Now the state has begun to encourage the three-child plan, and many parents are still hesitating whether to have a second child, today I will take myself as an example, to share with you my experience of having a second child!
Perhaps it is arranged by God in the dark, everything has to start from the father-in-law's serious illness in 2014, and the husband has to accompany the old father to take care of it. And because I still have to work, I have to run between my hometown in Shanghai, and at the end of the same year, my husband still failed to overcome the disease and left us. My husband's illness and death undoubtedly added a lot of pressure to a family like ours, and since then the burden of the family has fallen on my husband. Therefore, my husband chose to stay in his hometown, looking for suitable opportunities to earn income and take care of the family, so our husband and wife have been gathering less and leaving more days.
In 2015, the children are going to elementary school. The old woman has been in poor health, and she has not gone to school, coupled with the grief of her husband's death, she cannot take care of her children and husband's life. So I decided to give up my job in Shanghai and return to my hometown, and the family got together. At this point, we should have lived happily ever after, but because of this, the test of life for us has begun again.
In October of the same year, I was on a business trip, and because of the fatigue of the boat, I felt seriously unwell, and suddenly realized that my "relatives" seemed to have not come for a long time, so I went to the surrounding pharmacy to buy test paper. Yes, the question in my heart was answered, I was pregnant, Dabao was going to be a brother, at that moment, I was both happy and sad, and the joy was that the family was about to add new members, and Dabao would have a companion later. But the sad thing is that who will bring the birth of the second treasure, but also need a large amount of expenses, once the decision to give birth, it is a lifelong thing, and the current economic strength does not allow it at all. In the case of embarrassment, the husband insists on keeping the second treasure, thinking that there will be another child in the future, since we came early to report, we should not give up, plus their age is not small, if you want to do it again in the future, you may not be able to conceive. As for the financial aspect, he will try to earn money to take care of the family, don't let me worry about it, I can take care of the two children after that. After listening to my husband say this, plus I was originally shaking left and right, we finally decided to have this child.
The first time I went to the hospital for examination, the doctor gave us the result: the baby had congenital signs of miscarriage, had to stay in bed for 3 months, and prescribed a lot of fetal protection drugs. And since we decided to have this child, we must still obey the doctor's arrangement, do nothing every day, and take several fetal protection pills. Finally, when I went to the hospital after 3 months, the doctor said that the fetal position had been stabilized, and there was no need to take any more medication, as long as normal rest and regular obstetric examinations were ok. At this point, a hanging heart was finally put down slightly, and there was a specific months of obstetric examination in the middle that could not remember, that is, the kind that needed to be screened for fetal congenital malformations, because I took a lot of fetal protection pills in the early stage, so there would still be all kinds of messy thoughts in my heart. But the results did verify my idea, and the reported results were suspected to be high risk, and the need for further punctures or blood draws was not low. Due to the high accuracy of the puncture but there is still a certain risk to the fetus, so I chose to draw blood, the specific name can not be remembered, with a mixed mood finally waited for the results, fortunately the results showed that it was normal.
When I was pregnant with my eldest, I went to the hospital a total of 2 times from pregnancy to childbirth, and there was no discomfort or abnormality in the whole process. Really, the gestation of this fetus is too bad and too expensive. In the later stages, the obstetric examination found that my blood sugar exceeded the standard and needed to be adjusted according to the doctor's nutritious meal. It has reached this point, but I must not affect the children because of my physical condition, but this nutritious meal is really not cheap, so we did not listen to the doctor's advice, but at home to study the recipe, so my husband in addition to going to work to take care of the boss, but also to take care of my diet. Although it is still quite smooth, I have to admit that my heart is still quite sweet. Finally it is almost the day of birth, because the first birth is a caesarean section, so this fetal doctor recommends or take a caesarean section, if you choose a vaginal delivery, although it has been many years, there is still a certain risk, plus I will remember that when I gave birth to the boss, it was because the vaginal birth has not been painful to die and live, and finally the fetal position is not right to choose a broken abdomen, so we still choose caesarean section, do not want to recruit a second crime.
Maybe it's because of the age problem, or maybe it's because of the constitution of the second child. After this fetus was born, it was obvious that the recovery of his body was far less than before. The child was born on the third day of birth to barely get out of bed, or forced himself to endure the pain to get out of bed, until the seventh day to discharge, at this moment again hurt himself for 30 seconds.
After Erbao came to us, everyone's focus was on him. Sometimes I feel that I have neglected Dabao, and I also need to feel sorry for Dabao for 30 seconds here. Since I don't have enough milk, from the beginning of the month, the second treasure is a mixture of milk and breast milk. The husband's income is really far from enough for such family expenses, and one person earns money and a large family spends. The second treasure is the smallest, but the consumption power is the highest, every day diapers, rations, supplies, etc., the fine number can count out a basket out. After the confinement, I thought about working to earn money, otherwise my husband would not be able to raise this big son. But if you go to work, the second treasure is so small and no one to bring, so we pondered opening a store, through some investigation, consultation, and finally opened our entrepreneurial road, but the first thing to start a business must have capital capital, cobbled together, prepared 200,000 capital to join a snack shop.
At that time, when the site was selected, it did not run too far, and found a façade nearby. Or because of the lack of experience, I found out later that if I opened a store, the location is really important. The business of the store is not ideal, and it is easy to open a store and it is difficult to keep the store, a lot of things to do, to buy goods, to shop goods, to inventory, to do plans, to marketing... , one person can not take care of it at all, but also to take care of the second treasure. It took less than 2 years to open, and finally ended in failure. Carefully calculated, more than 1 year has not made money, but the family's expenses are also being consumed, coupled with the previous patchwork of funds to be returned, there is no doubt that this failed entrepreneurship has added a layer of frost to the originally stable family.
Today I will first say this, there is still too much to say about the second treasure...
Finally, if the family is not rich and there is no one to help, we must be cautious about having a second or third child...