It can be set as a star
I remember talking about a friend before, she and her boyfriend who was in high school finally broke up after two years in college.
From her point of view, it was a failed relationship experience because the boyfriend cheated, but it can't be said to be completely useless.
Before they broke up, it seemed to the onlookers that she liked him a lot. Otherwise you wouldn't get up early and go to bed late to spend so much time on transportation just to see each other. Even though sometimes she hurried to his school, the other party replied in the chat box that she had not yet gotten up.
She felt that she had a big temper, but she came and went quickly, so after a few days she returned to her old ways.
Repeated several times, I couldn't help but ask her, since she was angry, why didn't she let him change it? Why not break up? Things are not getting better.
She replied to me that her boyfriend's family relationship was strained. He has almost no feelings for his family, no parents who are booing and asking for warmth, more contradictions and quarrels, and he has always lacked affection and love.
"What does that have to do with you like this?"
"Therefore, love is salvation for him."
I don't remember if I laughed out loud.
When I was very young, I looked at the small era, and at that time I still thought it made a lot of sense.
In order to give the new word to force the sad age, watching Nan Xiang and XiCheng dog blood to the sparse love, it is like opening the door to a new world.
From the model couple that everyone envies, to the model of dog blood and tatters, it began with Xi Cheng's mother committing suicide due to depression, and Xi Cheng fell.
A boyfriend who self-exiled because of family upheavals, scolds Nanxiang, so that the family itself is not happy Nanxiang experience is abandoned, betrayed, pregnant, abortion, but she has not been able to really leave him for many years.
Because in her heart, "The death of Xi Cheng's mother has changed a lot for him." For Xicheng, who has become dispossessed and closed himself, he is his last reliance, and he will still love him even if he is unrecognizable.
Before me: Nan Xiang is so stupid, hurry up and leave the scumbag.
Now I am: respect, blessing.
Her existence can be Xicheng's wallet, it can be Xicheng's venting object, and it can also be Xicheng's tool to find a sense of existence, but it must not be Xicheng's salvation.
Does a man who takes from others in the name of losing too much really need what you call redemption?
There's a saying that goes, "You'll never be able to wake up a person pretending to be asleep." ”
A man who is whitewashed by pain and vulnerability, if he can calmly hurt the person who loves him, it will not change the fact that he is a completely rotten person.
They don't need you to pay much to redeem, and the one who gets that plausible "sense of redemption" from this relationship is Nan Xiang, my friend.
They thought to themselves: Look, how much he needs me, if I am not there, he must not be able to live well. And what will happen to themselves, they have never thought about.
Love is never the salvation of a chaotic life. Women seem to be born prone to maternal flooding, and want to play the role of the domineering president of the world with a sense of gentle optimism in the novel, but the reality is not a novel, nor a game, it is not possible to complete the task by moving the mouse and keyboard, and it is impossible to hide the encounter and heartache between the lines, which is light and simple.
Today I don't want to explore how to "save" a rotten person, but to tell those who are about to fall into the pit of rotten people.
A person who is truly worthy of love will not turn his vulnerability into a weapon to hurt his lover, but will cultivate it into armor.
Because I have been raining, I want to make umbrellas for others.
I have watched an emotional show before to deal with similar problems, and the experts there have an opinion on girls who encounter this situation:
Stop, stop, please hurry up and leave.
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