She is xia Donghai's ex-wife in "Family with Children".
In the eyes of the audience, she is as good as her name, and she is indeed beautifully black.
In fact, her real name is Qi Hui.
The surname is strange and difficult to connect with the first name.
She grew up black, and she was called a black sister when she came and went.
By the time she officially entered the show business circle, Black Sister became her stage name.
Hei Mei is a native of Qingdao, Shandong Province, and she has loved music since she was a child, so she studied at the local music college early.
And 1988 was a crucial year for the transformation of Black Sister's life experience.
At that time, the young black sister was determined to apply for the Central Academy of Drama, or the Shanghai Theater Academy.
To this end, her main goal during that time was to prepare for the exam.
Even that year, the front-line drama troupe of the Nanjing Military Region was also recruiting people.
At first, Black Sister did not take this to heart.
Instead, the teacher Wang Chongxiu reminded her: "You have never been to the formal examination room, do you want to warm up first?" ”
In this way, the black sister signed up in a confused way.
What she did not expect was that there were still many young people who applied for the examination.
Her performance was recognized, and she went all the way to the final examination site.
After the exam, Black Sister was stopped by a tall male soldier in a military uniform.
The soldier went straight to the point, and when they met, he asked her vocal teacher if his name was Lan Xinru.
Black Sister nodded, still muttering in her heart how this person knew her teacher.
"My name is Xu Ran, and I am also a student of Teacher Lan." The soldier's words made Black Sister understand.
Xu Ran then told Hei Mei that it was the teacher Lan Xinru who made me pay attention to you.
If you do well in the test, it means that you are performing this piece of material; if you are not good, it is a living sin.
Just when the black sister did not know what to say,
Xu Ran smiled and said to her, "You see, when you performed in the exam, I slapped my hands red." ”
Hei Mei smiled, knowing that Xu Ran was praising herself.
"Okay, when you go to Nanjing in the future, come to my house to eat dumplings."
Xu Ran turned around and left, and the black sister who stayed in the same place was stunned for most of the day.
She slowly remembered that when she was reading the music attached middle school, she did hear the teacher mention Xu Ran.
In the teacher's mouth, Xu Ran is a good student she is proud of.
In fact, Hei Mei did not know that Xu Ran had followed her sister since she was a child and was pulled up by her mother alone.
Due to the early divorce of his parents, the lack of paternal love is not to say, and his mother is also extremely strict with him.
It is the strict teaching of his mother that Xu Ran's achievements from childhood to adulthood have always been excellent.
What Hei Mei didn't expect now was that she could meet him here.
In the autumn of that year, Black Sister officially put on her military uniform and walked into the frontline drama troupe.
Not long after arriving at the army, Xu Ran did invite her to her home to eat dumplings.
At that time, Xu Ran lived alone, and he had a failed marriage.
His ex-wife used to be an actor, but at that time, Xu Ran was still a newcomer, and there was no work to get his hands on.
Therefore, in the eyes of his wife, he has no status.
It's just that after Xu Ran met The Black Sister, he and his wife didn't seem to have formally gone through the divorce procedures.
The first time I walked into a married man's home, there was a 10-inch art photograph of Xu Ran hanging on the wall.
Black Sister's heart could not say what it felt.
After eating a meal of dumplings, Hei Mei was still hiding from Xu Ran's glowing eyes.
The two of them went downstairs together, and Xu Ran used his bicycle to take her back.
She didn't refuse, she didn't say thank you, and she got into the back seat of the bike.
In this way, the two people slowly became acquainted.
Black Sister could see that Xu Ran had that kind of meaning for herself.
Her heart also slowly bred the wild grass of love, but for a while she didn't have a clue.
It was a habit I developed when I was a child, and Black Sister would get up every morning to practice.
One day she found that Xu Ran had also come out, and she still had to practice with herself.
"I don't have a tape recorder, don't you mind?"
Xu Ran's words were very casual, and they did not arouse the disgust of The Black Sister.
In this way, every morning, two figures always appeared in a fixed manner, and they followed each other for many years.
At the end of the week, everyone in the group went to relax, and The black sister still locked herself in the practice room.
Xu Ran did not go out either, and accompanied her on the side.
Coming and going, even if there is no communication throughout the process, the eyes of the two people and the silence also reveal a different kind of affection.
