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The ancients were cloudy: thirty and standing, forty and not confused, fifty and knowing the destiny of heaven, sixty and obedient.
In old age, people should slowly see a lot of things, understand a lot of truths, those things that once made us feel angry, should be put down as soon as possible; those interpersonal relationships that make us feel very uncomfortable should be disconnected as soon as possible.
Only when the mentality is calm and the circle is clean, will the old age be more and more comfortable.
It's just that the more some people reach their old age, the more difficult their lives are, they don't know how to let go of themselves, and they always have a heart that can't be. Either they don't have a good relationship with their old wives and children, and they often quarrel; they either worry about their children or they are often angry.
In short, their lives are getting worse and worse, not only is their mental state not good, but even their health is deteriorating.
On the other hand, they seem to be getting smoother.
They don't worry about too many things, but they can live their own lives with peace of mind, whether they live alone or not, they can run a life very rich and fulfilling. They rarely have time to think about it, nor do they blindly compare themselves with others, but quietly and simply live their own lives.
When people are old, some people are desolate in their old age, and some people are blessed in their old age, and the key to the gap between the two lies in two words: pattern.
One: people with small patterns are easy to live screwed and tangled
From a certain point of view, how big a person's pattern is, how big the world is, because the pattern determines the angle, breadth and breadth of his vision. If the pattern is too small, even if it is a small thing, it will feel like the sky has collapsed.
On the contrary, if the pattern is large, then no matter whether the things encountered are big or small, they can calmly and calmly deal with them.
Some old people are always too worried, especially like to be nosy.
For example, to be a relative of the peacemaker, in the end to make people inside and outside; for example, always try to control their children, in the name of their own good, let them for their own arrangements, only obey their orders.
But why do you have to do this? Other people's affairs have nothing to do with themselves, and the children's affairs should be decided by himself.
The smaller a person's pattern, the more limited it is to see things.
When you live more and more screwed, your life will only get more and more difficult, but it is better to learn to let go and pay more attention to yourself.
Second: People with a big pattern know how to let go of themselves, live themselves and dashingly
The elderly should live their own wonderful, as there is a saying: every day that has not danced is a failure to live.
In this way, even in old age, we should not give up the joy of our lives and focus all our attention on the trivial matters of our children.
This is the difference brought about by the pattern, the old people with small patterns, always have a little sand in their eyes, keen to intervene in all the things that outsiders do that they are not satisfied with, because they are always looking for defects in things, so they are always worried.
The elderly with a large pattern are just the opposite, they know better that as long as they don't remember many things, they won't bother themselves. It's more important to focus yourself more on yourself and live a meaningful old age than to dwell on the little things.
Life is actually almost the same for most elderly people.
People have retired in old age, their children have all started a family, and in addition to being really idle, it seems that they can no longer find the passion for life.
But the way life looks depends on the way we look at it, and if we can't let ourselves have a big picture, then our later life will be composed of every flaw and every broken thing in life.
If we can have a big picture, then our later life may be a combination of rich social experiences and diverse travel experiences.
The difference depends only on our own mentality and thoughts.
The elderly with small patterns like to interfere with others, and at the same time, they also let their precious old age life be gradually consumed in some small things that are not enough to hang on to their teeth.
The elderly with small patterns will see the younger generation as the whole of their lives, pay more for them, and at the same time ask them to return more, give them more interference and blame.
Such a person does not know how to live for himself, and at the same time does not know how to respect the next generation, how can he have a comfortable old age.
On the contrary, those who can respect the life of their children in their old age, while also paying attention to the overall pattern of planning their own later life, will have an enviable and wonderful old age.
People are getting older, living more and more blessed, or walking the road more and more narrowly, the key lies in your pattern.
The word pattern, seemingly simple, but in fact, it is really difficult to do, which means that your vision, three views and thinking, etc., all have to slowly widen, the pattern is large, the days are not so difficult.
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