The most problematic stage in love is the run-in period in the relationship.
When the freshness fades and each other's shortcomings are gradually revealed, can you still be as sweet as ever?
And the run-in period is a necessary stage for all feelings, in fact, it is not terrible.
Because only during the run-in period can we be more certain of how deep our feelings for each other really are.
Successfully through the run-in period, your emotional relationship will escalate again, if you can't get through it smoothly, then it will be a precursor to a breakup.
Master the following four points, the "run-in period" will also become a "sweet period".
First, learn to trust
Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, especially in a relationship state.
Many couples will question after the quarrel, is the other party not so much in love with me? Is there someone better than me around him?
Such thoughts are the most likely to appear in feelings, and they should not appear frequently.
Therefore, during the run-in period, we must pay attention to our own speech and behavior, do not give the other party the opportunity to misunderstand, and pay attention to ways and methods when there is a dispute.
Try to avoid emotional conflicts, start from the essence of the problem to make solutions, not only to trust each other, but also to learn to let the other party trust themselves.
After all, people's subjective judgment often comes from the behavior of the other party.
Second, empathy
When you see each other's messages during the hot love period, you always reply at the first time, and even use the habit of apologizing to the other party after the reply time is too late and explaining the reason.
Because at that time, you were very concerned about each other's feelings and thoughts, did not want to worry him, and always expressed your love to each other.
But after the love period, your names for both sides are gradually no longer full of love, and the chat words are no longer fresh and interesting.
Sometimes when I see the other party's message, I will think that there is no topic now and I will come back later.
After a long time, I forgot that I was too busy to see the phone, and I couldn't avoid a fierce quarrel.
Start complaining that the other person doesn't care and understand enough about themselves, that there is too little space, that it's too easy to fall into self-feelings, and that it's hard to consider each other's thoughts.
In fact, more mistakes, less negative emotional exchanges, from the other person's point of view, your love will have more possibilities.
Third, learn to be grateful
Lovers in the run-in period can easily take the other person's good work for granted.
Because he has been doing this for a long time, if he doesn't do it one day, he will feel that he doesn't love it.
In fact, the correct point of attention should not be "TA did not do this today, I am very angry!" ”。
It's rather "Why didn't he do this today, and did something else happen that affected his mood?" ”
Learn to look for the root cause of the problem, be able to pay attention to each other's emotions, and treat the other party's efforts as small surprises.
Don't skimp on your own praise, the praise and affirmation given by lovers is very important.
Good relationships are all about compliment, understanding, and respect.
Fourth, contradictions do not drag on
When the relationship falls into a run-in period, your state will be relatively negative, especially in the occurrence of contradictions and conflicts.
The biggest manifestation is the unwillingness to explain to the other party, always wanting to drag out the time to solve the problem.
Such a state is very dangerous, and when the contradiction accumulates to a certain extent, it will erupt and lead to a breakup.
And its trigger may be just the smallest thing in life, so don't say "Just such a small thing is going to break up, as for?" ”。
Dragging on without resolving will only drain your feelings, when the last remaining warmth is lost.
The feelings of nothingness make you experience only a cold coat, and eventually drift away.