February 7, 2012 is the first day of the new semester. On this morning, Liang Quan, a 17-year-old student at Zhengzhou No. 1 Middle School, killed his mother after his father went to work, and he picked up a dumbbell for exercise and slammed it on his mother's head, once, twice, three times... He kept waving dumbbells, watching the blood on his mother's head burst out, he neither felt afraid nor stopped, after his mother fell to the ground, Liang Quan untied his mother's shoelaces, wrapped them around his mother's neck twice and tightened them fiercely...
Seeing that his mother had stopped breathing, Liang Quan let out a sigh of relief, and he picked up his school bag and went to school with a hint of ease.
Four days later, when Liang Quan's father came home to find his wife lying in a pool of blood, the blood on his head had coagulated, and he called the police.
After the police investigation, it was determined that Liang Quan was suspected of committing a major crime, and Liang Quan, who was attending school, was taken away by the police, and when the police interrogated Liang Quan, this "good boy" who was "good in character and excellent in character and learning" in the eyes of outsiders said very calmly: "All this was forced out by his mother." ”
Why is seventeen-year-old Liang Quan so cruel? Why did he look at him proudly, and his mother, who was willing to give everything for him, had such a deep hatred and hatred, and did not want to get rid of it quickly?
Today, we will talk about this tragic case.
"Can't lose at the starting line" made Liang Quan lose his happy childhood
Mr. Liang was born into an ordinary family, his father worked in the security department of a university, and his mother worked at an advertising agency. After his birth, Liang Quan grew up carefree under the careful care of his parents and played very happily every day.
After going to school, Liang Quan's parents were determined to cultivate him well, they believed that they could not let the child lose at the starting line, Liang Quan's father and mother divided the work, the father was responsible for earning money, and the mother used the money earned by the father for Liang Quan's education. Liang Quan's mother enrolled Liang Quan in various off-campus study classes such as English, Olympiad, and calligraphy, and filled Liang Quan's extracurricular time. Every day after school, his mother took him to run between various cram schools without respite. The happy time of Liang Quan's childhood was replaced by heavy learning pressure, living in the tension of "not losing at the starting line".
Winter and summer vacation should be a time for children to rest and relax and play freely, but Liang Quan's mother believes that the holiday is the best time to overtake in the corner, to make full use of it, Liang Quan's every holiday has been arranged by his mother to take dense classes, Liang Quan's mother has enrolled in various study classes for her son, making Liang Quan busier than when he went to school. Liang Quan's mother will check her son's study every night, always supervise him, and do not let him have a moment of leisure.
In this way, Liang Quan's right to play and relax was deprived, he wanted to go out to play without permission, even the children's channel he liked to watch was set by his mother, And Liang Quan's mother told him that he would only give him time to relax until he was admitted to a key middle school.
In July 2007, Liang Quan was admitted to Zhengzhou Foreign Chinese Middle School, which is one of the best middle schools in Zhengzhou, and Liang Quan's parents were very pleased, they felt that the efforts they had poured into their son for several years had not been in vain.
Liang Quan, who was admitted to a good school, was very happy, and he told his mother to have a good time for a holiday, but his mother said to him: "Junior high school is a new starting point, you are now standing on a new starting line, you must not fall behind others, your mother has made a new study plan for you, signed up for a junior high school course study class, there is no time to relax." ”
Liang Quan was very disappointed, and he said to his mother very angrily: "You said, as long as I am admitted to a good middle school, I will enjoy a vacation, how do you talk and don't count?" ”
Liang Quan's request was categorically rejected by his mother, and in order to make Liang Quan achieve good results in junior high school, Liang Quan's mother made a decision that made Liang Quan's pressure increase sharply: resign from the unit and become a full-time "accompanying mother".
In the holiday before going to junior high school, Liang Quan did not rest for a day, and in order to make Liang Quan take the lead after the school started, his mother enrolled him in 5 off-campus study classes in one go to learn the homework of the junior high school in advance. Liang Quan's mother accompanied the whole reading and always supervised, and for Liang Quan, who was only twelve years old, learning had become a heavy burden.
What makes Liang Quan's mother happy is that the effect of accompanying reading is good, and Liang Quan has achieved excellent results in the junior high school placement examination and has been assigned to the experimental class as desired.
The "toxic" pressure from the mother makes the mother and son enemies
In the blink of an eye, the first vacation after going to middle school is liang quan very much looking forward to, Liang Quan feels that the pressure of learning after middle school has increased sharply, the intense study makes him breathless, he wants to relax and adjust during the holiday, when he tells his mother about this idea, he was rejected by his mother, and his mother said to him: "Don't relax, the students who can be admitted to the experimental class are excellent, you will fall behind when you relax a little, or you have to seize the time to study." ”
This winter vacation, in order to improve her son's grades in slightly weaker subjects, Liang Quan's mother applied for three off-campus intensive classes for him in a targeted manner, allowing Liang Quan to complete the homework assigned by the school while making every effort to improve the results of weak subjects. This holiday Liang Quan spent in hard study again, and did not even rest for the New Year.
