The boy took the initiative to meet Zhou Ke and have dinner on the weekend. For this blind date, Zhou Ke also asked her friends to accompany her to buy new clothes. She hopes to make a good impression on the other person. After meeting, the two men liked each other. The boy was very gentlemanly and very generous. After dinner, the boy also took Zhou Ke around the nearby shopping mall and bought perfume for her. Although they were introduced by relatives, they did not know each other before, so Zhou Ke believed that they should not accept gifts casually. But if you directly refuse, it seems that you are telling the other party that you are not interested in him, so she accepts, but the next day, Zhou Ke bought a pair of men's sunglasses and returned them to the other party. After a period of contact, we have a deeper understanding of each other. Zhou Ke can see from each other's words that he is a person who is very focused on his feelings and has plans for the future. The two were relatively close to each other's goals, and there was a feeling of hating late meetings
Zhou Ke already had a sense of trust in him. For this reason, she didn't think much of it, so she told the other person how she had felt in the past. But unexpectedly, his attitude changed completely
He looked at Zhou Ke in disgust, and he said angrily:
"You lived with your ex for five years. Why didn't you tell me sooner? I am a very traditional man and cannot accept my significant other living together. I just want to find an honest and kind girl to marry and have children. I wouldn't marry a girl like you. I'd better not waste each other's time and not see each other again in the future. The boy turned around and left Zhou Ke alone in the restaurant. At the time, she felt as if she had been slapped. She was dizzy and slow for a long time
That night, Zhou Ke drove home alone
On the way home, she found it funny. It never occurred to her that at 30 she would not only not marry the person she loved, but would now even be rejected on a blind date. Luckily, she told the boys in advance about her past. If we're really together and we've put in the feelings and then we have to separate, we'll be hurt again
Zhou Ke disagreed with the marriage concept of blind dates. After all, she was 30 years old. There would always be someone pursuing her before she met him. We are all mortal. When we are young and ignorant, we crave love. Some boys can't accept their partner's past, believing that cohabiting girls are unclean and restless. But a girl's personality cannot be judged by whether she lives with her boyfriend or not. Moreover, everyone has a different view of feelings. There's no right or wrong, just different. Whether two people are healthy depends on whether their three views are the same. If they have different views on marriage and love, they will eventually part ways and go further and further. From this point of view, it is normal that Zhou Ke and his blind date cannot reach an agreement Zhou Ke's emotional experience also reminds all girls: "No matter how much you love a man, you must be more cautious before you plan to move in together." Don't be influenced by feelings and make the right decision rationally. Until we get married, we can't guarantee how long our love will last. Without full faith, don't live together easily. It's also about better protecting ourselves. If we break up, we may not meet three people with the same views in the future
Liu Yong wrote in "How Much Love You Can Have in Your Life": "Mature people don't ask about the past, and enlightened people don't ask about the future." "In relationships, if they meet because of fate, they should focus more on the future than on the past. As actor Chen Xiaochun said, "If you really love someone, don't care about her past." "But not everyone can meet such a request
Because the environment of growth is different, the concept of marriage set in the heart is also different
And two people together, not only love is enough, but also need to see if it is appropriate. Whether personalities complement each other, whether the three views are consistent, and so on. Although today's society has diversified, some inherent ideas have been deeply rooted in people's minds. Some men still can't accept that their girlfriends have a history of relationships. To this end, I would like to remind more girls: in the past, we had to learn to protect ourselves. If you're not the right person, don't give yourself over to the other person easily. Everyone will give their all in love, but to avoid hurt, please love rationally
Girls who have been in love don't have to feel remorse for it. You also have the right to pursue your own happiness again. There is no need to deny yourself because of a failed blind date
As long as you always believe in love, one day, someone will come to you from the vast sea of people and never leave again. He won't chase your past, but will hold your hand and try to create your future.