Recently, the hot search entry "Haiqing is Tong Wenjie himself" once again made everyone pay attention to Haiqing's mother identity.
Due to the two popular dramas of "Little Joy" and "Little Parting", Haiqing's mother image on the screen can be described as deeply rooted in people's hearts. In particular, when Tong Wenjie, who she played in "Little Joy", scolded her son Fang Yifan in the play, those words were like installing surveillance in many homes:
"Don't call me Mom, I'm not your mom."
"Why should I give birth to you, I have enough to eat, I should not give birth to you."
In the play, Haiqing is an anxious mother, and Fang Yifan, who has a mess of achievements, hates iron and steel.
Outside the play, Haiqing's son is the opposite of the play, and the egg girl is completely "someone else's child": excellent grades, versatile, self-discipline and self-motivated.
Outside of schoolwork, Egg Girl is good at cello and piano, and she began to learn Go in elementary school, and her calligraphy works were once used as the cover of magazines, and her paintings were also very good.
In addition to piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, egg girls also like sports, swimming competitions have won many major competitions. The most enviable thing is that he learns these things on his own, and does not need to be supervised by his parents.
In addition to these specialized skills, you will also participate in school debate competitions and write your own science fiction novels.
And especially loving, know how to be grateful. Usually, he spends some time every week tutoring his classmates, and also washes his mother's socks and T-shirts.
Because there are too many points of envy, many netizens call the egg girl "fairy child", who does not want to have such a child?
A good child is not born, and when you understand the daily life of Haiqing and her son, you will find that Haiqing is a multi-faceted mother, and it is not surprising that she can cultivate such an excellent child.
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"Wayward" mom
Adults all want to have a child who is as carefree as an egg girl, and many children must also want a "wayward" mother like Haiqing.
When Egg Girl was a child, Hai Qing once took him to participate in swimming competitions, and as a result, Egg Girl spent most of her time playing cards with other children. And Haiqing did not stop him from organizing the card game, nor did he scold him, but happily watched and took pictures by the way.
Because she can play cards with so many children in swimming competitions, egg girls are so enthusiastic about participating in competitions that he will participate in all such competitions in the future.
The memory of swimming is wonderful, and the egg girl has never given up swimming, a sport that she has practiced since childhood.
Later, she won three golds and one silver at the Asian Swimming Championships and three gold medals at the Los Angeles Swimming Championships.
When other parents are strictly guarding against their children playing games, Haiqing asked on Weibo whether a certain game was good or not, because she saw this game and wanted to play it for egg girls. Usually, she will take the initiative to choose some games suitable for children to play for the egg girl, and she will play it herself, so her son praises her.
When there is a football game, the mother and son are still watching the ball game together at two o'clock in the middle of the night.
Compared with Tong Wenjie in "Little Joy", who asks his son to put all his mind on learning and is not allowed to think about anything else, Haiqing can be described as willful.
But it is also this kind of "non-business" mother who can best become friends with her child, because the child will feel understood and needed to be met. For children, the words of "friend" can be more useful than the words of parents.
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"Lazy" mom
The mother is too capable, doing everything for the child, and the child's ability is difficult to develop.
Haiqing has cultivated his son's hands-on ability since he was a child, and he will start to let his son do some simple housework during the kindergarten period.
She doesn't use commanding methods, sometimes she is lazy, sometimes she has to use small tricks.
For example, when painting with his son, he smeared paint on each other, and the two people played crazy for a while and were very happy, and then they went to the shower to wash their clothes, at which time the children would be happy to do things by themselves.
Because of the cultivation and exercise from an early age, the egg girl is not like those pampered children, he learned to take care of himself very early.
Staying up late with my mother to watch a ball game, I will set my own alarm clock for the next day and send messages to my classmates to help me bring breakfast, because I know that my mother will not be able to get up the next day.
For actor Haiqing, filming all night is a common thing, how can it not get up in the morning? She just exercised her son in this way of showing weakness.
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Hard-working mom
When being a mother, there is a lazy side, and when being herself, Haiqing is absolutely diligent.
As an actress, Haiqing's acting skills and works have been recognized by everyone, which is inseparable from her own efforts in acting.
Because filming can not always accompany his son, so every summer vacation Haiqing will vacate two months of slots not to shoot, stay at home to accompany children.
But even if he doesn't go out to work, Haiqing will not indulge himself. She always uses every available time to read scripts, memorize lines, or read books to study.
Once, when accompanying egg girls to swimming lessons, Haiqing spent waiting time reading the script. When the son didn't want to swim over and ask Haiqing to go home, Haiqing said, "You swim a little longer, and wait for your mother to finish this paragraph." ”
She told her son with practical actions: You are learning, your mother is also growing, and we must insist.
This is the opposite of many parents.
Some parents put their minds on their children, do what should belong to their children for their children, and then ask their children to learn what adults require. If you don't learn or be self-motivated, you expect your child to get ahead. Diligence and laziness are used in the wrong place, and the effect is naturally not very good.
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Smart mom
Undoubtedly, Haiqing is a very smart mother. She knows how to influence children with her words and deeds, how to stimulate her children's potential, and how to maintain a good parent-child relationship with her children.
Once, Haiqing asked the egg girl to sleep with a correction sleeve on, because she was worried that he would breathe with his mouth when he slept. But wearing a condom was not comfortable, and the egg girl did not want to wear it, so he asked, "Why do I always have to listen to you?" ”
Most moms will probably say "because I'm your mom" or "because I'm for your own good."
Haiqing did not want to use such words to perfunctory her son, she was asked to be confused, and then said to her son especially honestly: "I haven't thought about why you want to listen to me, and when I think about it, I will reply to you." ”
Then she went to consult with many people and answered her son's question very seriously the next night:
"You are not yet an adult, we are your guardians, we are responsible for your actions, and when you grow up, you can be responsible for yourself, you can earn your own tuition, you can dress yourself and take a bath, and you don't have to listen to me." If you need my advice again when the time comes, I can give you a reference. ”
In the face of children who are always growing, the smartest thing for parents to do is to give their children love and respect, because they can receive and feedback to you love and respect.
It would be "naïve" to try to fool a child with the authority of a parent.
After reading the story of Haiqing raising her son, are you ready to become a "multi-faceted" mother like her?