The 19-year hit drama "Little Joy" deeply dissects the encounter of Qiao Yingzi, which hides real-life cases

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Qiao Yingzi lives in a single mother's family, and her mother's high-pressure management has gradually developed into a reclusive, depressed, sentimental girl. And how she has undergone psychological changes step by step, mainly for the following reasons, to see if there are similar situations in everyone's lives.

1. Divorced families can have an impact on their children to a greater or lesser extent. Some children's personality is relatively strong, the divorce of the family will often make children become disobedient to the key, autonomy is very strong, and the independence of these children is often very strong, if they are sensible, they are self-reliant, but if they are not strong in self-control, they will often develop a strong personality and be difficult to be accepted by others. There is also a kind of child who is softer, such as Qiao Yingzi, who has a big grin on the surface, but is actually more peaceful inside. Such children generally choose to be patient in divorced families, silently bearing negative emotions, and over time, when they suppress more emotions, they will become withdrawn.

2. The high-pressure management of a certain parent, especially Qiao Yingzi's family, her mother takes her, all her things are arranged by her mother, she has no ideas of her own, unless she thinks the same as her mother, and Qiao Yingzi's father is very fond of her, and wants to love her a little more to make up for the damage caused by the rupture of the family. And in the play, The relationship between Hideko's father and mother is very bad, and Hideko herself is the anxious connection person in the middle of the city, so two extreme loves, let her keep switching, and the natural psychology will lose balance.

3. The most concerned thing in the country - the college entrance examination, the background of this drama is around the college entrance examination, and Ying Zi is more top-notch in learning, both afraid of being caught up by the people below, but also to go up under great pressure, and the goal in her heart is only known by herself, her hobbies are only understood by herself, and she almost becomes a person fighting.

4. Comparison of good friend Fang Yifan, Fang Yifan's family is more typical of the current Chinese family, the parents' work is more stable, the parents' education method is also loose and tight, and Qiao Yingzi is compared, it is simply not too good. And another partner Ji Yangyang's mother is also a mother who makes Ying Zi think about twilight, she will say her heart to her real partner - Liu Jing, and Liu Jing is the opposite of her mother Song Qian, Liu Jing will patiently listen to her own ideas, will understand her preferences, will support herself, and will comfort herself in a comfortable way. Such a comparison of Song Qian in Ying Zi's heart far from Liu Jing, which also led to the end of Ying Zi's final outbreak with her mother.

There are many such cases in Chinese-style families, parents are divorced, and children cannot get fully balanced love from their parents from below, which can easily lead to extreme personality of children.

As a parent, you should consider it from the perspective of your child, and you can't blindly use money to love your child by meeting your child's material needs.

Children should also understand the good intentions of their parents, rather than having a mentality that as long as they make themselves awkward, they are not good parents.

Family education is a recognized social problem, which requires communication between parents and children, and needs to open their hearts, grasp problems, and solve problems. May the children and parents of the world understand each other and jointly overcome the problem of family education.