At that time, the black sister was still in the cadet class, and Xu Ran was in the actor team.
He put all his energy into his acting career, and many people in the troupe often went to him.
The place where Xu Ran lived seemed to become an acting salon.
The black sister will occasionally patronize, and the feelings of the two people will slowly increase.
"One foot at the door" really came together, relying on the performance of the drama "Marriage Notice".
Xu Ran plays male number one, and black sister plays female number one.
The plot is about a male soldier returning to his hometown to visit his relatives,
Later, a friend in the newspaper published a story for him about a marriage advertisement.
One of the scenes is that Black Sister falls in love with this male soldier.
However, when she was performing, she had not yet been in love, and she couldn't find that feeling.
Director Wang Qun was in a hurry to enlighten her, alone, but when he met the male soldier, he wanted to chat with him.
Then, as the two people deepened their understanding, they slowly developed feelings for him.
The director's enlightenment made The black sister's eyes seem to light up a light.
For this role, she subsequently won the 1991 Magnolia Best Actress Award.
She and Xu Ran also entered the palace of marriage during this period.
Xu Ran is 16 years older than Hei Mei, and after getting married, friends often tell him,
You have to be busy with both work and home, and you will have enough to bear later.
However, Black Sister is the kind of person who thinks about each other by nature.
The husband should be at ease with the work, and he cannot let him have worries.
Therefore, for the sake of her husband's career and future, Hei Mei is willing to consciously dilute herself.
When the two were first married, they didn't even have a television set.
There is usually no entertainment activity at home, and the best way to entertain is to chat after dinner.
As Xu Ran was transferred from the actor team to the choreography and then began to create TV series, their lives gradually improved.
Watching this family gradually become more and more like, Hei Mei's heart was also very happy.
At that time, Xu Ran was very busy, and Hei Mei sometimes received various film contracts, but she became a husband many times.
Occasionally she went out to shoot a scene, and when she left, it was a few months, and everything in the family was handled by her husband.
Sometimes, she would also find time to go back to accompany him.
In this way, when the husband is out and busy, he will also squeeze out time to come home often.
The mutual understanding of the two people makes this feeling more precious.
Once, Xu Ran went out to shoot a movie, he wanted to go home, but unfortunately only the last ticket was left.
So many people were waiting, so he pleaded with everyone and asked him to go back first.
It is precisely because each other has each other in their hearts that the feelings between husband and wife have become more and more intense.
Beginning in 1996, Xu Ran began to create MTV.
At that time, shooting MTV was still a new thing, and it was very expensive.
In order to support her husband, Hei Mei took out all the family's savings and purchased post-production equipment.
It was also through her husband's efforts that the sketch "A Stamp" they produced later appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala in 1998.
Black Sister's performance also made more audiences across the country remember her at once.
The couple's career could have taken it to the next level, but fate forked in 1998.
On July 26 of that year, Hei Mei filmed the TV series "Master Fu Little Apprentice" in Beidaihe.
Husband Xu Ran, in addition to participating in the creation of disaster relief charity performances on CCTV,
It is also necessary to prepare a feature film celebrating the 40th anniversary of the founding of the Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region.
Before Hei Mei went to the location to shoot, the couple hurriedly said goodbye in Beijing.
At that time, the two people were busy with their respective work, and neither of them expected that this would be a farewell for the husband and wife.
For the next week, Hei Mei followed the crew to shoot in Beidaihe.
The two people also discussed that when Hei Mei finished filming the location scene in Beidaihe, Xu Ran could still meet before leaving for Ningxia.
On August 6, Xu Ran called Hei Mei and said that the machinery and equipment were ready, and the car departed at 12 noon.
According to the previous discussion, the black sister should have been at home this day.
Unfortunately, because of the weather, her original role was disrupted.
This morning, the train back to Beijing taken by The Black Sister was about to enter the station.
The husband's train was about to leave the station at that time.
At the moment when the train started, Xu Ran made a phone call to Hei Mei: "Honey, we can't see it anymore." ”
In this way, the couple passed by at the Beijing station.
For the next two days, Xu Ran, who had traveled a long way, just got off the bus and went to the ruins of the ancient Great Wall in Qilian Mountain without resting.
For 48 hours, Xu Ran didn't even have time to call his wife.
