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There is a saying: "There is nothing more exciting than love, because it produces the greatest illusion and at the same time gives life the greatest comfort." Otherwise, life is so empty and desolate."
truly. Love is like a fountain, overflowing, flowing, full of joy.
When we fall in love with someone, we are eager to give our lives to each other, and when we do not love a person, that kind of determination is also unique.
But even if we don't love, all the things we have experienced together in the past will leave an indelible mark on our hearts, and even be able to follow us for a lifetime.
If you want to ask, how long does it take for a woman to forget the man she loves after a man and a woman break off? I believe that most sensual women will answer – never forget.
Since you have loved deeply, how can you forget because you are not together? People's memory is amazing, and some things will never be forgotten.
Such a sentiment is certainly touching, but this answer is more cruel for the current. What man can accept that the woman around him always has an ex in his heart?
Just like what happened to his friend Lee Hyuk. He and his wife were married on the first anniversary, and in order to surprise her, he secretly prepared a lot of gifts, all of which his wife usually wanted to buy but was reluctant to buy.
After his wife came home from work, she saw a romantic candlelit dinner and a large table full of gifts, although she felt vulgar, but the happiness in her heart was real, and Li He was naturally beautiful in her eyes.
Under the influence of alcohol, the two people woke up until dawn. No, it was Li He's wife who slept until dawn, while Li He stayed up all night.
Because some drunken wives called out other people's names when they slept.
Li He knew who that person was, his wife's first love, the first person his wife had deeply loved. He obviously knew that his wife had no contact with his first love and had been disconnected for a long time, but he was still jealous.
He had seen encrypted photographs of his wife, a souvenir of his first love confessing to his wife, two people dressed as lovers, and a romantic candlelit dinner. Although the dinner at that time was only steamed buns and pickles, the "light" could be seen in the smiles of the two people.
Compared with the candlelit dinner of steak and red wine, steamed buns and pickles, although simple, are more sincere.
Li He has no ex, he fell in love with his wife at first sight, and the wife is his first love. So he couldn't understand what it was like not to forget someone he had loved.
Although his love for his wife told him that a man should be generous, even if he can't forget it, it doesn't mean anything, but Li He still can't sleep.
I sympathize with Li Hyuk's suffering, but in my opinion, although his wife can't forget his ex, although this matter makes him unable to let go, it is not enough to affect his feelings with his wife, and he should not have a grudge with his wife because of this, for the following reasons.
01 People who have been deeply loved, unless there are external factors, it is very unforgettable
We can recall the events of our childhood, it must be that this incident brought us a different feeling, for us a special meaning or has the mark of the times. Unless we lose memory, even if it is a long time, we will not forget it, but it will become clearer because of frequent sudden memories.
In the same way, we can't forget the people we once loved. The most fundamental reason is not because of people, but because of what we have experienced together.
For example, a movie you have seen at the beginning, a song you listened to together, or a candlelit dinner that you have eaten with your first love like Li Hyuk's wife. These things that have been experienced together, when you experience it again, when you see that movie again, when you hear that song, it is equivalent to deepening the impression again. In this way, it is naturally unforgettable.
This is a fact that we cannot reverse, and the more desperately you try to forget it, the more you will remember it. Even if you obviously think that you don't think about it during the day, you will dream at night.
Therefore, since we cannot compete with this subconscious behavior, it is better to go with the flow and take it as the most ordinary thing, the person should not be surprised, and the partner should not mind.
02 Can't forget the person who was deeply loved, does not mean that you still love
Can't forget, does not mean that you still love deeply. Every love has a past, a present, and a future, and the past is the past, and it is impossible to go back, just like not being able to love each other again.
As I have seen someone say: "For someone you love, what you want to forget is not a name, but a feeling, when you recall or mention that person, no longer heart beat faster, nor heartache, but very calm, like recalling childhood partners, there is only one kind of kindness, that is, forgetting."
This passage made me wake up like a dream. Sometimes we can't forget the people we loved deeply, but it doesn't mean that we still love each other. We may have forgotten it, but being able to remember that person and recall that feeling makes us mistakenly think that we have not forgotten it.
For most people, this is the case, although it cannot be forgotten, but it does not mean that it is still deeply loved. As in this case that Li He encountered, if you determine your wife's love for yourself, there is no need to mind this behavior of your wife, this behavior is essentially meaningless, an adult can handle his feelings well.
03 What we miss is only the past relationship, not the person at that time
Most of them break up because they know very well that two people are not suitable, or two families are not suitable, and since they are not suitable, they cannot be together.
But after all, we have loved each other, and every bit of the time we have been together is vividly remembered, and that relationship has really existed, and it is not surprising that we will miss it, after all, this is also our lost youth.
However, even so, what we are touched by is nothing more than the feelings and feelings of that year, not the person who was originally there.
Each of us lives half a memory, half a continuation. No one who wants to live well will be immersed in the past forever, and most people will choose to look forward.
As long as you are the other person's present, don't be afraid that she has a past.
Of course, if you find that the other party not only can't forget the past, can't forget the people you once loved, but also has a substantial connection with the other party, and even breaks the connection emotionally, you must be vigilant and never tolerate it.
In this world, there are very few partners who are born 100% fit, and there are very few such loves, whether it is love or marriage, it requires two imperfect people to run into each other together and make the relationship tend to be perfect.
In the end, it doesn't matter if a woman forgets the person she once loved, what matters is who she is now in her heart, which is the key point of whether your relationship can be unbreakable.
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