Brothers, do you have fun chasing girls? I'm talking about heartfelt happiness, not self-consolation. Most boys originally wanted to find a beloved girl to talk about a sweet love to alleviate loneliness, but who knew that chasing and talking, but they made themselves depressed.
So why is this happening? The root cause is not the girl or the environment, but yourself, yourself. Reason tells you not to kneel and lick each other, but desire and inner emptiness force you to move forward, just like you stomp on the accelerator and the brakes with one foot.
So today I will share 5 ways to solve self-internal friction, I hope that all brothers can face life and love with a better attitude. I know that many boys will often short-circuit the brain in the face of the girls they like, do not know how to attract girls, if the brothers really can't find a way, then you come to my public number: Wang Baiyi, give you a high emotional intelligence strategy, hand in hand to teach you to read the subtext of girls, easily hold their careful thoughts.
Next, go straight to the main topic:
1, be aware of your own thoughts and emotions, face it and optimize it
People are like a mobile phone, the brain is a background program that cannot be closed, every moment is creating a variety of ideas, good ideas are patches, can help us improve the performance of the phone, and bad ideas are BUG, if you do not optimize, deal with these BUGs, then it will invisibly consume, occupy a lot of our energy and memory, and even cause damage to the phone.
Therefore, we have to examine ourselves from time to time, talk to our hearts, face these negative emotions and ideas, you can only solve and optimize it by being aware of it, the more you optimize and eliminate, the more memory will become more, the running speed will naturally become faster, the battery will naturally be more durable, and the spirit will naturally be better.
2, from passive life, to active life
Now most single young people have such a thought: make enough money and financial freedom, I can enjoy life and love. This is actually a common kind of thinking distorted by jealousy, inferiority, and inward volume, but you have to know that if you don't enjoy life and enjoy love, then you have no motivation to persevere, you will doubt your behavior, and then fall into a dilemma. But being born as human beings, every moment we live, we should embrace life.
3, improve the latitude, find what you really want
When you struggle and work hard for your dreams and what you want, you will not feel tired and bored. So, if you feel tired of being in love and tired of living, then it's definitely not what you really need, or you're looking in the wrong direction and ignoring something. When you find your dreams, your life goals that you want to achieve, your reasons to get up early, the tiredness is also sweet.
4. Break away
I don't want to let go of anything, I want to pursue everything, and even the most powerful people have limits, let alone us ordinary people. When you carry more weight than you can bear, tiredness and self-doubt are very normal, so you must know how to rank your desires, know how to choose, the less you want, then your time and energy will naturally not be scattered.
5. Enrich your life
Arrange all the time and energy, most of the reasons why people will consume internally is that they are too idle, thinking wildly all day, thinking more and more chaotically, and then consuming a lot of mental energy in the chaos. You want to chase this girl, no problem, take action, use all your time, such as one-third of the time to accompany the girl, take her out to play, one-third of the time to improve yourself, one-third of the time to enjoy life. In short, don't let yourself idle and think wildly, it is better to be tired than tired.