On the morning of the third day, the black sister still made a phone call to Xu Ran.
At that time, Xu Ran was shooting in the depths of the desert, and the signal was intermittent.
He told Hei Mei that he could finish filming today, leave for tomorrow, and tell her which car to take in the evening.
The phone was cut off.
Unbeknownst to Hei Mei, this was her last call with Xu Ran.
At that time, the black sister was still waiting for her husband to call her back at night as usual.
Because Xu Ran bought the ticket there, he must tell his wife what time he is in the car.
In the afternoon, Hei Mei also went to the shopping mall to buy a new dress.
But somehow, choosing to go, she happened to choose a black dress.
But after dinner, I waited left and right, but I didn't wait for my husband's phone.
In the past, when he went out, Xu Ran would tell Hei Mei the phone number of the hotel, but unfortunately, he did not tell his wife this time.
The more anxious the black sister waited, the more anxious she wanted to make a phone call to ask, but the phone could not be called.
Hei Mei was anxious and quickly called her husband's unit and the relevant units in Ningxia.
Unfortunately, the phone still can't be called.
When the phone in Ningxia was finally opened, Hei Mei heard a message that made her feel that the world was spinning.
Xu Ran suddenly suffered from heart disease and is being rescued in the hospital.
On the other end of the phone, he said that there was only 10% hope left, so get ready.
These words were like thunderbolts on a sunny day, and The black sister did not know what to do for a while.
At this time, CCTV had already booked her a ticket to Ningxia tomorrow.
She was in a hurry at home, and suddenly wanted to go to the Lama Temple to burn incense for her husband.
But it was already 11 o'clock at night, and the Lama Temple had already closed its doors, so who would let her in.
But she still went in a hurry, explaining her intentions, and the staff actually made an exception for her.
Holding the three-pillar incense handed to her by the staff, the black sister ran to the main hall.
She lit the incense in a panic, and then kept saying buddha blessings in her mouth...
However, she did not notice at that time, and the three-pillar incense inserted into the incense burner was quickly extinguished.
She didn't sleep all night, and at five o'clock in the morning she went to the airport accompanied by her nephew.
Her mind was a mess, and she wore a red coat to omen.
It was raining in Yinchuan that day, and the plane slowly landed to open the door.
Black Sister got off the plane, and when she saw the expression on the face of the person who came, she understood everything.
Her husband was gone, and her heavens seemed to have collapsed.
That day, Black Sister had forgotten how she had spent it.
After dealing with her husband's affairs, she herself was admitted to the hospital.
During that time, my parents accompanied the black sister day and night.
In the gray days, she could not distinguish between day and night, and sometimes she would suddenly scream to herself.
After a long time, her state slowly adjusted.
But after the sadness, it is another thought.
All her husband's belongings became her only spiritual sustenance at that time.
After returning home, the black sister began to search for all her husband's clothes.
From her shirt to her pants, to her belt and socks, she didn't let go.
Rummaging through the things, it seemed that there was still her husband's body temperature on it.
She carefully kept it, especially at night, and would take it out and stroke it.
Only when she saw these things could she feel the presence of her husband before.
At that time, the black sister also began to write a diary.
Whether it is lonely sorrow or memories of the past, she writes them all.
Reading these words repeatedly, the thought of my husband becomes increasing day by day.
But even so, the husband will never come back.
When I was alone at home, sometimes it was so quiet that I could hear the needle falling to the ground.
Occasionally, there are footsteps in the stairwell outside, or someone coughing,
She fantasized that her husband had returned.
But everything in reality does not exist, and the sound outside the door is gradually drifting away,
Just like the appearance of her husband in her mind, it is also drifting away.
Yeah, it's all drifting away.
Whether it was painful or full of longing, her relationship with her husband had come to an end.
She herself, with a new life and a long way to go.
In 2003, Hei Mei changed her name to Hei Mei.
Her acting career continues, both her own dreams and her husband's dreams.
Only on August 9 of every year, her heart will inevitably rain heavily.
Later, Hei Mei found a second period of happiness.
Life is very happy today.
Compared with the previous one, Black Sister's second marriage and relationship are very low-key.
The outside world does not know who her husband is, and the black sister herself knows,
What she needed was peace and peace.
| Nancy
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