In the second year of junior high school, Liang Quan's mother found that her son's composition always failed to get a high score, so she reported him to an off-campus writing class, but after a while Liang Quan's mother found that Liang Quan's composition score still did not improve, watching the language score drag Liang Quan's total score on the hind legs, Liang Quan's mother was very anxious, she severely criticized Liang Quan: "You have made up for more than a semester of writing, why is there still no progress at all, is it not hard to listen to the class?" ”
Liang Quan, who was criticized by his mother, felt very aggrieved, and he retorted: "I am not a child prodigy, how can I be good at Koko?" Writing requires literary talent, and I may not have the talent for that. ”
Liang Quan's words made her mother very angry, and she said sharply: "When you take the exam, will you not take the essay because you have no talent?" Aren't you making excuses? How did you get into a good university with this attitude? ”
His mother's hysterical anger made Liang Quan feel helpless, he knew that continuing to refute would only attract his mother's chatter, he had to tell his mother that in the future, when he went to writing class, he would listen more attentively and would find a way to improve his composition score.
After hearing her son's assurance, Liang Quan's mother was satisfied, she did not notice the resentful look that her son threw when he turned around, she did not realize that her strict supervision of her son had become "toxic" pressure.
In July 2010, Liang Quan once again went to study and was admitted to a key high school: Zhengzhou No. 1 Middle School with excellent results.
Liang Quan's parents are very happy, Liang Quan's mother attributed her son's excellent results to her own strict supervision, she believes that high school has reached the most critical moment, must be more strict with her son, in order to make her son not slack, she made up her mind not to let him out of her current line for a moment.
But at this time, a real problem was in front of her, Liang Quan had to live in the school because he was far from home after going to high school. But her son's going to school meant he would be free from his supervision, which she absolutely could not allow.
Thinking about it, Liang Quan's mother decided to move her family to the vicinity of her son's high school, and she wanted to supervise her son's study more strictly than ever during the most important period of high school. In order to make Liang Quan realize the importance of high school study, Liang Quan's mother warned Liang Quan: "The cruel battle has just begun, you have to be more involved than before, so that you can be admitted to a prestigious school, and your mother will fight with you!" ”
Liang Quan's mother did not notice her son's dislike for her at all, and he said to her mother coldly: "I have grown up, I can take care of myself, I want to have some space for myself, you are now focusing all your attention on me, I feel very uncomfortable." ”
Liang Quan's words did not attract the attention of her mother, she enrolled Liang Quan in the off-campus high school courses in this summer, and accompanied the whole process, Liang Quan, who has been in high school, always does not leave her supervision, there is no half free space.
Liang Quan's mother is very hard, she gets up early every day to prepare breakfast for Liang Quan, after eating breakfast, riding an electric car to send Liang Quan to school, picking up Liang Quan after school at noon to eat lunch, and then sending Liang Quan back to school, after 10 pm and then picking up after the evening self-study, Liang Quan's mother will devote all her energy to the child.
Once after school afternoon, when Liang Quan just walked out of the school gate, a classmate invited him to play basketball for a while, and before Liang Quan could speak, Liang Quan's mother, who had been standing at the school gate waiting, came forward and refused, and Liang Quan had to obediently follow his mother back home.
Liang Quan's mother's surveillance of Liang Quan even went to the campus, and when Liang Quan was tired of listening to lectures and just looked out of the classroom window, he would sometimes suddenly come into contact with his mother's stern gaze. Sometimes the mother would even rush into the classroom at the end of class, asking Liang Quan why he slipped away in front of his classmates, so that Liang Quan was disgraced in front of his classmates.
In this way, when Liang Quan's mother gave all her efforts, the resentment of Liang Quan's mother in her heart gradually deepened, and Liang Quan's mother did not realize that she had become the enemy of her son.
The son, who could not bear the pressure, actually killed his mother
The huge pressure exerted by his mother made Liang Quan have a rebellious psychology, and he began to secretly fight with his mother. You accused me of slipping away in class and making me lose face in front of my classmates, then I did this, he borrowed an e-reader from his classmates, secretly read online novels during class time, and whenever his mother criticized him, he protested in a silent way, and there was a huge gap between mother and child, and even normal communication became a problem.
