hundreds of millions of Chinese crying.
In the photo, a man dressed in blue riding a motorcycle is carefully looking back to check the situation behind him.
Behind him, wuhua tied a woman dressed in red. The woman's legs were stiff, hanging on the ground, and she looked very strange.
This photograph was taken during the Wenchuan earthquake and shows a man named Wu Jiafang, and the woman behind him is his wife, who has been killed in the earthquake.
In order to make his wife fall leaves back to the roots, Wu Jiafang decided to ride a motorcycle and take his wife home.
After this scene was reported by reporters, Wu Jiafang was all over the Internet overnight, and was called "the most affectionate husband in the earthquake".
However, half a year later, Wu Jiafang changed from a "crazy lover" praised by everyone to a "thin lover" who was crusaded by the whole network. What's going on with all this?
Wu Jiafang, a native of Xinglong Town, Mianzhu, Sichuan, dropped out of school to work very early. At the age of 22, he became a cement craftsman on a construction site.
He and his wife, Shi Huaqiong, met and fell in love on the construction site.
Although the income is not high, the relationship between the two small families has always been very good. Shi Huaqiong loves beauty, and Wu Jiafang will buy her clothes and headdresses after she is paid.
And Shi Huaqiong is to give full play to the ability of Sichuan girls, clean up the home refreshingly, and plant a variety of flowers and plants in the yard.
The second year after the marriage, their son was born, and the little life brought a lot of fun to this small family.
Although the days are plain, they are also warm and happy, and who ever expected that disasters would come unexpectedly.
At noon on May 12, 2008, Shi Huaqiong, as usual, made a fragrant meal, and the family sat happily at the table to eat.
After eating, Shi Huaqiong put on makeup, put on a red wig, wore a black T-shirt and jeans, let Wu Jiafang ride on a motorcycle, and took herself to town to charge the phone bill.
Wu Jiafang's motorcycle rode fast, and his wife hurriedly told him to ride slower, but Wu Jiafang rushed to work, where he could hear it, he sent his wife to the mobile business hall in the town, and then rushed to the construction site.
Not long after arriving at the construction site, suddenly, the ground began to shake violently, and Wu Jiafang felt a dizziness.
"No, there's an earthquake!" The workers shouted and rushed outside. Wu Jiafang also ran out of the shed with everyone and came to the empty outdoors.
At this time, the sky was so gloomy that it was breathless, and the ground was like a giant beast rolling, roaring, and trembling. Some unfinished walls began to crack and collapse.
An ominous breath hung over Wu Jiafang's heart, and the first thing he thought of was his wife and son at home, not knowing how safe they were.
So, he quickly rode home, and before he could enter the house, he saw his son standing in the courtyard with a washing machine, but he did not see his wife.
He hurriedly asked his son, "Is your mother back?" ”
Hearing his son say no, Wu Jiafang told his son to stay in the courtyard, and he rode a motorcycle and hurried to Hanwang Town to find his wife.
The road was crowded with vehicles and crowds fleeing the disaster, which made Wu Jiafang feel a little comforted in her heart, thinking that maybe his wife was in these crowds, but until the mobile business hall, he did not see his wife's figure.
Fortunately, the house in the business hall did not collapse, and Wu Jiafang's heart was much more solid.
But there is still no trace of his wife here. Wu Jiafang remembered that his wife usually liked to go to a nearby tea house to watch people play cards, so he rushed to the tea house again.
When he got there, Wu Jiafang was stunned, and the tea house that was originally lively and lively became a ruin at this time. At the moment, he wished his wife was not here.
Wu Jiafang followed the ruins and shouted his wife's name loudly, but there was no response.
Disappointment and hope kept tugging at his heart, and Wu Jiafang was anxious and comforted himself: no news is good news.
But the scene that suddenly appeared in front of him made him feel like he had been struck by lightning.
Behind a door, Wu Jiafang saw a red wig and a figure wearing a black T-shirt and jeans, which was a dress he was familiar with.
Shi Qiongfang's legs were forked back and forth, and she still maintained a running posture, as long as she ran one more step, she could be safe, but she did not run through the god of death, and a heavy prefabricated board smashed on her head.
