What should a woman look for a man? Look at his handsomeness? Look at his gold? Or is it about his social status? Or is it sweet talk in the process of dating?
Or once in the beginning of the love sinus, these are the things that women will pay more attention to, but once a woman has passed the age of 30, or has entered the stage of leftover women, then it is time to turn the corner of thinking, unwilling to hit women, nor to say taunts and denials, but ask yourself the reality that you have to face is that youth capital has gradually decreased or even lost, so women who have entered the stage of older leftover women, what should we pay attention to when looking for men?
The first thing that should be understood is not to look at the shining points on a man anymore, but to look at his flaws
Maybe at first the other party attracts us to the advantages, but if we are together for a long time, we will always get along with the shortcomings for a longer time, don't always hold on to the aura of men's excellence, and even exaggerate ourselves, but rationally look at where the downline of other people's personality is, and whether you can accept some shortcomings.
The transformation of chicken and dog life and relationship roles must only extend his shortcomings and not alleviate them, so don't try to think that you can transform each other, because in the end, you will find that between people, no one can be changed.
Not young, don't hold the emotional view of immature little girls anymore, only count the advantages of each other, and ignore those deficiencies, living habits, people in the world, even if it is just a little thing to squeeze toothpaste, any small detail, day after day, may continue to become the reason why you torture yourself.
Older girls should learn to become emotionally rational, learn to observe, and confirm whether they match the appearance expressed by the man through the actual actions of the other party, some are deliberately disguised and deceived, but some people are instinctively trying to show their goodness, no malice, but if they do not know in advance, they may eventually cause the tragedy of their marriage.
Don't drag on the love walk for too long, you can achieve success, if you can't do it, you can quickly divide
Colleague Yan Yan and boyfriend in love for 12 years, the woman has been 35 years old two people but delayed in cultivating the right results, the feelings look stable and harmonious, but only do not mention the marriage, women in the family and relatives and friends urged, they take the initiative to frequently mention marriage, men blame the girlfriend for not understanding things, said that they have just been promoted, many things, and the economy has not reached the level of marriage, "etc." the word has become the only answer.
After several turnovers, the man blamed the woman for being too good, and finally the two broke up after tossing for more than half a year, but soon after separating, the man quickly had a new love, which made the woman angry and full of humiliation.
In fact, what are the chips in the hands of the girls? Is it the love of a man? Yes, but not exactly, once the chips of youth are gone, they lose the capital of the comeback.
Women are always older than men, and when the chips in their hands are decreasing, and the sunk costs that continue to be paid continue to increase, a vicious circle will be formed, and it will also exacerbate men's sense of superiority.
Therefore, women should understand that in love, do not rush to flash marriage, if you identify each other, do not delay for too long, what can be achieved has become, really can not do it and do not force, wasting not only the time of love, but the loss of their own capital to find happiness. Especially women who have entered the elderly should understand that we can no longer afford to delay.
Chicken soup for the soul can be seen, remember to distinguish, can not be fully believed
Inspirational chicken soup can be seen, because sometimes people are confused in the period, in a word, a point of view can indeed lead us out of the dead end, but now the development of the Internet age, whether the nutritional level of chicken soup is suitable for your mental health, or the state in which you are located, it will vary from person to person, do not blindly supplement.
Like those "women are the only one" or "women are the humble thinking of three from four virtues", they are misleading women with the model of chicken soup, women should love themselves, self-respect must also learn to respect others, this is mutual, can not simply stand in a certain gender to interpret.
Sometimes drinking too much extreme chicken soup may have the side effect of thinking, because it is too arrogant and it is difficult to find your own happiness. We are not inferior, but we are not arrogant, correct cognition, do not blindly follow, do not go with the flow to be a "capable" woman in the mouth of the public, choose men is the same, with their own brains, not according to the standards in the paragraph.
epilogue:
In terms of feelings, women do seem to lack a certain degree of rationality than men, and there will always be misunderstandings when looking for men, avoid these pits, and think less, after all, what we need to find lovers is a lover with three views and know how to respect the lover who can support each other, rather than an ideal good actor.