Some people can fight for love, and some people break into the siege for happiness, but they ignore a reality, even the most beautiful flowers have moments of withering, and even the most beautiful colors will have faded days.
Many people are ashamed to talk about "sex", because a woman who hangs "sex" on her lips in the worldly concept will definitely not be a good thing. There is a saying on the Internet: "It is not necessarily a bad girl who often lingers in a bar, but a girl with a good tutor will not go to a mixed bar." ”
There are many people in life who are particularly "double standard", they vigorously advocate that married women "sex" should be virtuous and virtuous in public, but behind the scenes, they hope to have a sexual encounter with "sexual" girls, and run their own journeys after a night of clouds and rain.
Even though it is now the 21st century, female "sex" is fully capable of supporting half the sky, but it is still in a subordinate position in family life. They not only have to work to earn money but also have to take care of their families, and even if they are exhausted, they can only swallow their anger.
Many times I can't help but ask: What does marriage really give to women?
Chang Li (not her real name) is a Chinese teacher at a school, and although she has been married for 7 years this year, she still has no children of her own. In-laws, mother-in-law's family, friends, and colleagues all urged her to "create people" quickly, otherwise she would become an elderly mother.
But only Chang Li herself understood that it was not that she did not want to have a cute and lively baby, but that she did not even have a normal married life in the years after marriage. She recognized this fact as early as her wedding night.
At first she thought that maybe it was just that her husband was too nervous, but a year after marriage she was completely sober, for a normal woman, although the purpose of marriage is not for "sex", but sexless marriage is really sad.
Chang Li has also talked to her husband many times, hoping that the two people can divorce calmly, but looking at her tearful and kneeling husband, her heart has softened again and again, and finally this asexual marriage lasted for 7 years.
As a woman with a moral bottom line, she will certainly not cheat for this kind of thing, but she feels very tormented when facing her husband, and she also told her in-laws and her parents about this matter, but the old people on both sides are surprisingly consistent, and they do not want their two children to divorce.
Under the torture of this asexual marriage, Chang Li's emotions became crazy, she often quarreled with her husband because of some inconspicuous small things, and her husband, who had always been weak, became more and more indifferent, which made Chang Li feel that the sky had fallen.
Since both parents and husbands did not agree to divorce, Chang Li could only swallow her anger for the sake of face, but she herself knew best that she could not continue to live well with her husband, because she was a woman with normal needs.
In this kind of marriage that cannot be separated and has had a bad life, Chang Li has become the biggest victim, and she cannot confide in anyone about her grievances, because it will make people feel that she is and frivolous.
Even if people don't say it in their mouths, they will think: Isn't it impossible to live a married life? What's the big deal, as long as two people have a good relationship, it doesn't matter if there is one or not. These habitual "double standard" people will never put themselves in Changli's shoes to consider problems.
After all, they have not encountered a sexless marriage, so they can not understand Chang Li's bitterness, so Chang Li has changed from a young woman in her twenties to a nearly middle-aged woman, and she no longer wants extravagant life in the future, only hoping to divorce her husband and then have a child of her own.
Conclusion
Life is sometimes like a spice box, if the oil, salt, sauce and vinegar are all overturned together, it must be more than just five flavors and miscellaneous. Everyone has a different life and life experience, if you always use a "double standard" attitude to look at others, then it is bound to affect your own judgment. For people who are sexless married, perhaps what they desire is not sex, but a sense of happiness brought about by sex.