Wu Jiafang anxiously called out his wife's name, but her wife would never answer him again.
His heart was like a knife, and he wanted to pull his wife out, but the stone slab pressed against her body was too heavy.
There was no way, Wu Jiafang could only drill under the stone slab, use his back to desperately arch the stone slab, and move his wife out little by little.
Holding his wife's cold hand, Wu Jiafang's eyes were red, he wanted to take his wife home, but there was no tool around him.
Finally, he found a flat prefabricated board on a high place, set up a simple tent, and then picked up his dead wife and gently placed it in the tent.
After doing all this, Wu Jiafang only felt drained of his strength, and he sat with his wife for more than two hours.
It slowly darkened and began to rain. Wu Jiafang suddenly remembered that the family house had cracked and could collapse at any time, and the child stayed at home alone, waiting for him and his wife to come home.
His heart was both painful and anxious, his wife was gone, and he was afraid that something would happen to his son again. As a last resort, he could only leave his wife behind and return home one foot deep and one foot shallow.
The son asked him, "What about my mother?" ”
Wu Jiafang lowered his head and did not speak, and his son suddenly understood that his mother was no longer there, and desperately cried and cried to find his mother.
Wu Jiafang hugged her son and choked up.
The hemp rope is specially picked and broken, and the bad luck is entangled in the bitter fate. From now on, only the two of them will be left to live with each other.
That night, Wu Jiafang and her son did not eat dinner, they built a simple tent in the courtyard and sat overnight. Thinking of his wife, who was still lying on the ruins, Wu Jiafang could not close her eyes and shed tears.
This earthquake shattered countless families. It seems that God is also weeping over this, and the heavy rain is two days.
On the third day, the heavy rain finally stopped and the sky returned to clear. Wu Jiafang decided to pick up his wife and go home, he thought that his wife loved to be beautiful before she was born, so he found his wife's favorite clothes and scarves, and planned to take her back beautifully.
Returning to the simple tent again, he slowly helped his wife wipe the dust off her face, dressed her in beautiful clothes, and wrapped her head in a scarf.
After doing this, Wu Jiafang found the nearby rescue officers and asked them to help carry his wife's body onto the motorcycle and tie it behind his back, and his wife's arms were still wrapped around his waist as before he was born.
The moment he started the motorcycle, he vaguely felt that his wife was still alive, and as usual, he put his arms around his waist. But the cold touch on his back reminded him that his wife was eternally separated from him.
Outside the ruins, excavators and loaders were digging up collapsed buildings, and the roads were congested, and Wu Jiafang's car could not ride out.
But when everyone saw him, they silently suspended their work and gave him a way.
This way, Wu Jiafang rode very slowly. His wife usually always told him to ride slowly, ride slowly, but he went in and out of his left ear, only this time, he obeyed, but his wife would never nag him again.
Afraid that his wife would be scratched, he stopped and looked back at every time he rode a section of the road, but unexpectedly, this scene was filmed by the reporter.
Unexpectedly, this time the secret shooting actually changed his life.
The reporter who secretly photographed him was from the British Daily Mail. Soon, the newspaper published a photo titled "Giving The Last Dignity to The Wife."
Wu Jiafang's deeds also went viral on the Internet, and netizens praised him as a "good husband with love and righteousness", believing that he was the representative of China's "obsessive" men.
Even CCTV was alarmed, and the "Remember" program team specially did an interview for him.
Everyone said that Wu Jiafang was famous, but he was not happy, after all, the death of his wife had made his heart almost collapse.
In the past, Wu Jiafang was busy all day, even if she was tired and had back pain, as long as she returned home, saw her wife's busy figure, and smelled the familiar aroma of food, she would feel full of happiness.
Today, the family has lost the control of the hostess, and it seems to have lost its vitality. And Wu Jiafang is both a father and a mother, pulling the child alone, and the bitterness in her heart has nowhere to vent.
He missed his wife all the time, and even chose her grave at the edge of the wheat field 20 meters away from home, facing the window of his room.
So when he woke up in the middle of the night, as soon as he pushed open the window, he could see his wife's grave.
