Whether it is love or marriage, the deeper the love, the deeper it will hurt. If the love of two people is not equal and equal, then sooner or later, the stability of the marriage will be lost because of unbalanced love. In marriage, women must always remember to firmly guard their four hole cards.
/ Don't lose yourself and give up your faith /
Good love and marriage are not to lose themselves and give up on themselves in order to accommodate each other, but to love each other and make themselves better. The best state of marriage is that two people grow up together in marriage and meet a better self. If you lose yourself and give up your faith because of love and marriage, it is very likely that you will not be able to walk together because of undignified and too aggrieved love.
At all times, women have to learn self-love. If you don't even love yourself, then don't expect anyone to love you. Too many stupid women always lose themselves in marriage, blindly wronged themselves, abandon their original principles and beliefs, and accommodate men who are inching forward, but in the end they just eat their own consequences. Spoil bad men, but also spoil themselves.
/ Don't lose friends, let friendships serve as a backup /
Even if you become a family and have your own family life, you must not give up on your friends. When you have troubles in your married life and need to be temporarily withdrawn, friends will always be your most solid backup. But unfortunately, many people always gradually alienate friends after starting a family and getting married. Especially married women, often after becoming a mother, the whole life is around the child and parents, lovers, estranged from the once close friends.
If a person, in addition to his family, has no other object to talk about, then life lacks a lot of fun. In leisure time, about three or two friends, drink tea and nag together, talk about what you can't usually say to your family, listen to the fresh news of friends, and go shopping with friends to do what you like, such a life is colorful and interesting.
/ Don't ignore the image and keep your own unique charm /
After all, it is still a face-watching society. Those who say that they only value the beauty of the soul are mostly hypocritical. Because most people are like this - appearance and appearance, directly decide whether to continue to look at a person's heart; and how a person's heart is, in turn, decide whether to continue to care about his appearance. So, appearance and image always seem to be a prerequisite for a person to be attractive.
People are visual animals, and in all fairness, people with good image and temperament are always more pleasing and eye-catching. This applies equally to both men and women. In marriage, women must not ignore their own image, sloppy women are often easily rejected and betrayed. Maintain a delicate, clean appearance, and maintain your own unique charm, in order to make a woman beautiful all the time.
/ Don't lose your financial freedom and stay sober and independent /
A few days ago, I saw a news and burst the circle of friends, saying that a mother jumped off a building with her two children. The reasons are very complicated, but according to the mother's suicide note, a very important point is that the mother gave up her annual salary of 100,000 yuan in order to take care of the children, but in the end it was the in-laws who hated her to eat and be lazy, and her husband also thought that he was alone to earn money to support the family, so he was arrogant and domineering.
There are too many such cruel true stories. Before marriage, the man always swore to the woman that you don't have to work, I will support you; but after marriage, the woman really became a full-time wife because she had to take care of the children and the family, but most of them did not get the good looks of the man and the in-laws. Financial freedom after marriage is too important for women, and only when women have economic freedom and maintain sober independence can they live freely and without looking at people's faces.
Marriage is part of a woman's life, but not all. No matter how good the marriage, it also needs to have a minimum bottom line. Remember to guard your bottom line, so that when love is not there one day, although it will still hurt, it will not lose everything, and the heart will be like ashes. These four hole cards, remember to guard at all times.
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