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The best way to love someone is never to be obedient, let alone to please, pander and please, but to always stand in the same position as the other party, get along with each other on an equal footing, and have an equal dialogue.
But some women who are deeply in love always lose their minds and can't think calmly.
In order to retain the man's heart, they do everything to the extreme, do not care at all whether they violate the principles and bottom line of being a human being, but feel that if they obey him, they can keep him.
But in fact, on the contrary, the more obedient you are, the more he will find you easy to handle. Not only will they not love you, but they will look down on you more, and thus they will not take you seriously.
So before a woman loves a person, the first thing to do is to settle her heart and soul, only if you understand what love is and how to love yourself, can you better love a person and manage a relationship.
In a relationship between the sexes, it is not that there is no way to keep a man for a long time, but this method is not obedience, but rejection. When a man makes the following three requests, the more you refuse, the more he loves you.
Because this is a proof of your self-love and the basis for making him feel that you are worthy of being loved.
One: The requirement of intimate contact
No matter what stage of the development of the relationship between the two people, women must remember not to be too easy to get by each other, because too easy to get, often will not be cherished. You easily hand over your hole cards, so in the future together, what else can you play with him?
Most importantly, don't think that men are all broad-minded, they will also have their own careful thoughts, and there will be times of random suspicion. If you surrender yourself when you encounter a non-person, they not only do not cherish it, but also feel that you are frivolous and casual. In this way, your efforts have really become a joke.
However, if you can keep your heart, stick to your own principles, and refuse his further requests in this regard when the conditions are not ripe, then for what you don't get, he can only work harder and more hard to be good to you, let you believe in him, and at the same time feel in your heart that you are a clean and self-righteous woman.
Don't worry about men leaving because you refuse.
If that's the case, it's a good thing to see him early on, and he doesn't love your person, but just wants to possess your body.
Rejecting a man's further requests is to add a guarantee to yourself and an effective way to test whether he really loves you.
Two: The requirement to see parents too early to talk about marriage
Some women always feel that men are willing to take themselves back to see their parents, which is a manifestation of loving themselves deeply and wanting to marry themselves. It is not excluded that some men are indeed like this, they are very cautious about feelings, want to introduce you to their parents, and are also a manifestation of recognizing you from the bottom of their hearts and wanting to marry you home.
But you know, not all men are like this.
Some men will take them home to their parents as long as they are in love. On the one hand, it is to reassure the parents, on the other hand, to make the girl mistakenly think that her feelings are real, and once the girl is defenseless, he can be unscrupulous.
This kind of getting you does not cherish you, do not care about your situation from time to time.
So in this case, women have to know how to distinguish, not all men who are willing to take you home, are really in love with you, or it may be just a routine. Only by polishing your eyes can you protect yourself.
Three: Regarding the requirement of not allowing you to work, saying that you are willing to support you
In any relationship, equality is the foundation, don't feel that the man is willing to spend money for you, is really in love with you, and it may be that he has money or doesn't care about money himself.
Besides, even if he spends money for you when he loves you, he is sincere, so if he doesn't love you, do you still have to raise your head in front of him? He might justifiably say: It's not me who raised you yet.
On the one hand, you accept his money, it's like casting a fog over your love, do you really love his person, or his money?
Even if the love is thick, the man will feel that you love him, but with the change of feelings, maybe when you have a conflict, or a few provocations from people with hearts, will he have a trace of doubt and displeasure in his heart? Thinking you're with him is trying to make money.
On the other hand, we all know that people's hands are short. You accept his money, even if you do more psychological construction for yourself in your heart, in fact, there will still be a feeling of inferiority. In your interactions, you will unconsciously lower your posture.
Don't let your love become a slave to money, and when he makes a request to support you, resolutely refuse, and keep equal with him, it is easier to win his heart.
Don't think that the best way to love a man is to be obedient, and sometimes the more you refuse, the more he values and looks up to you. I hope that every woman can understand self-love and then love others.
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