When two people just talk about love, they both hold a strong sense of freshness for each other, appear halo effect, feel that each other is really good, and are really happy with each other, often showing the following signs:
Two people can talk about everything, often talk until very late, two people can play together, always feel that they play with each other, time flies, and have a good time; two people can always find the shining points on each other and appreciate each other; even if they show some shortcomings to each other, they can tolerate each other.
However, with the passage of time, there is no longer a halo effect between them, and they all feel very familiar with each other, together, there is nothing new, and even more, they will feel bored, there will be a sense of aesthetic fatigue.
At this time, the focus of their attention may be on their own affairs, and they may be sluggish with each other, the number of chats between two people will decrease, their differences with each other may increase, and the frequency of contradictions will increase. At this time, you may feel upset and tired, what should you do? When the opposite sex is together and upset and tired, think about these problems, and there are countermeasures.
1. What did you not do well?
After two people get along for a while, they feel that the other party has not given themselves the life they want, have not let themselves, and have not given themselves enough surprises, at this time, it is inevitable to feel disappointed.
At this time, it is easy to walk into the misunderstanding, there is a wrong perception: feel that you pay more, the other party pays less, the other party owes a lot to themselves, and they suffer losses. So I feel that I am a "victim", and I can't help but blame the other party, saying that the other party does not love himself enough, and complaining that the other party is not sensible enough.
In the feelings, too calculated gains and losses, too afraid of losses, it also appears utilitarian, usually with such a mentality to talk about love, it is difficult to take the road of love well.
It should be known that love is selfless giving, and many times, the reason why two people have contradictions and feelings become weak is because the love is not deep enough and the payment is not enough. At this time, instead of complaining that the other party does not know how to cherish, it is better to think about what they have not done well, if they have done something wrong, they should correct their mistakes, if there is a deficiency, they should make up for the deficiency, when you pay enough attention to each other and pay enough to the other party, the other party will often look in the eyes and be moved in the heart.
2. What is there about the other person that moves you?
In a relationship, the most likely mistake for people to make is: overestimate their love and dedication to each other, underestimate each other's love and dedication to themselves, at this time, the psychology may be unbalanced, breeding a lot of troubles and problems, if not solved in time, this will make the feelings of two people become worse and worse.
If you don't want to see such a result, you must correct your attitude of love, try to remain objective, and must not be too "subjective".
Feeling upset and tired, you may wish to think about the other party's efforts to yourself, you may wish to think about what the other party is doing for yourself at the moment, see what other parties have made you appreciate, and see what the other party has done that moves you. At this time, you will see the shining points on the other party, will feel the love of the other party, and feel that the other party is worth it.
3. This relationship is very hot, should I really let go?
Some love affairs, clutched tightly in the hand, are like grasping a red-hot soldering iron, very hot.
If the other party does not know how to cherish you, often say some ugly words, do some things that make you sad, and make some principled mistakes, repeatedly disappointing you.
At this point, you're really hurt, desperate, and disheartened.
At this time, it is time to re-examine the feelings between you. If you really feel hot and shouldn't insist on it anymore, please allow yourself to let go.