Since ancient times, countless wisdom proverbs have said that when getting along with people, we should be "pro-gentleman, far from the little people", but few people tell us how to get along with the little people.
Some friends may ask: Why learn to get along with the villain, instead of directly away from the villain? There are two reasons for this - take the historical Qin II Hu Hai and the eunuch Zhao Gao as examples.
Reason one
According to the "Records of History", because Zhao Gao once taught Hu Hai to read and write, Hu Hai always obeyed this so-called "teacher".
After the death of Qin Shi Huang, under a series of operations by Zhao Gao, Hu Hai ascended the throne. Under Zhao Gao's seduction, Hu Hai actually killed the ministers of the DPRK, even his own brothers and sisters.
When Hu Hai became a loner, Zhao Gao no longer hid his ambitions to become emperor and ordered his son-in-law to kill Hu Hai.
It can be seen that the villain will not write the 4 words "I am a villain" on his face - before we find out who is the villain, we may have fallen into the trap of the villain.
Reason two
When Hu Hai was forced to kill, Zhao Gao had no choice but to set up a "son baby" as the King of Qin.
At this time, the baby, of course, knew that Zhao Gao was an ambitious villain. But on the one hand, qin shi huang fought down the jiangshan, on the other hand is Zhao Gao, who is always monitoring himself, even if the baby wants to stay away from Zhao Gao, a villain, there is no chance.
Therefore, after the child succeeded to the throne, he pretended to be ill and ignored the government. It wasn't until Zhao Gao himself appeared in front of him that Zi Bao took the opportunity to kill Zhao Gao, a traitorous minister.
Some of today's villains may be your relatives, co-workers, or neighbors. In this case, how can you stay away from the villain? You can't just cut off your relationship, quit your job, or move casually.
Therefore, instead of "preventing" villains, it is better to "coax" villains. This is an effective way to prevent villains. How to get along with villains? There are 3 methods given in the "History", can you see if it is useful to you?
First of all, don't offend the villain and keep your distance.
I have seen some friends who are as evil as vengeance, and have a strong sense of justice. Whenever you find that there is a villain around you, even if the villain does not hurt himself, he will expose and disclose it. This is actually not advisable.
The "Chronicle of History" has clouds: advances and retreats, changes with the times, and the common path of the saints. That is to say: the eldest husband should adapt to the changes of the times and move forward and backward.
Villains are often narrow-minded and narrow-eyed. When your own strength is not strong enough to deter villains, it is best to shut up appropriately first, so as not to create a potential "enemy" for yourself.
Second, speak cautiously and greet with courtesy.
In the "Chronicle of History", it is said that those who have achieved great achievements do not seek the public. People who can really achieve great things will never plan things with laymen.
If you have an idea for doing business, or have any resources in hand, you must not easily disclose it, let alone discuss with the little people how to do it.
After all, one of the characteristics of villains is to see profit and forget righteousness. When getting along with villains, remember not to take everything out, just say something innocuous.
Third, it is better to suffer a small loss than to have interests.
The interaction between people is extremely complicated, and many times it is inevitable that there will be interests involving villains. But it must be remembered: sometimes it is better to suffer a small loss by yourself than to have too much interest in the villain.
In the "Chronicle of History", it is said: If you take care of the small and forget the big, you will be harmful later. This means that if we focus only on the interests of the present and neglect the great things, there will be disasters in the future.
Once you touch their interests because you have suffered a small loss, they will retaliate against you at all costs, catching you off guard and losing more.
The "Chronicle of History" says: "The world is bustling, all for the benefit of the world, the world is bustling, all are for the benefit of the future." "Human society will always have interests. Since there are interests, there must be villains.
After reading the Chronicle of History, I think that we should not be "pro-gentleman, far from the little man", because the little man will not disappear completely, and we cannot completely stay away from it - you have not left this one, the next one may already appear in your life.
Since you can't really stay away, you must learn to live in harmony with the villain.