When the opposite sex is together, the other party says "care about you", "rare you", "can't do without you", always in the name of love to make various demands on you, or in their own way to love you, at this moment you put forward different opinions, the other party is not willing to "restrain" a bit, always in the name of love, ask you to accommodate him, otherwise he will lose control of his emotions, say something that makes you feel embarrassed, and do something that disappoints you.
Afterwards you really get angry, and he defends his "indistinctness", saying to you, "I just made a mistake that a lot of people make", and using this as a reason to ask you to tolerate him.
The other party dares to treat you like this, obviously he does not take you seriously, this is the external sign that he does not pay enough attention to you, the person who really loves you deeply, the heart contains you, will take you seriously, will take into account your feelings when talking and doing things, take care of your mood, will not say excessive words to you, will not do things that make you feel disappointed, the other party will treat you like this, obviously it is to put you in your heart.
In fact, true love is a kind of restraint, and people who really love you deeply will control their words and deeds, consider everything for you, and put you first.
1. Restrain desires, regardless of gains and losses.
When the opposite sex gets along, the other party will be mainly self-centered, always regarding himself as the center of life and asking you to accommodate him.
He will indulge his behavior, indulge in vices, things that he feels good about, and he will often do it, completely without considering your feelings, and he will not listen to your opinions at all.
If he does something that harms you and bases his happiness on your pain, at this time, you want him to be able to restrain himself, and the other party completely ignores you.
Or, when the other party is in contact with you, when he sees that you are developing smoothly, he will say to you, "I love you", and when you are in trouble, he will easily choose to leave you. When dealing with you, he will calculate his own efforts and the returns he has received, he feels that he has paid more, he should get more returns from you, if you do not make him satisfied, he will feel "not worth it", he will complain about you, repeatedly repeat you, say some words that hurt your heart, the other party does not know how to exercise restraint, always calculate gains and losses, obviously not really love you.
The person who really loves you will restrain his desires, will take you as the most important, will take care of your feelings in everything, often bring warmth to your life, even if he pays a lot and gets very little in return, he also feels that all this is worth it, and the other party has such an external performance, indicating that his heart has always been loaded with you.
2. Restrain inertia and improve yourself.
The opposite sex gets along, the other party is too lazy, values the self, and does not care about your feelings.
He feels comfortable, whether you're comfortable or not. If he is not independent enough when he is in contact with you, he will pin his happiness on you and count on you for everything.
When you encounter things and need him to share your worries, he always avoids you, obviously he can help you, but he is unwilling, he always regards himself as too important, completely does not consider your feelings, the other party releases such a signal, obviously not caring enough about you.
People who really care about you, will think of giving you happiness, will think of becoming your dependence, he will consciously take up his responsibilities, do what he should do, continue to improve himself, make himself better, he does not want to disappoint you, he will self-reflect, correct his mistakes, make himself better, deliberately do something that impresses you, the other party will attach such importance to you, indicating that he is really optimistic about you, has treated you as his own person, and wants to live with you.
3. Restrain your emotions and be kind to each other.
When the other party is with you, he says that he loves you and says he cares about you, but he always loses control of his emotions in front of you and frequently vents negative emotions on you.
What is more, will take you as a punching bag, casually lose your temper with you, such as he is angry outside, dare not show negative emotions in front of you, when with you, he will treat you as an emotional trash can, randomly anger you, the reason of the other party is: you are my closest person, in front of you, I will be the real self.
Obviously, the other party does not love you enough to have such a performance, and the other party says such a thing, which is pure sophistry. The person who really loves you deeply will show you the best side of himself, he will control his emotions, treat you gently, in daily life, you make him unhappy, he will also be reluctant to lose his temper with you, the other party shows such signs, is really deeply in love with you.