Every morning, he would go to his wife's grave to see, bring her favorite flowers, chat with her about home cooking, and stay for most of the day.
Everyone said that as soon as his wife left, she took Wu Jiafang's soul with her.
At this moment, a woman entered his life, like a ray of sunshine, illuminating his heart.
The woman's name is Liu Rurong, a Chengdu native who works in Shenzhen. Having suffered from emotional injuries, she learned about Wu Jiafang's deeds from TV, and she was immediately moved by this man with feelings and righteousness.
She did not hesitate to send a courtship letter to Wu Jiafang.
At first, Wu Jiafang did not care, after all, after being on TV, he received more than a dozen such letters almost every day.
But Liu Rurong was very persevering, she insisted on sending letters, and explained her situation in the letter, and also attached personal photos to show sincerity.
It turned out that Liu Rurong was also a bitter person, originally serving in the Chengdu Urban Construction Bureau, but later resigned to go to the sea, opened a hot pot city, and did a catering business, but unfortunately in the end, not only lost all the money, but her husband also divorced himself.
Now she is wandering in Shenzhen, eager to find a man like Wu Jiafang who cherishes love and righteousness for the rest of her life.
Wu Jiafang was touched by her sincerity, and the two began to have phone calls. Gradually, Wu Jiafang's face began to smile, and his spirit was much more sufficient.
As their relationship gradually deepened, in November 2008, Liu Rurong resolutely decided to fly from Shenzhen to Chengdu to meet Wu Jiafang.
At this meeting, Liu Rurong found that Wu Jiafang loved to be cleaner than ordinary men, and was very accommodating to herself, but whenever she raised the problem, Wu Jiafang could immediately correct it and change it until she was satisfied.
And Wu Jiafang also felt that Liu Rurong was very capable and really treated herself well, so after only 9 days of meeting, they went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the marriage registration procedures.
After that, they went to Shenzhen together and participated in the group wedding.
At this time, it was only half a year before Wu Qiongfang's death.
As soon as the news of Wu Jiafang's remarriage came out, it was like a deep-water bomb, which triggered an uproar in public opinion.
Once again, the media flocked to it, but this time, they brought no more praise, but full of disappointment.
Jian Fangzhou, the reporter who first reported the news of Wu Jiafang's remarriage, said that after he learned the news, while being surprised, his mood plummeted, and he felt that Wu Jiafang had destroyed everyone's expectations for perfect love.
There are also people who call themselves Wu Jiafang's fellow villagers, posting on the Internet, saying that Wu Jiafang's vices are very heavy, and the local reputation is very bad.
This news also attracted the attention of Chengdu Television, and the "Truth Thirty Points" column group did a special interview, called "Wu Jiafang: Love and Righteousness or Absolute Righteous Man".
In the program, the TV station interviewed villagers in the same village as Wu Jiafang. Villagers said that Wu Jiafang's return home from his dead wife was only forced by his mother-in-law's family, and his relationship with Shi Huaqiong was not good, and the two often divorced.
Everyone also revealed that Wu Jiafang had a bad character, did not support his father for the elderly, and even in the face of mediation by village cadres, he said unceremoniously: "Even if (my father) sued me in court, I lost the case, and I would rather go to jail than provide for him." ”
At the end of the show, it was revealed that Wu Jiafang hurriedly remarried when his wife's bones were not cold.
This undoubtedly subverted the image of Wu Jiafang in the hearts of the audience, and some netizens said: "When we first saw him carrying the body of his deceased wife home, we admired him very much." But now that he is remarrying so quickly, we feel that his original love for his wife has been discounted. ”
More fierce speakers scolded Wu Jiafang and Liu Rurong as "pigs and dogs are not as good as a pair of dog men and women".
The overwhelming public opinion made Wu Jiafang very hurt, he could not understand, obviously he was still the original self, how could he be pointed out by thousands of people, thousands of people spit on it?
Also uncomfortable is Liu Rurong, in addition to bearing the criticism of everyone, she is also facing a hurdle that cannot be crossed, and that hurdle was the reason why she rushed to Wu Jiafang, that is, Wu Jiafang's deceased wife.
