My daughter was admitted to a key high school and entered a key class, and the things I was worried about finally came

Before listening to friends said that the child went to high school, and parents are like strangers, in addition to asking for money, almost do not speak, the home is like a time bomb, feel careless will ignite the explosion, everyone in the family is careful, afraid of what is not paying attention, will hear the slamming of the door, worried that a sentence is wrong, followed by the child's impatience and roar.

Therefore, parents can only afford to provoke and hide, but they neither dare to provoke nor dare to hide, but they must also observe the face and act according to the opportunity.

I thought we were different, but I didn't expect it to come so quickly.

After three years of hard work in junior high school, especially after paying for the early departure and late return of the third year of junior high school, my daughter finally achieved the goal I set for her, entered the twenty places of the first full grade, and entered the key class of high school, as the saying goes, rocket class.

(1) High school life without holidays.

Since entering high school, classes have been held since the day of registration. Turned on the two-headed black school mode.

Every morning I got up at six o'clock, left at half past six, the sky was not light, studied at 10:30 p.m., arrived home at eleven o'clock, went to bed at 12:30, no holidays, no weekends, that is, the National Day was three days off, and the other classes were put on for five days.

To be honest, I really feel sorry for my children.

Last weekend, due to the school's sophomore exams, the first year of high school was all closed, and only their class went to find a classroom for experiments.

Every day when I come home, I say, "How tired?" There is no holiday, no time to rest, when can I take a holiday? Other classes can be on vacation, why is it only our class? ”

I told her, is that what is high school life? And you're tired alone? Everyone is the same, you stick to it for three years", and as a result, she said, "You don't know what will happen after three years?" Just guessing here? "After saying that, I went straight into the room.

(ii) Decline in grades and battered self-confidence

Before entering high school, her daughter's grades were still among the best in the class, and she was also very proud and confident.

As a result, when it came to this class, the seed players in the county gathered together to form a situation in which there was a stronger middle hand, there was a sky outside the sky, there were people outside the people, and the master was full of strength, and the daughter had no advantage at all.

From the first monthly examination, after the results of the second monthly examination came out, the daughter completely lost confidence, and her enthusiasm and enthusiasm for learning were greatly hit.

Because her grades dropped from the ninth place in the class she was admitted to the eleventh place in the first monthly examination, and then down to the sixteenth place in the second monthly examination.

Every time the results came out, I didn't dare to ask, only for fear of upsetting her. The first time she came home after the exam, she said, "This exam is miserable, history, geography may not pass, to be retaken, you first prepare the money for the retake, the ranking must have dropped a lot." ”

As soon as the results came out, the overall score was eleventh, and the geographical history was just ranked.

After school the next day after the exam in February, I asked me timidly, "Did you see our results?" "I said, I didn't see it, I didn't dare to talk to you about the play of grades, because as soon as I talked about grades, you were very angry, and I couldn't afford to provoke you." After finishing, she said, "This time the exam is not good, maybe the results are worse, and the ranking drops even more." ”

I said, "Your history and geography are too bad, aren't you?" "Don't you say it, I'm bored to death, I'm just a piece of garbage."

As she was speaking, she suddenly came up with this sentence in a very angry way, and then angrily closed the door.

(3) The gap after the game

In order to improve the comprehensive quality of students, so that students can develop in an all-round way. The school organized the New Year's Winter Games, theatrical performances and talent competitions.

The top ten students in the class have won one or two good results in personal long-distance running, calligraphy competitions, and painting competitions.

In the men's and women's basketball matches, the girls won the championship, and the men's team finished third. And none of these project daughters can get their hands on it, and naturally they are not eligible to participate.

After participating in the class choir competition, the teacher gave her daughter a chance to conduct the beat, and the competition only won an eighth place.

At this time, the daughter really felt that she was inferior to others, and she was a garbage in the class.

(4) Face-to-face after the parent-teacher conference

In order to let parents know about their children's situation, in early December, they went to the parent-teacher conference held in the class.

I learned that the daughter in the eyes of the teacher is too sloppy, has strong self-esteem, loves face, has a very stubborn personality, has too low emotional intelligence, speaks directly, does not believe in what anyone says, and is very conceited on the surface.

When we got back, we met face to face.

"I'm going to your parent-teacher conference."

"You know? And then what? ”

"Want to hear what the teacher said?" Want to know what your teacher thinks of you? The teacher said that you scribbled your writing and hoped that you would correct it. ”

"I know? Can't change, get used to it. ”

"Because you couldn't read clearly, the teacher threw away your homework and criticized you in class."

"You know? And that so-and-so (the bully in the class) was also criticized. ”

"You are too stubborn and good-looking,"

"I know."

"The teacher hopes that you will seriously study some new college entrance examination knowledge"

"Don't say it, the teachers you talked about have spoken about in class."

"Do you think the first class is too tired, change to the second class?"

"The second class is not competitive."

"Your math teacher praised you for having a great idea of solving problems."

"Impossible, because he doesn't even know who I am."

"Is your physics very difficult?"

"Who doesn't have to learn physics?"

"In the future, I will communicate more with your class teachers and teachers of various subjects to learn more about your usual situation, especially the usual test results."

"Don't, don't ask the teacher, don't ask about the grades"

……

Now, as soon as she mentions the grades, she says, don't say it, I'm a piece of garbage, not as good as them.

"Why do they do every exam and you don't?"

"Where do I know? Maybe they just took the exam and they did it? Don't compare them to them, it's annoying."

"I know you're working hard, but it's going to be fine in three years."

"You must know that only by working hard for three years now can you be happy for forty years in the future."

"Yo yo yo, it's not you reading, how do you know we're stressed?" Three years later, only that Wu Moumou was strong. ”

"And even if you work hard for three years, you may not be happy in the future...

After listening to her say these words, I knew that I could not talk about her, and realized how unsuccessful my education of more than ten years had been.

What I said didn't go into her heart at all.

It is said that parents in the three years of high school should do a good job of supporting their children, communicating with their children more, and encouraging more, but children are no longer willing to communicate with me about learning things? What are the good ways for netizens? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.