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I saw a hot topic on the Internet today, how painful it is for girls to be broken up, and there is a very high-played short video that includes various behaviors that make people feel sad after a girl is broken up.
Girls once had an object who had been together for six years and lived together for five years, and the feelings between each other had long since changed from love to affection, and it seemed that both of them were rushing to get married, otherwise they would not have been together for so long, but they were broken up.
After the breakup, she was very broken, unable to control her emotions, crying at home, crying uncontrollably, pouring herself bottle after bottle, calling her mother when she was drunk, and speaking incoherently.
After hanging up the phone, I continued to drink, and the next day I woke up to find that my hands were very sore, and I remembered that when I was drinking, I kept pounding the floor with my hands because I was too angry, and the rings were deformed by the hammer.
The next night I continued to drink, this time directly drank myself into the hospital, I thought that after this time I would wake up, I wanted to understand, but after returning home, I had an inexplicable emotional breakdown, smashed things at home, and even suddenly rushed to the balcony.
In the company of family and friends, it took 20 days for her mood to slowly improve and she came out of the collapse.
After watching this video, I believe that many people who have had the same experience can feel the same pain, but her approach is really not so desirable, because it is harming her body and health, and if she is not careful, it may also bring irreparable consequences.
So I want to talk to you today about what to do after losing love, so that I can quickly get out of the pain caused by lost love.
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It is well known that the loss of love is painful, especially those who still love each other and are hurt by each other's emotions, and that pain is silent and painful.
Many people don't know what to do after falling out of love, and can only choose to do something like the girl in this video, to hurt themselves, to be honest, this will only make themselves more painful, useless. And it won't make the other person feel guilty either.
Therefore, after the loss of love, those things that hurt themselves must not be done, such as alcoholism, if people who usually do not drink much, suddenly pour a lot of alcohol into the stomach, it is easy to bring harm to their own bodies, and even life is dangerous.
There are also those who do not want to live, but also a very silly behavior, of course, is understandable, because the loss of love will make people very depressed, will make people lose expectations of living, feel very painful, think a hundred.
It is very normal to have this kind of thought, but we must know that this is only a temporary emotion, just a temporary thought of light life, it will not last forever, as long as it survives the most painful time, we can keep the clouds open and see the moon.
This is the first thing that needs to be stopped, because these may be worse outcomes, so we must first find a way to prevent this kind of thing from happening.
So after the loss of love, try not to take alone, it is best to find your best friend to accompany, a person with easy to think of can not open, but also easy to hurt themselves. Don't go to dangerous places such as rooftops, hilltops, riversides, etc.
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Having said what not to do, let's talk about what we want to do to get out of the pain faster.
Falling out of love brings pain to people, so if you want to get free from pain, you have to do things that make you happy, replace pain with happiness, so that pain can be transferred.
Think about what you've always wanted to do but haven't done, like traveling, getting a tattoo, getting a dog, riding the Ferris wheel, going to Disneyland, eating something you'd love to eat.
No matter what it is, as long as you want to do it, go and do it all one by one, it is best to list the things you want to do in a table, and cross out one thing after doing one thing.
I remember watching a movie where the heroine was pigeon-doves by her fiancé on her wedding day, and she was sad and sad and went abroad to study alone.
She made a list of all the things she wanted to do, pasted them in places that she could see every day, wrote about tattoos, bungee jumping, a one-night stand, and so on, and then every time she finished one, she crossed it out and continued to complete what she didn't do.
In the process of completing one thing after another, she was healed, no longer entangled in the relationship she once had, she also gained new feelings and officially started a new life.
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Beyond that, there's one more thing to do, and that's to throw away everything related to the relationship.
The gifts he gave you on your birthday, the souvenirs he brought back when you went out together, the flowers he bought for you, which had long withered but were unwilling to throw away, the clothes you bought together, the clothes you bought, the couple's clothes, and so on, don't keep these objects anymore.
It's best to pack them all up, put them in a black garbage bag, and throw them in the trash, and you'll feel more refreshed than ever.
Then block all his contact information, lest you suddenly miss him, desperately call him, save your chat records for a long time, don't want to delete, group photos of you going out together, these are all deleted, the same is not left.
When you clean up all these things, it is equivalent to clearing the other person out of your life, as if you never came, so that you can come out faster.
Because if you don't do this, as long as you see one thing, you will remember the past, you will remember what he said, you will remember the things you have done together, which is not conducive to your new life.
It's not so hard to get out of a lost relationship, all the sadness, all the painful emotions, are temporary, do what you have to do, and then give everything to time, you will slowly come out.
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