In the final exam of the first year of high school, Liang Quan's score slipped to the 21st place in the class, although this is also the upper middle level, but Liang Quan's mother could not tolerate it, she asked Liang Quan why did he get this test? Liang Quan was silent.
After Liang Quan's mother vented, she pulled Liang Quan to the off-campus cram class and reported him to the cram class for all disciplines in one breath. She also tightened her grip on Liang Quan, depriving him of the last bit of personal space: she added a folding bed to her son's room and slept in Liang Quan's room, monitoring Liang Quan's every move day and night so that all of Liang Quan's mind was spent on studying.
Liang Quan later described his feelings like this:
"When my mother moved into my room, I felt like I was about to suffocate and didn't even have the freedom to sleep. As long as I turned over twice in 5 minutes and could hear her voice "thinking about what are you thinking, hurry up and go to sleep", I couldn't sleep, but I could only lie like a zombie. ”
The huge pressure exerted by his mother made Liang Quan collapse, and a subsequent examination completely crushed Liang Quan, a seventeen-year-old teenager.
When the final results of the second semester of high school were announced, Liang Quan's grades further declined, and he ranked outside the 200th place in the school. Although the class teacher said at the parent-teacher conference that from previous years, the top 600 students in the school could be admitted to key universities, but this ranking was far from meeting the expectations of Liang Quan's mother.
The mother, who imposed her ideals on her children, felt that she had not done enough, and her supervision of Liang Quan became more severe, and her roars and reprimands would be heard every day in the family.
During the winter vacation, Liang Quan was immersed in the sea of books and endless make-up classes as always, and there was no rest in the New Year.
On the evening of the seventh day of the first lunar month, Liang Quan, who was immersed in revision, felt a little tired, he stood up and went to the window, looked out the window to relax a little, and suddenly heard his mother's roar in his ear: "Why can't your attention always focus on books?" Did you know that the college entrance examination is getting closer and closer and your grades are declining? ”
Liang Quan turned around, and he saw his mother's face that had swollen and exposed due to anger, and at that moment he felt that this face was very hateful. At that moment, he felt that his mother was no longer amiable and respectable, but had completely become his own enemy, an enemy who was constantly monitoring him and interfering with his every move. He felt that this enemy had tarnished his life and made him lifeless without any pleasure.
He felt that his mother controlled him like a ghost, turning every place he stayed in into a prison, not knowing when he would be free, Liang Quan felt that he could not stand it, he wanted to get rid of it completely.
At this moment, a terrible thought came to his mind: get rid of his mother and seek freedom.
February 7, 2012 is the day when Liang Quan registers for the new semester. After getting up in the morning, Liang Quan's father hurriedly walked out of the house to go to work after eating, while Liang Quan sat at his desk and thought about his heart.
At this time, his mother's urging voice sounded in his ears, and his mother asked him to quickly write down the homework left in the off-campus cram school, and then go to the school to report.
When Liang Quan wanted to go to school after writing his homework, his mother asked him what his study plan was for the new semester and what university he was going to go to in the future. Seeing that Liang Quan did not squeak, his mother began to count him down again.
His mother's incessant nagging instantly ignited the anger in Liang Quan's heart, he was first silent, and then he took advantage of his mother's lack of preparation to pick up the dumbbell on the ground and kill his mother... Then Liang Quan walked out of the house with a hint of ease...
When questioned by the police, Liang Quan did not have the slightest remorse, he said: "My mother is too strict with my study, I am too tired, I can only use this method to seek relief..."
The tragedy of Liang Quan's mother gives us a warning
Liang Quan's mother gave up her job for her children, gave up her own life, she was admitted to a good university in order for her children to achieve good grades, but in the end she personally caused a tragedy.
The root cause of this tragedy is that Liang Quan's mother's educational philosophy and education methods have serious deviations, she regards achieving good results and being admitted to a good university as the only criterion for children to become talents, and unconsciously imposes her ideals and aspirations on her children, so that children become tools to realize their ideals. She ignored the attention to the healthy growth of her children's body and mind, and did not notice that her love for her children had changed.
In terms of education, while constantly increasing the academic burden and exerting mental pressure on her children, she has never considered the limits that children can bear, and has not noticed that the pressure she puts on her children has been "toxic".
As a parent, the education of children needs reason and methods, to realize that blindly exerting pressure in the educational process will only be counterproductive, will make children rebel, escape, distort psychology, and even lead to tragedy.
Through the tragedy of Liang Quan's mother and son, every parent should constantly reflect: What kind of education methods can be accepted by children? What kind of love is really conducive to the child's growth?
The tragedy of Liang Quan's mother and son makes every parent more aware that the child's academic performance is not the only embodiment of the child's value, but the most important thing is to let the child grow up physically and mentally.