Don't panic easily at your child

Three-year-old children have learned a lot of things, although occasionally they will play small, but if the parents can be patient and reasonable, in most cases he will cooperate. In order to save trouble, some parents use lies to divert their attention when their children are playing with sex or making unreasonable trouble, and then completely regard the words they have said and promised as child's play and go against the grain. Over time, parents lose credibility in front of their children, and children may also develop the habit of lying.

The three-year-old girl already knows what deception is, but recently this "deception" word has frequently come out of her mouth, which still surprises me a lot. On the weekend, the girl played happily in the community, saw the cooking point, she did not have the meaning to leave, called several times were rejected by her, the day is getting late, a hurry, the most convenient and effective trick "as long as you go home, your mother will let you see the bald head strong." "'Bear Haunting' is the girl's favorite cartoon, never tired of watching, as long as she is allowed to watch, she will generally agree to any request she makes. This trick really worked, and the girl obediently returned home. When I got home, I went into the kitchen to prepare to cook, and I didn't mention the matter of looking at the bald head, and the girlfriend saw that I didn't look for the bald head strong, and came over and asked: "Mom, why don't you find me a bald head strong when I go home?" "I had to reason with her" Just looking at the computer is not good for the eyes, didn't we say that we would only watch one episode a day?" Before, she was told that she was generally acceptable, but this time she was not so confused, and loudly said, "Mom, you lied to me again!" "As soon as I heard this, I woke up suddenly, usually teaching children not to let her lie, but I have done the worst example, even if I don't want her to watch cartoons, I shouldn't have mentioned it in the first place, since I said it, I should do it." So I changed my tone, "Mom didn't lie to you, Mom is busy, I'll find you right away." In the end, the child saw that the bald head was strong, and the mother did not become a "liar".

We always think that the child is still young, and it doesn't matter if we cheat on her occasionally, it will be good to grow up, who knows that such a young child has a deep impression of cheating. The girl's grandparents treated her as a baby bump, could not see her crying, could not see her sick, and responded to her needs. On the issue of whether to eat medicine or not to inject after the child is sick, my father and I have always insisted on not eating or not eating, not to mention the problem of injections, while grandparents insist that the child cannot be guilty, in case of sequelae problems, as long as the child has any symptoms, he wants to give her medicine, we have always insisted on our own views, fortunately, the child has been more resistant. For a while, the child lived with his grandparents in his hometown, and when he returned, his father occasionally asked, "Have you ever had an injection at your grandparents?" "Hit it once." "Why?" "I had a runny nose and didn't take my medicine well, so Grandma took me for an injection." "How did I not know?" "Grandma won't let me tell you, Dad, you've been cheated on again." The child's unintentional words, but let the parents fall into contemplation, the little children already know what is called "deception", and also know how to deceive, is there a problem with our education?

Children do not understand what is cheating, some of our adult behaviors let her slowly know what is cheating, and appreciate the benefits of cheating. For example, if you steal ice cream but say you haven't eaten it, you can avoid being criticized; if you don't read a book and say you read it, you may be praised. These are all confirmed by their parents at that point, parents use lies to deceive them, they also learn to deceive parents, when they are young, parents feel that it does not matter, and even feel cute, so young to understand. Slowly as she grew older, she could tell more and more lies, and when it got bigger and bigger, her parents regretted it later.

Parents want to let their children become a kind of person, first of all, what kind of person they should be, the child's ability to imitate beyond imagination, in order to let the child become a responsible, honest person, parents should do it themselves first, do their own good first, and then educate their children. Don't lie to your children easily, they really understand.

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