Although he has remarried, Wu Jiafang has not forgotten his deceased wife, he planted Shi Huaqiong's favorite flower in the yard, and when he saw it, it was as if he saw Shi Huaqiong. When he was depressed, he often ran to Shi Huaqiong's tomb to tell his dead wife.
One day, Liu Rurong saw Wu Jiafang go to Shi Huaqiong's grave to talk again, and without a fight, she chased after him and asked him: "Do you love me or do you love her?" ”
Wu Jiafang said: "She is my ex-wife, we have lived together for more than 20 years. Besides, she's dead, what vinegar did you eat with her? ”
After the passion faded, the life of a chicken feather finally revealed its true face.
Economically, Wu Jiafang is also stretched, because the family's house was damaged in the earthquake and needs to be rebuilt, Wu Jiafang can't pay money, Liu Rurong can only pay 40,000 yuan from her own pocket to him.
This made Liu Rurong feel more and more aggrieved, and they began to quarrel over various small things, and the number of quarrels was more, so they shouted for divorce.
The feelings of the two were slowly smoothed out. The sweetness is gone, and all that remains is endless pain.
In June 2010, the flash marriage lasted only about a year and a half before it came to an end.
At the time of the divorce, Liu Rurong asked Wu Jiafang for 40,000 yuan of money and demanded that Wu Jiafang repay her.
Where can Wu Jiafang get it? He could only run around to raise money, but ran for a week and only borrowed 3200 yuan from 5 classmates, co-workers, and relatives.
Just then, a strange man came to visit, claiming to be the head of a business investigation company.
After learning of Wu Jiafang's plight, the man said that if Wu Jiafang was willing, he could go to his company to work, and prepaid 40,000 yuan to him as a salary for two years, and gave him a living allowance of 800 yuan per month.
This act of sending charcoal in the snow made Wu Jiafang surprised and delighted.
It turned out that the strange man's surname was Jia, and he had seen reports of Wu Jiafang's remarriage on TV, but he was not as indignant as the others, but was very understandable.
Boss Jia himself is also a native of Mianyang, Sichuan, who has also experienced earthquakes, and he knows better than anyone the truth that "people have to look forward, because life goes on".
Therefore, he decided to help Wu Jiafang get a divorce, hoping that he would have a better life in the future.
Wu Jiafang worked in Boss Jia's company for two years and paid off the money advanced by the boss, but in order to thank the boss for his help, he did not leave immediately, but continued to work in the company for three years before returning to his hometown and continuing to be his mason.
After experiencing the parting of life and death, and tasting the bitterness of flash marriage, Wu Jiafang is now finally back to calm. He farms in the fields when he is busy, and works as a mason on construction sites in his spare time, earning money to support ordinary people.
Today, Wu Jiafang's son has reached adulthood and has been working in Mianyang for a long time. Wu Jiafang lived alone for more than ten years, still thinking of Shi Huaqiong from time to time, and repaired her grave.
Seeing his current situation, relatives and friends in the village are always eager to help him introduce objects.
But once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope, for the love life, Wu Jiafang is very cautious, no longer easily open her heart.
Fortunately, God also cares for him, at present, Wu Jiafang already has a favorite girlfriend, and the two have been dating for more than a year.
However, this time Wu Jiafang did not dare to flash marriage, he decided to spend more time with the other party, and then continue after the two sides have a deep understanding.
Talking about the previous ups and downs, Wu Jiafang said: "I would rather not have that photo, and now I just want to live a peaceful life." ”
Yes, he is neither an "infatuated man", nor a "thin lover", he was originally just an ordinary person, and various titles are just shackles imposed on him by everyone.
It can be said that as a person who survived the earthquake, Wu Jiafang was lucky and unfortunate at the same time. Although he survived, he had to taste the pain of losing his loved ones alone. He needs to rebuild his home in the rubble and regain hope in the midst of his wounds.
There is no absolute right or wrong in this process, and everyone has the right to choose the path that suits them.
And as bystanders, if we can have less accusations and more love, I think they will have a much easier life. Love is understanding, love is inclusion, and love is the most selfless emotion of human beings.
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Author: Shangshan Ruoshui
Editor-in-charge: Willow leaf nagging
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