Text: Nan Xiang
Dictation: Nan Xiang's cousin
Married for six years, there are two daughters, the eldest daughter is 5 years old this year, the kindergarten class, the second daughter is three and a half years old this year, the kindergarten small class, when the second child was born, the knife hurt, vowed never to have a child again, but when the child grew up slowly, I was also a little better Scar forgot the pain, wanted to fight a third child, I thought, if the third child can have a brother, so that I can also buy some boy things.
Usually when playing in the village, most of the topics discussed by everyone are also related to children: who has two girls in our village, who has three girls, and we have few children in our village! Although they did not directly say that people were extinct, they were full of contempt!
Maybe I was also at the scene of the reason, they advised me, the girl is a cotton jacket, the girl is more good! You look at your mother-in-law, who gave birth to six girls, and only then did you have your husband, how good it is now! Today this girl will give two hundred yuan to relatives, tomorrow the girl will buy clothes, and the day after tomorrow there will be another girl to buy a gold necklace!
They obviously say that it is good to have a girlfriend, but they are the ones who have the most sons, alas, the hearts of the people!
Listening to her mother-in-law, she used to be ridiculed and white-eyed by others because she had given birth to too many girls, until she gave birth to a son and blocked the mouths of some long-tongued women! The mother-in-law said that in the countryside, the old traditional thinking, if you don't give birth to a boy, the incense in the family will be broken, and you will be scolded by others as a "no-family"!
I have two daughters now, in fact, I also want to have a boy, but I will not despise my daughter because I have a boy, if there are boys and girls in the family, I can be a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law at the same time.
There are many women in the village who have found a lot of folk remedies for giving birth to boys, all kinds, some as desired, some as desired, and whether the women who gave birth to boys in the end are because they used home remedies to get their wishes, this can not be confirmed.
I asked a few village boys, there are also accurate, there are also inaccurate, I just inquired, but some long-tongued women said that I want to follow my mother-in-law's old road, do not give birth to a son do not stop, plus the mother-in-law on my husband a son, and even some people said, I secretly flowed two in order to have a son, my God, it is really fearful!
The mother-in-law probably heard such a rumor, and the mother-in-law who had suffered in this regard said, Before, I didn't give birth to a boy, I couldn't pass the hurdle in my heart, if you can not care about other people's statements, what you give birth to I and your father have no opinion!
I thought that my mother-in-law would persuade me to have a boy and continue the incense for their family, but my mother-in-law did not, and my mother-in-law said that the cost of raising children is high now, and the pressure on your young people is great, don't care about boys and girls, be healthy and healthy!
Yes, our parents' generation, most of the children born are many, at that time, they are living in the countryside, self-sufficiency, less consumption, but to our 80s and 90s generation, most of them work and live in the city, and even settle down to buy a car and buy a house, in the city, everywhere need to use money, no money is difficult to move!
I told my husband the idea of having a boy with three children, I also looked up a lot of ways to give birth to boys on the Internet, and also went to see an old Chinese medicine doctor, I said to the old Chinese medicine doctor, I want to adjust the body to give birth to a boy, the old Chinese medicine said, give birth to boys and girls to go with nature, if you have to adjust, I give you some Chinese medicine to replenish qi and blood, raise the body well, the child will be good!
Husband said, you think about it yourself, let you have another child, this fetus, regardless of boys and girls, you are not allowed to mention to me about having another child in the future, now the two children are about to bend my waist, haha, in fact, I like children a little more.
Now, my third child has been more than three months, and my first two pregnancies have similar symptoms, a friend advised me, go to the small hospital to check the gender, in case it is still a girlfriend, you have a miscarriage is still too late, well, maybe now everyone thinks that I have two girls, and the third child is to have a son.
If I say, I just like to have more children at home, and I will take care of them in the future, boys or girls, I will want it, I guess others don't believe it!