American singer Billie Eilish blew herself up with a shocking message in an interview:
"Since I was 11 years old, I have been looking for 'films' on the Internet to watch..."
"Too early, too much exposure to this erotic product destroyed my brain..."
（“IthinkitreallydestroyedmybrainandIfeelincrediblydevastatedthatIwasexposedtosomuchpXXn.” ）
I talk about this topic because in The New Album HappyErThanEver, there is a song called "Male Fantasy MaleFantasy" that mentions it.
In the lyrics, she wrote:
"When alone at home... Distract yourself with eroticism... This pleasure exists only in male fantasies. ”
"I'm going to continue to be treated by a psychiatrist..."
When the host asked about this topic, Bi Li, who was about to turn 20, took the initiative to share her experience for the first time.
"I now feel it's a shame to watch se love products. But I've seen a lot of these films and started to be exposed to them since I was 11 years old. ”
"But these emotions really destroyed my brain and distorted my view of the relationship."
Adolescents are naturally curious about sex, and after the first contact with sex products, she begins to watch a lot, and it is inevitable that she will be exposed to products involving coercion, abuse and violence.
"At the time, I thought it was cool to be someone who could accept heavy tastes and was willing to talk about them."
"After reaching a certain level, the taste gradually became heavier. Films that don't have a violent component can no longer attract me. ”
These heavy tastes and abusive films even caused Pear to develop night terrors and sleep paralysis, which are still suffering from it to this day.
At that time, As a teenager, Bi Li did not realize that there was something wrong with this.
"My mom was terrified when she found out, but I didn't understand why that was a bad thing – I think that's how everyone understands."
The rendering in the se love product even affects her understanding of intimate relationships and sexual consent.
She feels like a taste-hardener, so she deserves to like to be treated roughly: "So in the first few relationships, I never said no to the 'bad things', I thought those were the things I should be attracted to. ”
Only now, when I go back to look at the experience at that time, I will realize the problems in these se love products.
Sex products are not a substitute for sex education, in the final analysis, it is a commodity.
In order to stimulate people's senses, it creates a 'sex' that is very different from reality and exists only in fantasy.
But for children, if all sex education is obtained from se products, it is bound to affect their understanding of "normal sexual behavior".
Now, there are many products aimed at children, deliberately "sexualized".
They subtly affect children's perception of sex.
For example, children's toys that deliberately highlight sexual characteristics, juvenile dolls that can get pregnant, and even toys that giggle when they touch the genital organs.
For example, depicting a child cult that implies that popular characters are abused, or although it is a children's film, it sets the protagonist as "Uncle Ding".
At a young age, children may simply feel curious about these over-sexualized products and not realize what they represent.
But when they finally came into contact with 'sex' and saw the se love product, everything was explained.
It doesn't require them to deliberately look for it – just plain web surfing, there will be a lot of small pop-up ads that will tempt people to click.
According to a survey by the National Society for the Prevention of Child Abuse in the UK, 94% of adolescents have been exposed to se-content before the age of 14.
Even among children aged 11-12, 28% have seen se products.
Compared to 20 years ago, se love products are now widely available, completely anonymous, extremely cheap or even free, and there is an unlimited supply of any 'taste'.
As a result, this also creates more problems.
In order to increase traffic, the commercial SE industry must exaggerate the content in se products to make it more frequent, more extreme, and more dangerous.
In se-love products, depictions of violent coercion and involuntary content, and discrimination against women, are very common.
Adults know that this is incorrect and unrealistic, but for children who have not received formal sex education, as the only channel of understanding, what they see is "normal".
53% of boys and 39% of girls believe that real-life sex is the same as in love movies.
Another third of boys aged 13-14 said they wanted to mimic what they saw online in reality.
But in the se love products, there are not only ordinary films, but also heavy mouths that are too bloody and violent.
Some even go so far that even adults feel uncomfortable when they see it, and they have nightmares when they look at the past.
However, they were accepted by the children.
Cornell University Psychiatric Professor Cohen believes: "For young children, exposure to these can make their impressions of sex very distorted and inaccurate, which is not conducive to their handling of intimate relationships and the correct treatment of the opposite sex." ”
"The younger the exposure, the greater the harm it may be."
If the network se love product is used as a sex education enlightenment, it is likely to have a worse impact.
This is not to say that se-content directly leads to sexual assault, violence, or other bad things.
Rather, it will allow people to "normalize" things that should otherwise be valued.
Especially children who have certain psychological problems themselves are likely to accelerate the development of problems when exposed to extremely distorted se products.
Se love products are not flood beasts, but if children are exposed too early, they are likely to have adverse effects.
Only now, it is obviously impractical to completely eliminate se products.
The information on the Internet is within reach, and no parent can let their children live in a 'sterile' environment forever until a truly useful grading system is achieved.
The only thing that can be done is to keep up with sex education at the same time.
Parents cannot hope that the Internet will become a "pure land", but they can actively communicate with their children to avoid the harm caused by it.
With regard to se products, the British Anti-Child Abuse Association recommends:
1. Reassure children that it is natural to be curious about sex and that they can talk to their parents at any time.
2. Talk to your child about the differences between healthy intimate relationships and se love products in reality, and guide them to build good relationships.
3. Explain that these products are "performances", so many things are exaggerated artistic techniques, not real.
I also hope that all children can grow up healthily...